2nd IUI failed:( vent about a friend

eastsidekitty

I got my period after only a 10 day luteal phase this time - another failed iui. I feel so incredibly depressed - how do yo get through it wthout the depression getting to you?

I also had a really good friend say something awful to me and I'm not sure if i was being too sensitive. I saw an acupuncurist last week just to try and help with the process and i told her what the acupuncturist said to me - that my infertility was the likely due to the extreme stress I am under (parent terminal illness) and not any fertility issues since I had a healthy baby 2.5 years ago. I don't know if she's right but it was just an opinion and my friend responded with " everything I have ever read says that fertility DRASTICALLY declines at age 35 so it makes sense that you would have a very hard time getting pg at 37 when you didn't at 34." Its not even correct info and so harsh - I'm not sure why anyone would say that to someone dealing proactively with infertility. ugh vent over

74dragonfly

I'm sorry it failed. Are you on progesterone? What does your Dr say?

eastsidekitty

I haven't spoken to him yet. I took progesterone after the first IUI but not this one. He mentioned moving to injectables before this iui if it didn't work. i don't know much about them though.

ceebeetee

So sorry. I always hate when I have a 10 day luteal phase, I always felt like I didn't even have a chance that month.

kimberm0511

I'm sorry that your friend was insensitive.  I have honestly quit talking about infertility issues with my friends.  None of them have had any trouble getting pregnant and I was in their shoes and clueless at one point, so I get it.  But now that I am here, I just wish I had known what I feel now when I was getting knocked up so easily.  My friend's used to say the most absurd things when I would open up about my problems and it just pissed me off.  I stick to talking to my dh or coming on here for support. 

 As far as the depression, I've got nothing.  I got really depressed after every IUI didn't work.  I would always feel a tiny bit better after a few days when I was in the mindset to try again, however, the depression doesn't really go away.  I just try to concentrate on my dh and my kids and keep reminding myself that they need to be my focus.  It's hard to find the silver lining, but I hope you can get through it and not let it get you too down. 

Lauren79

I am so sorry it didn't work.  As for depression I have always been pretty positive and have been avoiding it.  This month I think I might be a little depressed and am not sure how to handle it.  I might just be scared b/c I don't know what is going on. 

I stopped talking to my the friends that know about my IF because those that aren't going through it have no clue.