Any other STM's worried about surgery?

jessvan96

I'm so scared something terrible will go wrong and worried what that will do to my first LO... I know it's irrational but scared nonetheless.  

kat1221

I think it's normal to have some fears about it.  It is major surgery.  When my mind starts to wonder into "doom and gloom" land I just try and think happy, rational thoughts and focus on the positive.

I am scared too but that tends to be outweighed by my excitement these days.  Plus I am so ready to get this baby out!

Good luck to you!  You'll be fine! 

MrsJ723

I have thought about it a little bit, but try not to dwell. I'm more worried about recovery-I had such an easy one with DS, I'm worried this time around won't be as easy. 

HarrietNJMommy

Yes, it's pretty normal to be worried. I've been worried with every c-section (I've had 4)......

eb1113

I understand.  It is major surgery, you have every right to be worried!  I didn't think too much about the surgery, but more the recovery.  I hated the thought that I wouldn't be able to pick DD1 up for awhile.  All throughout my pregnancy I picked her up to comfort her, and of course I wouldn't be able to once we came home.  The first few times were hard when she came to my crying and asking to be picked up.  Fortunately/Unfortunately she eventually stopped asking to be picked up.

magdalina.h

I'm just nervous to not be around my kid for a few days.

UberBiz

I'm not so much worried about the surgery as I am about the recovery. I had a pretty good time at it after I went home with DD (the hospital stay was hellish), but that was 7yrs ago, single level, and now I'm way out of shape.

FI made the mistake of telling me that his ex (his dd's mother, who also had a c-section) was "up and moving the next day" and it put me in such a foul mood, I just said, "Well good for her!" I'm worried about being able to get up and down the stairs at home (bedroom and bathroom with shower is upstairs, living room/kitchen/dining room are downstairs.).

I could sleep on the couch, and could use the half-bath down stairs, but I'd still have to walk up at least half a flight (split level) to get to a shower. Or hang out upstairs in the bedroom and have access to the shower, but then have to go downstairs to eat.

mrsjones06

I had a lot of worries about #1 before my RCS...fear about something happening to me & him being left without a mom,how he'd do being away from us that long, how he'd handle the hopital visit, not being able to pick him up for weeks, whether he'd feel less loved, etc. I cried on the way to the hospital over my fear of something happening to me & told DH I felt guilty for risking leaving #1 without me, etc.

DS1 had a blast staying with my parents, loved the hospital visit & wasn't upset at all to leave without us....the whole thing was like a vacation for him. He did fine with the fact that mommy had an ouchie on my tummy & we had to be careful for several weeks afterwards. About a week after I got home he ran into something & hurt himself while I was home alone with both kids. I had the baby in one arm & had to do this awkward, one armed patting-while-standing thing for comfort rather than scoop him up with hugs & kisses like I normally would have & I started crying over the thought that I couldn't comfort him like he deserved (hormones & exhaustion). He stopped crying & started comforting me! Ha! Kids are resilient & while it's normal to worry just try not to dwell on it b/c it will all work out ok.

ETA: Something else I did was the night before my RCS I wrote to DS1 telling him how much I loved him, how I couldn't wait to see him as a big brother, etc. I keep journals for my kids but you could do a letter to keep in their baby book. I cried writing it of course but it made me feel better knowing that if something did happen to me he'd know, in my own words how much I loved him.