naming after a family member

BabyShipp

So DH and I were discussing names because I'm right at Dday and we still don't have them.  Last minute, yes?  Anyway, he asked if we had a boy if we could use his dads middle name bc he didn't want his dad to say something about a boy being named after someone in my family.  DD's middle name is James bc that is what my dad called me, he passed when I was a young teen.  Its somewhat naming him in his honor, but not really after him.  

I responded with "ok [insert last name here]" and explained any boy we have is obviously going to be named in honor of his family.  

 I don't really have an issue naming them or honoring someone in his family but I don't want it to be just bc his dad might say something if we don't use HIS name.  

Am I wrong here?   

ShoeFanatic614

No, you're not. You should choose to honor a family member for whatever reasons you and your husband decide on. Not because you feel pressure not to hear sh!t at the holidays.  

Bride-hilda

You're not wrong. You shouldn't feel inclined to name your kids certain names to avoid guilt.

If you like the name, then that's different.

snowybride08

ShoeFanatic614:

No, you're not. You should choose to honor a family member for whatever reasons you and your husband decide on. Not because you feel pressure not to hear sh!t at the holidays.  

Agreed. 

Court0026

ShoeFanatic614:

No, you're not. You should choose to honor a family member for whatever reasons you and your husband decide on. Not because you feel pressure not to hear sh!t at the holidays.  

 I agree!

EastCoastBride

I agree w the others. You're not wrong.

wcvsb3b5

ShoeFanatic614:

No, you're not. You should choose to honor a family member for whatever reasons you and your husband decide on. Not because you feel pressure not to hear sh!t at the holidays.  

This, exactly. While I love family names for children (that's what our choices are) I think they should be chosen because the parents want them, not because someone else does.

girlmama83

Sounds to me like your hubby may have gotten some complaints from his dad over your first child not being named after him in anyway.

If you want to honor his father with this child's name then that's great but don't settle on a name just to make him happy!

jchickiem

MH's father told him that our son's name HAD to start with a J. I'm not sure what got a hold of me, but my response was to say I would choose a name that began with any letter but J. Yeah, I REALLY don't like people telling me what to do.

So, no, I do not think you are wrong here.

+ASH+

You're not wrong at all - having someone named after you is an honor: not a requirement. 

guilletskichuk

I agree with all of the PPs.

sunlavender

You should use a name if you like it or if it holds a special meaning for you.  I wouldn't pick a name because you think someone might make you feel guilty.

BabyShipp

Thanks all!  I just didn't know if my comment of "ok [last name]" was a bit too much.  Names are still up for debate so we have no official decision but yeah, I don't want to name my kid after someone just because.  It should have meaning :]