Special Needs Mommies

beany02

I dont have any experience with special needs little ones, but i just wanted to tell you i think you guys are angels. Your children are so lucky to have you to help guide them through the world.

pastalady

I understand the sentiment but honestly, I hate when people say this to me. Sorry.

Princess_Lily

Hopefully children should have guidance in this world from their parents - whether they have special needs or not.  Our children/we don't need special posts of moral support - we need to be treated like everyone else in this world. 

 

Coming here to post this, lacks tact and I hope you don't do this IRL

 

CaptainSerious

Honestly, I know you were trying to be nice, and I really appreciate that you tried to extend support.  What's little known to people who are not raising special needs children, unfortunately, is how comments worded certain ways can make those of us with special needs children feel.

Please take a moment to look at this post:  https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/71380458.aspx.  It explains why some of us get upset at well-intentioned comments.  It really isn't because we are touchy, but often because the comments, no matter how kindly-intentioned, serve to either emphasize our "otherness" or minimize our concerns (often from a place of understandable ignorance about our children's conditions).

beany02

definitely didnt mean to offend, i just was thinking recently about what our lives would be like if DD had a special need. I was just trying to extend support. I'm not in your shoes so i know i can never understand things from your point of view. IRL, my best friend is adopting a special needs girl and she is getting lots of negative feedback from others. I tell her i think its great that she is doing this and that the girl will have a better life for it. My friend genuinely seems to appreciate the support and i didnt think it was tactless to share my feelings on it with this board...but if it is im sorry, i really do agree that you dont need any special posts or moral support just because you have special needs children, because they need to be treated like everyone else. This was more about me wanting to share that i felt proud to be a mom because of the other mommies out there who give it their all in challenging situations....whether it be special needs, problems at home, or whatever else moms face day-to-day.