I just found out I will have a CS next Wednesday because baby is breech. I was totally unprepared for this, I wanted to have a completely natural birth
I'm wondering how much help I will need once I get home. Both my mom and MIL have offered to help, as my husband only gets a few days off. It's just that I'm an extremely independent person, and I like doing things my own way. I'm also a bit worried about one of the wonderful ladies taking over. I know I'm going to be quite selfish with baby, especially in the beginning.
So I guess my question is, can I do it by myself, or should I have help?
Re: Recovery
Everyone is different and it depends on a lot of factors. The primary two that I can think of: Are you in good shape? Do you handle pain well?
My mom wanted to move in with us (when she lived five minutes away) before I even knew I would have a c-section - I declined and I ended up not needing her even after having an emergency CS. She would come over some during the day when DH was at work, but I was fine on my own.
Before I got pregnant with my first one, I was in the best shape of my life and my recovery was a breeze. Once I got out of the hospital, I was a little tender, so I took it easy for another day or two, but my body snapped right back. With the RCS, my recovery took a few weeks (I didn't have the muscle development I had with DS#1). I remember being in more pain at home - with DS9, I took one pain pill and that was all I needed. With DS6, I got two prescriptions before the pain was more manageable (I used a bottle and a half).
I have a feeling this recovery will take a bit longer - I don't have the muscle tone I used to have and I'm 7 years older, so it makes a difference.
Thanks for the responses. I guess I should have also specified that my mil lives about 2 hours away, while my mom is a 12 hour drive. I have no family near to me. I don't want to tell them not to come and then need them, yet I don't want them to come and drive me crazy.
This. I'm an older FTM and wasn't in shape, but I had an easy recovery. I had one internal stitch that pulled/burned if I moved the wrong way, but I didn't have any other issues. I have friends who were in much better shape than me who had a hard time moving at all for weeks after their c-sections. It does just depend on the person/situation.
I think you should just wait and ask for help when/if you need it. You'll have a better idea of what you'll want by the time you're ready to be discharged. I personally liked have my mom around. She did our laundry, helped clean, etc. I breastfeed, so I spent plenty of time feeding/snuggling with DS. It was nice to have someone around to watch and snuggle with him when I wanted to take a shower or a nap.
I just had my first c-section (due to a breech baby) on Jan. 9th. I've had 3 previous vaginal deliveries. I too was planning on a natural, hypnobirth, but baby never flipped, and my water broke at 36 wks.
You will need help, ESP. during the first week, that was the worst week for me and the first 3-4 days were really painful for me. i needed help getting in and out of the hospital bed and to reach things.
I'm 17 days out and I feel much better than I did a couple weeks ago, but I still need help with things and with my older children. My husband brings/cooks me food most of the time and watches my older ones while i sleep in in the mornings or when i take a nap. Plus you are not supposed to drive for 4-5 weeks, so he's had to drive me anywhere i need to go, even though I am home most of the time. I can't pick up the carseat with the baby in it yet. I'm still sore and have to remember that even though i feel better, I shouldn't do too much too soon, or it will take longer to heal.
I am somewhat of a control freak too, so I did have to learn how to let go of some things (letting DH dress the kids and "do" the girls hair, etc) and let people help.