FB invite for a babyshower

mary35699

So today I got another facebook invite to a baby shower.

"Baby Girl Taylor is due to arrive on March 21st, 2013 and Mommy and Daddy are trying to get ready. Your help would be greatly appreciated. 

A baby registry has been created with Sears; the registry number is ***********."

I don't use facebook very often, so I was looking at the invite for about 10 minutes trying to figure out who on earth this M2B is. I am 90% percent sure she is a distant cousin on my fathers side who I last saw at a funeral in 2008 or 2009. I find it so weird that she invited me, I guess she just invited all her fb friends because it shows 104 invited. I am so not driving an hour for this.

cinderin

Wow.

ohlordy

Wow ... you are one of the few people who actually just opt to not attend events you don't feel obligated to go to rather than b!tch and moan about how "tacky" and "gift-grabby" it is to do something like this. Good for you!

FB made the whole world lazy. 

Cranang

ohlordy:

Wow ... you are one of the few people who actually just opt to not attend events you don't feel obligated to go to rather than b!tch and moan about how "tacky" and "gift-grabby" it is to do something like this. Good for you!

FB made the whole world lazy. 

FAIL. 

It was a good attempt at a jab, but it IS tacky and gift-grabby.  I'm sure she's "moaning" about it as well as not going.

RoxyLynn

It sounds more like you were solicited for "help" than actually invited to attend anything.

rhubarb123

Cranang:

ohlordy:

Wow ... you are one of the few people who actually just opt to not attend events you don't feel obligated to go to rather than b!tch and moan about how "tacky" and "gift-grabby" it is to do something like this. Good for you!

FB made the whole world lazy. 

FAIL. 

It was a good attempt at a jab, but it IS tacky and gift-grabby.  I'm sure she's "moaning" about it as well as not going.

LOL...yep.

Was it even an invite to a shower or just an invite to purchase gifts from their registry.  I'm thinking there was more to the "invite"?  I do agree that facebook has made people lazy.  I probably wouldn't even have noticed since I rarely check my facebook.

PunkyBooster

ohlordy:

Wow ... you are one of the few people who actually just opt to not attend events you don't feel obligated to go to rather than b!tch and moan about how "tacky" and "gift-grabby" it is to do something like this. Good for you!

FB made the whole world lazy. 

Wait, what?  

  

Helenahhandbasket

ohlordy:

Wow ... you are one of the few people who actually just opt to not attend events you don't feel obligated to go to rather than b!tch and moan about how "tacky" and "gift-grabby" it is to do something like this. Good for you!

FB made the whole world lazy. 

While I agree with the bolded, I have to say that when someone commits a breech of etiquette, I always assume that they simply don't know any better (the not knowing any better here being that showers are usually semi- intimate events, and the way that guests are invited should reflect that as opposed to a FB cattle call).

I try not to assume that the reason for the breech isn't coming from a bad place (being "gift grabby"), but simply ignorance of the basic rules of etiquette. OP, I realize that you do not know the MTB intimately, but if this were a close friend, would you snub her?

Also, try to keep in mind that the MTB might not even realize that her hostess has chosen to invite people this way.  It should not be a reflection on the MTB, but of the hostess.

BakerMommy

But but how can you ignore the baby's plea for help?! Doesn't every baby deserve to be celebrated?!

rpalen29

TACKY.

tilsonc

Trashy!!

ordinary1

Super tacky and gift grabby! Sadly this seems to be a growing trend.  Personally, I ignore FB shower invites.  One of my close friends created the event on FB and invited like 30+ friends.  I thought that was tacky.  Also, I won't be going.

pinkiemo

Is that the whole invite?  'Cause I didn't see anything about a shower, just a plea for you to buy them stuff. They're trying to get ready but can't be bothered to go to a store, so could you please send stuff?

Yuck.

MBush4

I had a friend request from a girl I vaguely knew growing up (she was 6 or 7 years younger than me) that I saw at a mutual friend's baby shower in September. She is due at the end of April and shares her registry info on a WEEKLY basis. You know, because people care about how her registry is evolving.

mary35699

pinkiemo:

Is that the whole invite?  'Cause I didn't see anything about a shower, just a plea for you to buy them stuff. They're trying to get ready but can't be bothered to go to a store, so could you please send stuff?

Yuck.

 

The entire invite is

Baby Taylor's Shower

Invite-Only ? By M2B and someone I do not know and is not on my friends list

• • 

    Date
  • 

    Time

• Location

Baby Girl Taylor is due to arrive on March 21st, 2013 and Mommy and Daddy are trying to get ready. Your help would be greatly appreciated.  A baby registry has been created with Sears; the registry number is *************.

 The invite came to me from the M2B, I just find it weird that she invited me since the last time I saw or spoke to her was in passing at a funeral 3-4 years ago. If this came from a co-worker or friend I wouldn't mind so much (I still would not be super happy with being invited on FB) This just seems strange to me, thats all I meant with this post.

Michelle3081

WOW! Decline.

JenniD2

mary35699:

pinkiemo:

Is that the whole invite?  'Cause I didn't see anything about a shower, just a plea for you to buy them stuff. They're trying to get ready but can't be bothered to go to a store, so could you please send stuff?

Yuck.

 

The entire invite is

Baby Taylor's Shower

Invite-Only ? By M2B and someone I do not know and is not on my friends list

• • 

    Date
  • 

    Time

• Location

Baby Girl Taylor is due to arrive on March 21st, 2013 and Mommy and Daddy are trying to get ready. Your help would be greatly appreciated.  A baby registry has been created with Sears; the registry number is *************.

 The invite came to me from the M2B, I just find it weird that she invited me since the last time I saw or spoke to her was in passing at a funeral 3-4 years ago. If this came from a co-worker or friend I wouldn't mind so much (I still would not be super happy with being invited on FB) This just seems strange to me, thats all I meant with this post.

This would be something I would decline and would not send a gift over. This does not look like a shower invitation. Instead, it looks like the MTB is just asking for people to send her gifts.

If this looked even remotely like a shower invitation, I would maybe consider sending a gift.

dalzien

Sagen:

I, along with 250 other people were invited to a friend shower. I hadn't really seen her much since right after high school (which was 10 years ago) since we live in another state. I obviously didn't make the 18 hour drive and ignored the invite. Then I heard from a close friend of this girl that I am on her s*** list since I failed to at least mail a gift. Okey dokey! People are so strange!

 

WTF is wrong with people?! That girl had a lot of balls.

 For the OP, the "invite" doesn't sound like you were really invited. Only asked to purchase and send a gift. I would just hit not attending, and possibly a little blurb saying congrats... possibly.

Anne1989

Any chance it was an app that created it? Like "Tell your Facebook friends about your baby registry?" I'm not entirely sure.

Personally, I am thinking about doing a Facebook invite (if I can figure it out) after I've mailed the invitations so people will be reminded about it and allow an easier way to track how many people will be going.