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August 2012 Moms
No FFFC ?!?!
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Re: No FFFC ?!?!
Im not sure why people would flame you for this. I mean, it's not like your going to throw that milk away. Your ds is only 5 months old, if you are planning on giving BM until a year, you still have a long time for something to happen. What happened if you got sick or you supply tanked? I only have 8 oz in my freezer, so Im pretty jealous of your stash.
I don't ep, but I cringe and cry a little inside everytime we have to dump part of a bottle. I've worked hard for this milk.
I was doing pretty well not eating at night until I started craving Chinese food. Then I got AF, and SO brought me home food from the restaurant he works atjapanese. I pigged out like nobody's business.
This started happening with our bigger dog back in Dec. I was having to let him out at 1AM when I got up to feed DS so he could pee. It got worse and worse and it turned out he had diabetes. We ended up having to put him down a few weeks ago.
He actually never went in the house, but he was whining and waking us up to let him out.
I guess I have a good one this morning- I LOVE skinny jeans and boots. LOVE them and I own 3 pairs of ugg boots. That I have been known to wear with a skirt. (Not a mini though) AND the kicker?! I live in the south
But for my own- DH wants me to get a PT job. When I first starting applying for some I talked to a gentleman and then told DH that I don't think I'd be getting that one. He responded with " just as long as you're trying" so now, I fill out application that I know I'm not qualified for or ask for too much money.
Agreed 100%. (And maybe this is my flameful part) but I doubt anyone with the kind of style (or money) to be carrying a real one would choose one with the brand plastered all over it.
I also think Longchamp bags are super ugly. They look like the bag my grandma used to bring to the pool when we were little.
Proud Mama to cleft cutie
Ok I have a couple more.
I'm a secret moocher.
I have to supplement so I make my own formula which can get pricey. My parents are overly concerned about Pres weight (at one time he did have a weight problem) so every time they see me they ask about my supplies and if I need anything bc they always buy the ingredients. My heart skips a couple beats with excitement every time they ask.
I see them this weekend so hopefully they ask.
Also a lot of time I don't wipe Pres butt if it was only a pee.
You make your own baby formula? This seems very dangerous to me. How do you know the baby is getting the proper nutrition? And the fact that he's not growing is scary. I think your parents have a right to be concerned.
Okay, I am all about letting people parent the way they choose, but I have to agree with the PP about making your own formula. I googled to see if this was actually a "thing" and all I could find from reputable sources was "DON'T DO IT!"
If I'm off base, I apologize. What do you use to make it?
I hate Cailou, and his bald head! Also Max and Ruby, and Little Einsteins.
When he was 6 weeks old he didn't gain much weight when I was EBF. That's why my parents were concerned. They have 100% on board with me making it. His weight is more than fine now. The recipe I use was put invented by a doctor and I have gone over my recipe with my Ped and he is fine with it. Basically it's just goats milk powder with additives in it to make sure he is getting everything he needs.
My parents arent still concerned about his weight they just want to make sure we have everything we need to make his formula bc they know things are tight.
Now I'm going to get flamed for making formula...oh great. Lol
To be honest, when I was BFing my firstborn, 15 years ago, I bought fresh goats milk from a lady down the road to use as a supplement. My midwife and DSs pedi okayed it as a supplement only.
i am a lurker and didnt do the elf exchange so it is totally none of my business. But, I am dying to know if shelbeh ever sent Lucy her gift. Lucy, did you get it? I can't be the only one wondering about this.
It sounds like you've covered all your bases if your pedi is okay with it. I've just never heard of it. Interesting.
Idon'tgiveaflyingfuck. I have done it every night for five months. One night won't kill any of us. In fact it will ensure I can actually not die of stress.
My recipe
Goat milk powder- has great protein, carbohydrates and fat
coconut oil- one of natures best fat sources. Also has high amounts of Lauric acid which is found in high amounts in BM
Olive oil- has more healthy fats
Raw Maple Syrup- has high amounts carbohydrates
Probiotic- for immune system
Liquid Multivitamin drops
Goats milk is the fattiest milk other than BM
I get what you're saying about the purse in general, but I have a real LV that my husband got me for Christmas. It was a splurge and yes, it's expensive, but everyone spends money everyday on things that could go to starving people of the world. It doesn't make us stupid for spending our money on it. My husband wanted to splurge for my first Christmas as a mommy and he got it straight from the LV site. I'm sure people think it's fake all the time, but I know it's not and we didn't buy it to impress anyone. I just wouldn't judge someone for spending their money how they want, unless they aren't paying their bills and their kids are starving and missing shoes.
Mine is one of the blue/cream square design and the LV isn't really super plastered all over it. I do think the ones with the giant LV all over are ugly.
ETA: LD and Mea, you're two of my favorite bumpies, so I'm not being snarky or anything. Just giving my POV and "defending" myself as an ugly expensive purse owner!
I've never had sweet potato pie either!! Baker, I'll eat it on 3/14 "with" you!
I own several LV and Burberry purses. They are my splurges since I have a big purse fetish. I can afford them, so why not? I'm sure I can go into anyone's house and point out something where money could have been better spent.
All parents I talk to agree.
Jnmac - no offense taken. Personally, it's not about the money at all to me. Spend your money how you want. I was more pointing out the actual style of the bag. And I think it's sweet your DH bought you one for Christmas - mine won't touch women's fashion with a 10 foot pole.
Proud Mama to cleft cutie
Also, I own at least 3 pairs of skinny jeans and maybe 5 pairs of boots. One pair of generic uggs.
And DH and I NEVER fart in front of each other. It's one of the things I love most about our relationship. It's weird to me when people just fart in front of anybody, especially their spouse. I am just shy like that, though.
95% of the time I feel like a shitty mom because that 95% of the time I'm by myself. And I'm very much the type of person who needs verbal reassurance and praise to keep motivated and feel good about myself. If any of you read the book about the 5 love languages I'm a 'Words of Affirmation' person. I told DH this. He gets it for one day. Then nothing. I work my ass of taking care of the dogs, cleaning as much as I can, taking care of the baby, cooking dinner. I plan my menu for the week and every night I ask him what he wants and give him the option of what we have left.
This week he waited to tell me until we were down to the last meal that he doesn't like the ingredients. I nearly punched a hole in the wall. I stormed out of the house and drove at like 70mph down the stupid farm filled roads to the grocery store and got him a frozen pizza, made it for him.
He told me it was delicious.
What do I get when I cook meals? "Hey sweetie, what did you think of dinner." "It was fine." with a head nod of acceptance.
So my FFFC is I feel like an under appreciated failure and I am naturally totally reliant on other people to make me feel like I'm okay.
Which makes total since about why I was on anti depressants all through high school since I was always home alone while my mom and sister were gone and my dad lived off elsewhere with my step mom.
Oh, Molly. First, I'm sorry. You are awesome and you deserve to hear that. Secondly, I want to punch your DH in the sack. I would be laying down the hammer on that. I'm not DH's cook/housekeeper/babysitter/everything else. I am his wife and it's 50/50. If he can't chip in and help, the least he can do is say thank you and be appreciative for everything you do. This really fires me up and makes me sad. You should have told his a$$ to order pizza or make his own dinner!
What book are you reading?
Baby #2!
This is me.
Yeah, I had to comment on this. Why are you catering to him so much? He doesn't want what you cooked? He can make himself something. He lives in the same house you live in and makes the same mess, he can help clean it up. Your DD is 50% his child, he can help take care of her. Having a job is not an excuse to be a slob at home. Demand more of him before you become resentful.
Also, give yourself a break. Housework can wait. Sit down, enjoy your baby, have a glass of wine, and watch a trashy reality show.
No. Not ok. Just no. Next time your H doesn't like dinner, hand him a can of Campbell's tomato, some bread, butter, cheese and a fry pan and tell him to enjoy. I've made some pretty gross dinners over the years because I'm too experimental. H has cheerfully choked every single one of them down. He kisses me and tells me it was wonderful. Every time. Even if it's just pasta with butter and cheese.
He will cook sometimes and I'm not always a fan but I eat it. It's like being the driver. The driver picks the radio station. The cook picks the food. You don't like it? You do it.
SO does the same thing, regardless of what I cook. I could cook filet mignon and he'd be like, "Eh...it was good" or he'd put some freaking hot sauce on it like he does everything else.
I'm sorry your going through this Molly, but you're not alone. Guys just don't get it.
SCANDAL!
Hes working on 12 hour shifts without a break now. He literally doesn't have time.
Hes a good guy, he really is. Just work sucks and its straining our marriage and I just want to curl up in a corner and cry.
There is nothing either of us can do but try to survive it.
When I get completely overwhelmed and crack is when he realizes I need help and then he'll empty the dishwasher or vacuum or something which helps. But what I really need is some mom time sans baby but our babysitter works for him so shes working the same hours and same 12 hour shifts.
Also he eats like a toddler and I am mad at him for that and I will be until he gets over it.
Get a sitter that can come more often. Does he get days off? Leave her with him then. Moms need me time.
And usually when someone dealt one, someone will ask "who is booping?" And everyone else fesses up, all at once.
Our kids are gonna have some lucky spouses one day, lol.
Ambsies, how the hell can you hold them in?
Also, I like Caillou, he's cute.
Molly, no excuses. None.
My H works two jobs back to back 5 days a week. 14-15 hours a day with about 20 minutes to scarf down a sandwich in the car in between. But, he also has responsibilities at home and that is never lost on him no matter how tired he is.
You shouldn't have to get to a breaking point before he decides to help you. Sit down with him and lay out some responsibilities for him. If you have to treat him like he's 5 years old for him to get it, then do it. But this whole "I work 12 hours, wait on me hand and foot" type crap is bullsh*t. You are his wife, not his maid or his servant.
I've never had sweet potato pie either....and I guess this could be a FFFC - I had no idea why Baker was going to be eating the sweet potato pie on March 14th. I was seriously thinking....Steak and a BJ day? I figured it out once you typed 3/14. Geeze!
Baby #2!
He gets about 2 days off every 2 weeks lately and when that happens I do go out but I'm also so far behind with everything I want to do that I don't want to leave home either. I only have a few friends and they are usually busy so I end up going out by myself and I appreciate the silence but the only thing I can do out is shopping really... and then I worry about spending money on a single income. Especially since taxes changing this year mean about $100 LESS a month for us.
Another confession. I am super excited that my FFFC got so many responses even if most of them were in disagreement!!! I have never been one of the cool kids in real life and it makes me feel special!
Also, isn't that what 'boot cut' jeans were made for??? Just sayin'.
Holy I didn't know there were so many people that have been deprived of Sweet Potatoe Pie! Don't you ladies watch Duck Dynasty . . . you can literally get your whole house decorated by baking just one! Seriously though, I like it better than Pumpkin Pie and I have an ancient recipe from my Grandma an I promise it is the shizz. 3/14 I will try and remember to post it.
Um yeah I fart in front of SO like it is my job some days. The only warning he gets is "Fire in the hole" he will literally just bust out laughing.
He used to eat like a toddler too but now he eats what I make and it is not toddler food. He is sweet though, even if it is the worst dinner ever he powers through it and will say . . . maybe next time you can try something different. Doesn't hurt my feelings though at least I know he doesn't like it and I can try to improve it.
Edit to add - I don't care if people spend their money on fancy purses. I have my own fancy addiction to shoes. I get a chuckle when I see people with really bad fakes and think . . . man I hope you didn't spend much on that. Also, some purses are worth the money becuase they are better quality but I your point about the logo's. I don't have any really super expensive purses but I am bad with taking care of purses.
Def not alone, girl. Marriage is hard, you know that already. Have you read the book The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie O Martian? I started it a few weeks ago when a friend suggested it and it has been a real blessing.
I agree... Sometimes men need a helping hand when it comes to compliments. Their brain work so much differently than ours.
My FFC DH wants to buy a mixing board so he can record music. I'm encouraging him to buy it because:
1. He never buys anything big for himself
2. It will be an early birthday present so I don't have to pry an idea out of him
3. I will feel less guilty about the money I spend on myself at Sephora and at fabric stores.
The kicker is that he always tells me to get something but I feel guilty because he never buys stuff for himself. It's like a catch 22 or something.
Another one, the offer we submitted on a house by my grandma's house was rejected. I was disappointed but also glad because I don't like my grandma's next door neighbors. The older daughter is a brat and the dad is annoying.