How are you and H?

Mrs.G123

How are you and your s/o/DH/h?

Now that our babes are a few months old, how are things at home? It can def be tough at first, I know!

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Mrschica

Well, we haven't had sex since last February, so there's that...

nickschick!

Not as much intimacy as there should be but I'm so tired between working and two kids... No desire.

Eta we are getting along well though and are planning our first date in months the weekend after next!

candaceleigh21

Yeaaaa. Things have gotten better since he is hardly ever home anymore. Yesterday was his day off and he was gone from 9:30 am to 7:00 pm. Never called, never texted. Its hard to argue when he doesnt at least call to check on us. The fighting has slacked on when he is home since B is STTN.

Petunia844

We are good...I think our relationship has been stronger since we lost our first son.  There was an adjustment to be sure and that was really hard on me, but now we are doing well again.

Starry Again

We are doing pretty well but it isn't all puppies and rainbows. DD is high maintenance and we normally can handle one bad night just fine but if we have a string of them it starts to wear on us. It seems to be all situational though vs long standing resentments and we always apologize later on when one of us lets the stress get to us.

 We are having sex about 1/2 as often as before the baby but considering how she isn't a great sleeper I think that's still pretty good

CnAnA

Mrschica:

Well, we haven't had sex since last February, so there's that...

yep. This. We had a heart to heart come to jesus meeting last night though. I think things are on the way to being better.

Mrschica

mrs.ike:

Mrschica:

Well, we haven't had sex since last February, so there's that...

yep. This. We had a heart to heart come to jesus meeting last night though. I think things are on the way to being better.

We've had a few of those, they always end bad lol. 

I did buy some ky yesterday.... Yay progress!!!!! 

clrgrdfrk

Mrschica:

Well, we haven't had sex since last February, so there's that...

Ooohhhhhh gurrrlllllll..... Us too. He likes to remind me. I feel bad but I just can not get in the mood.

Ziegeficker

We are doing surprisingly good....we don't fight nearly as much as I thought we'd be at this point. DH is very helpful, our friends have stepped up to make sure we get some time to ourselves every now and then, and we are learning to commiserate during the hard times instead of snapping at each other. Our sex life has suffered, but I hope that gets better once we start getting more sleep, or at least once we get to the other side of this growth spurt/teething episode :-/

I think I have such little down time these days that I almost refuse to spend any of it fighting...so I let a lot of things go when they may have upset me before.  

cardiganmom

Better than I though we would. We luckily have a pretty good baby, so there isn't much reason to argue. He's such a great help. I think we've actually become closer since the baby. We haven't had a chance for a date yet because of money, but we still make time for each other when LO is sleeping. Before the baby was born, we talked a lot about keeping our relationship a top priority.

LSUnoelle1220

If possible we are doing better than ever. We talk more and hash everything out immediately. I used to hold in things but now that I'm exhausted I just can't do that anymore and it is for the better. We are partners in all things. We have our first date night out this Friday and I can't wait!  I wish our sex life was better, but that's only bc my v is still healing and it hurts like hell. But my h is very supportive of that too. I've never been happier. 

I wish some of this happiness to you ladies who aren't having such a good time with everything.  

ellcore

Honestly? We are better than we ever have been. He's awesome, supportive and super helpful. He offers to take Kaley after he gets home from work so I can have time to myself to shower, bathe, or just lock myself in a room. I can't believe how understanding he is. The only problem is he doesn't hear the baby cry, but if I need to, I wake him up and he's okay with it. His work is super awesome and he goes in whenever he wants, so if its a rough night and he doesn't go into 11 then it's cool with all of us. The sex department is good, though its been a week or so because I've been too tired. FX tonight is a go. Mama has needs. 

danienross

As good as to be expected considering he's on the other side of the world for at least seven more months. I expect reintigration to be more stressful this time around but only time will tell.

JoNi2010

mbm1983:

Very good. Our relationship has only gotten stronger.

This.  DH is a great father and husband.  Sure he gets caught up in his stupid phone and video games, but I'm sure he thinks I get caught up in trivial things too!  I wish we had more time for sex and dates though!  Hopefully that will come with time...!

CP0979

I thought we were bad not having sex since last June (until last night). Makes me feel better that we weren't alone. We have been fighting a lot mostly just over baby adjustment but i feel like DTD last night helped relieve some tension!

nealbl

Having kids has brought us closer together for so many different reasons. All of the sudden our pointless fights were not worth the time and energy. We are a team now when dealing with our 3 year old. She is very "determined" child and we have to stick together to parent her. More importanly we returned to our faith and our church b/c we wanted to raise our kids with God in their lives and I truly believe that has done so much for our marriage. We communicate so much better b/c we want to be better for our God and for our kids. 

jeffsteph1207

Meh... The good out weighs the bad. We've had some knock-out fights (figuratively speaking) but we've also had great times since MJ was born. Sex life is starting to come back on line... But I'm always so tired! Hubby reminds me about it ALL.THE.TIME, which gets annoying. Maybe once that gets back on schedule we will be good?

NerdHerder29

Our relationship is handling this second baby much better than the first. Sex life is great, communication is good, division of household/child duties is good. I really have nothing to complain about.

Mrs_Lady

we are ok but have spats related to baby:) he is an awesome dad and hubby! we have not had sex im pooped and i know we need to!

Hope we can do. This before my parents leave:) 

 

Rachelilly23

My H can be an a-hole, so we're not great. He gives me a lot

of crap for not learning anything and not staying fresh in my

career, and for spending my time being useless. He likes to

give TB as an example of my lack of productivity. Yet my

house is usually organized and mostly clean, and I can feel

comfortable having people over. I always have a mostly

healthy, fresh-cooked meal on the table. I spend a lot of

time working out now to lose the baby weight and taking

care of everything for the boys. I wish he didn't think I was

such an awful wife. Pretty sure if there was as much of a

lack of sex to the extent that some of you are experiencing

that our marriage would be over. Yep, we need counseling...

caseys02

We actually have been fabulous. The intimacy has been back since day 1 and he actually helps out a lot more than what I expected. We do have our bad moments when I'm exhausted and don't want to do the dishes. But I'm actually really happy with how it's been. All of my friends have gotten divorced with in months of having their first kid so I was very worried.

jenmccon

DH is an amazing dad. Very attentive to the kiddos and the baby. I am struggling with ppd right now so its adding some tension but I'm working on it and he's been more understanding and patient than I think I would be if I were in his position. We haven't dtd since October and I have absolutely zero desire to do so. He said something about it yesterday, and I finally agreed just so he would stop bringing it up. But he's so used to me saying no that he didn't realize I said yes and went to bed. Haha phew! Bullet. Dodged. LOL

AMT1107

Mrschica:

Well, we haven't had sex since last February, so there's that...

 

Same here

And we had a water loss (dishwasher leaked when we weren't home) we have crap insurance (don't get Allstate) so we are doing most of the work ourselves.  We have been without a kitchen since December 9th since Allstate was dragging their feet on the mold remediation and dry out... so it's been tough!  We either eat at my parents house or go out to eat, which in theory sounds great, but it's getting old.  And DH and I work differently, I like to set things out and do them, whereas DH likes to do them and then fix his mistakes. 

SInce we are almost done with the kitchen, it is getting a little better.  And we are also sleeping more since DS has been sleeping about 8 - 10 hours a night!  And DH is an amazing dad, he helps out a lot when he gets home from his long day to give me a few minutes of peace.  Once the kitchen is done I think a lot of stress will be gone with it. 

dvladybug

dotmbc:

We arent great. He had this stupid game on his phone that he plays All. The. Time. I am amazed at how disinterested he is in the baby. I and constantly asking him to hold him and he gets pissed off that he doesn't get time to himself. It is ridiculous that he doesn't notice that I get NO time to myself. His life hasn't changed much since we had the baby....but he thinks we split everything.

This sums it up for us too.  H is a little bit better but we always argue over our parenting styles.  Some days I feel like all we do is disagree and some days we are ok.