Ok, I know there have been other questions asked in regards to this but I have the following question...
My SIL, MIL and "Aunt-in-law" want to throw us a couples shower for the new baby (our daughter is almost 3 1/2). The new baby is a boy and they insist that everyone in the family wants to get boy things and just help us out because they know there are things we still want/need. They want us to invite a few friends (couples) and then it will be mostly family.
I said this would be great (although I hadn't expected to have a shower) but I didn't expect to register. I just thought people would bring boy items (clothes, etc...). However they insisted I register, so I did....and now I feel kinda strange about it. Is it going to look greedy when SIL/MIL send out the invites and they say where we are registered...etc? Should I just ask them to leave that info off the invite and then, if/when people ask, they can tell them where we are registered? Or should I just not worry about it?
Like I said, it will be mostly DH's family and about 20 of our friends (10 couples) who are invited. My mom is planning to throw us a party AFTER the baby is born so people can come meet him. Nothing will be mentioned on THAT invite about the registry.
Suggestions? TIA!
Re: 2nd Baby - Shower Ettiquette
My mom is planning to throw us a party AFTER the baby is born so people can come meet him.
Have one or the other. Seriously. Having a shower for a 2nd baby AND then this other "meet the baby" party - it's coming off as VERY gift grabby (people would show up at the "meet the baby" party w/ cute outfits and what not for a boy anyhow!). I personally would go w/ the "after" party and politely decline the offer of a shower.
It's great that everyone is excited. Yes, babies should be celebrated - but - if I were invited to both of these events for a 2nd child, I would be wondering "what else do you want from me?".
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All I can tell you is that I buy second babies one gift. For first babies, I always do a shower gift (from a registry) and then a gift after the birth. Why in the world would you need to register for a second child? Don't you have baby stuff coming out the ying-yang?
I'm pregnant for the second time, my mom, aunt and I were just talking about this. I don't feel its cool to have a shower for this baby. If anyone wants to get something great, but otherwise I really like a meet the baby party. The only thing about that is I'm very protective of newborns, so not many people will be able to come around for about 2 months. I don't know what I'm going to do.
My mom and I agree, but my aunt (her sister) seems to feel she needs to throw a shower. I really don't have many friends around here (just moved), so I think it would be best to just leave it alone. DH and I will do our best to make sure 2nd baby will have everything he needs.
I have to disagree. I think there is nothing wrong with having a small second shower especially if this baby is a different gender.
I also like the idea of a meet the baby party. Perhaps in that invitation you could write, "Gifts not necessary" that way if people WANT to bring a gift they can, but won't feel obligated to do so. You also won't look greedy!