Can I AW too? PiPs and other stuff

msualum96 · January 2013

SO, clearly, R loves his sister, which is awesome! But he's still so rough with her! He doesn't understand "gentle" and bangs her in the head literally every day! And when I try to calmly tell him to leave her alone, I get a toddler tanturm. LOVE those....anyway, how have you STMs been dealing with this?

Also, if you've dealt w/ or know about PPD (esp STMs), can you PM me so I can ask you some questions? I don't really want to get into details here, it's too long...

Cheekers2010 · January 2013

She is adorable! And I love the picture of them together.

Obviously I'm not a STM, but if there's anything I can do to help, please PM me. I hope you're ok. ((hugs))

keags5496 · January 2013

That tongue! So cute!! No advice o the PPD but huge hugs. Hope you're taking care of yourself!!

bumpuser260585 · January 2013

Your kids are so cute. I'm loving all these pics with babies sticking their tongues out.
Sorry you are having ppd issues. I hope you can get through this soon.

PGASTL · January 2013

OMG she is soooo cute! Look at those cheeks!

Sorry, I am not help on the PPD thing, but there's a separate board for that where you may find more STM's with advice - good luck and I hope all is or gets better soon!

xxbabycakesxx · January 2013

Shes sooooooo adorable!!!

When I tell G to be gentle with B he'll usually listen. Or he'll just look at me and walk away lol.

I'm sorry if you're dealing with PPD. I know I had the baby blues after both kids but I was never officially diagnosed with PPD even though Imm thinking I should've asked for help back then. Anyway, if you need to talk, I'm here to listen. I'm not sure I'll have advice or anything but I can definitely lend an ear.

Serendipity117 · January 2013

Cute!

O still has his days where he is rough with G. He understands "gentle" but he chooses not to be. : He's pretty good overall though.

PMed you

Blondangel · January 2013

She is sooo cute! Love the pic where big bro is kissing her.

I'm not a STM, so I can't help you there, but I hope you feel better. Don't be afraid to get help if you need to.

EMOmamma · January 2013

She's super cute!

The gentle thing just took practice. One thing I think that helped was we worked on hitting really hard and really soft so he could tell the difference. We used a metal sheet pan (so it would make lots of noise) and we would hit it hard and he would hit it hard - we'd say "hard hit hurts!" then we would tap it softly and say "gentle touch nice!" and be super over-the-top happy about the gentle hit.

msualum96 · January 2013

Thanks for all the support ladies! I knew having 2u2 was going to be hard, but I guess I just wasn't expecting it to be THIS hard, KWIM? And it's mostly because--I hate to say it but--R was SUCH an easy baby, and H is not. Not at all.

Anyway, thanks for everything, and I my December Moms!!!

ETA: Serendipity, I PMd back!

TMNTgirl · January 2013

The sibling love is pretty cute - even if it is a little rough at times!

Jonny really likes pointing out Benny's body parts. (Toes, arms, hair, head, nose, etc). So we do gentle touches by asking "Where are Benny's toes?" and he gently touches them and we praise him like crazy!

Sleep deprevation killed me with both kids. I just become a depressed mess without sleep. Never officially diagnosed with PPD - but feel free to PM me if you want.

kj07 · January 2013

I am so scared that if we get to have #2 that he/she will not be an easy baby. My younger sister was not easy. My H's younger sister wasn't easy. Oi.

I don't have much to offer on guidance, but big props to you for asking for help if you think you might be dealing with PPD/PPA. I think it's too easy for us to fall into the trap of thinking we should be able to deal with everything all the time. And it just ends up making life harder than it needs to be.

Now to the cute squish - OMG! I love love love H's face and tongue. If you put her together with babycakes B, it would be a cheek-splosion of cuteness.