the sleep issue

Turtle143

again!!

Before Liv was 1 year old, we tried Ferber and worked for a few weeks, then we had some set backs, teething, out of town and we've been back to rocking since then. 

She's almost 20 months now and I think it's time to really work on it. The problem is that she is louder now and the cries are more heartbreaking. But I might try it again.

Anyone else still rocking their toddlers for naps and bedtime? 

ishka338

I do.    I'm guess it's not really rocking, per se, but I do hold him or lay with him in our bed until he's asleep and then move him to the crib.  Most of the time for naps he comes and sits in my lap and will fall asleep in a few minutes, but for bedtime, he seems to take forever most days and it's really taking a toll on me at night, especially being 8 months pregnant.  I would love to get him to go to sleep on his own, even if only for bedtime.  I know it won't get easier when he goes to a big bed, so if someone has any suggestions, I'm here too with open eyes.  I've always felt like he wouldn't be little for long, but now I know things are about to change and I just don't think that mentality will work for us much longer.

Good luck to you!

germanpickle

We are! Proudly and with pleasure in my heart. Seriously.

Our little ones are growing so quickly and I can't believe how quickly he is moving away from being anything close to a baby - so I'm enjoying the singular time of the day that I can hold him! My husband too. We were both talking about this recently and said we know the days are almost numbered because the rest of the day, our little guy has "time" for MAYBE a kiss here and a hug there.

 And after the massacre in Newtown, so many of the parents who spoke to the media said they wish they could just hold their babies again. I think about them and how lucky I am.

 Yea, so to answer your question: we do!

Marcilene1

We don't rock, but only because she has decided that she doesn't want it anymore   we lay with her until she falls asleep.  She sleeps in bed with us, but we are hoping to get her back into her bed soon.  Our little guy sleeps great and on his own in his own room, but he is still in the swing (at 8 months).  I know, I know.  Very bad.  Oh well.  Hey, whatever gets us sleep.  We are desperate lol.

Also, hi   missed you guys

kenyakeetah

We snuggle for naps and bed time, if he doesn't fall asleep when dad reads to him his bedtime stories then he has boob unfilled he falls asleep. We still semi cosleep at night when he wakes up after 4am to have him sleep in longer and honestly we both like the snuggles. 

He won't want them forever so I take them as I can nothing melts my heart more than when he falls asleep in my arms

Turtle143

kenyakeetah:

We snuggle for naps and bed time, if he doesn't fall asleep when dad reads to him his bedtime stories then he has boob unfilled he falls asleep. We still semi cosleep at night when he wakes up after 4am to have him sleep in longer and honestly we both like the snuggles. 

He won't want them forever so I take them as I can nothing melts my heart more than when he falls asleep in my arms

 I love to snuggle as well but one the big issues we have is that co-sleeping does not work for us either. When I'm exhausted at the end of the day, or when she wakes in the middle of the night, we would bring her in the bed with DH and I but she doesn't fall asleep.  She'd be crying or crawling or these days walking and jumping all over us. I wish we had co-sleeping as a last resort/option but that has never worked for us, unless we count her newborn stages or the one time when we was really sick and had no energy.

Turtle143

ishka338:

I do.    I'm guess it's not really rocking, per se, but I do hold him or lay with him in our bed until he's asleep and then move him to the crib.  Most of the time for naps he comes and sits in my lap and will fall asleep in a few minutes, but for bedtime, he seems to take forever most days and it's really taking a toll on me at night, especially being 8 months pregnant.  I would love to get him to go to sleep on his own, even if only for bedtime.  I know it won't get easier when he goes to a big bed, so if someone has any suggestions, I'm here too with open eyes.  I've always felt like he wouldn't be little for long, but now I know things are about to change and I just don't think that mentality will work for us much longer.

Good luck to you!

This is one of my fears and honestly one of the reasons I haven't really agreed to TTC again! I'm afraid of how I'd manage her sleep when my belly is big and I can't comfortably hold her anymore. But I'm not pregnant yet and you are so I'm sorry it's been tough for you. I feel like I shouldn't complain now.  Hang in there and hopefully the sleep things just work itself out for all of us, right? 

 

Turtle143

chrismo1013:

We don't rock, but only because she has decided that she doesn't want it anymore   we lay with her until she falls asleep.  She sleeps in bed with us, but we are hoping to get her back into her bed soon.  Our little guy sleeps great and on his own in his own room, but he is still in the swing (at 8 months).  I know, I know.  Very bad.  Oh well.  Hey, whatever gets us sleep.  We are desperate lol.

Also, hi   missed you guys

 

OMG! I can't believe he is 8 months now! You are such a hard working mom! lol Seriously, DH and I are like....we won't mind if she sleeps in bed with us....just freakin' go to sleep and let us get some sleep!! lol

 

MommaG123

We rock but not until she's all the way to sleep.  We rock with her while we sing one quick song and then we lay her down in her crib and tell her to go night night.  Some nights/naps she stays laying down and goes down well and sometimes she pops right up and starts reaching for us and crying but she usually settles down in less than five minutes.

Marcilene1

Turtle143:

chrismo1013:

We don't rock, but only because she has decided that she doesn't want it anymore   we lay with her until she falls asleep.  She sleeps in bed with us, but we are hoping to get her back into her bed soon.  Our little guy sleeps great and on his own in his own room, but he is still in the swing (at 8 months).  I know, I know.  Very bad.  Oh well.  Hey, whatever gets us sleep.  We are desperate lol.

Also, hi   missed you guys

OMG! I can't believe he is 8 months now! You are such a hard working mom! lol Seriously, DH and I are like....we won't mind if she sleeps in bed with us....just freakin' go to sleep and let us get some sleep!! lol

Yup.  Time flies when you're losing your mind with two babies lol.  Yeah, I've come to fuss less and less about where and how my kids go to sleep.  Let's just get enough sleep while we can however we can and know that this is a very short phase in our children's lives.

AuburnGirl20062009

We are rocking currently. However we are going to be moving into a new place soon and MG is gonna be getting a big girl bed and we are going to try to transition her into falling asleep with out us and also sleeping in her own bed. Flame if you must but we STILL co-sleep.

lbursey

We used to rock (and I LOVED doing it) but then LO would keep waking up and expect to be rocked again and again and again.  

We've also co-slept (by co-sleeping I mean bringing him to our bed at 3:00am when he wakes up screaming) which also didn't work because then he would wake on purpose to come into our bed.

We broke both habits with some fussing so now we're back to no rocking (but I miss it).  I would keep doing it if it didn't result in him waking up 3+ times per night. 

Turtle143

lbursey:

We used to rock (and I LOVED doing it) but then LO would keep waking up and expect to be rocked again and again and again.  

We've also co-slept (by co-sleeping I mean bringing him to our bed at 3:00am when he wakes up screaming) which also didn't work because then he would wake on purpose to come into our bed.

We broke both habits with some fussing so now we're back to no rocking (but I miss it).  I would keep doing it if it didn't result in him waking up 3+ times per night. 

 I would also keep rocking if it didn't mean middle of the night waking/screaming for us when she wakes up then and find herself alone. 

What did you do to break the habits though? Care to share which method?

kimbo1216

We also did a ferber-like sleep training method.  When we had set-backs like you mentioned, we just went back to our old methods.  When we've done this, the problem was solved after one night and it was so much easier than the first time.

My rec would be to go back to it and if you have set-backs, go back to those same methods.  Regressing to what you did pre-ST will only make it harder, imo.