Hi!
I've lurked and posted on IF and once I got a BFP, I moved over to PAIF and LGBT. I am so happy this board is here for a few reasons!
First, not everyone who uses 3rd party have fertility issues - as most on the LGBT board - not all, but most - of the women there use DS. Even without an IF struggle, you still have to digest that your child is 1/2 the genetics of someone outside of your relationship. So it's cool to have a board that focuses on 3rd party!
In our case, I am 41, and had enlarged fallopian tubes which had to be removed, low follicle count and poor AMH. While I could've taken the 10-20% change of using my OE for our IVF cycle, it was more important to us to have a better chance of a take-home baby (70%) with a DE IVF, so we did our cycle in December.
We had the 'fun' of constructing a little being based on a bunch of criteria. Our choice of egg donors was far more limited than sperm of course, so we waited until we got our egg donor signed up and then found a sperm donor to complement her. We are crazy about our egg donor, have had a few letter exchanges (anonymously) and feel the universe gave us the right donors.
I'm 8w2d and our ultrasound yesterday went great. Babykins is measuring perfect and had a hb of 165. We are really excited and I'm trying to stay calm and not worry!
We keep a little blog too, if you are interested: www.ourbabykins.wordpress.com
I did struggle to post/fit in on IF since I didn't have longterm IF struggles, however, there wasn't really anywhere else to go for support doing IVF and using donor eggs (especially - the LGBT ladies are great for DS advice . The IF ladies have been wonderful, but it's so great to have this board now!!
Love hearing from all the grads too!!!
Jenn
Re: Pregnant w/ a DS/DE Baby!
Welcome and congratulations!
I think it is incredibly wonderful that this board has the potential to unite a multitude of different histories into a camaraderie of similar journeys.
Best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy!
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TTC #1
Me 42, DH 47
Dx = AMA/DOR, MFI
IVF/ICSI #1 = BFN
IVF/ICSI #2 = BFP; early loss
IVF/ICSI #3 (DE) = BFP; early loss
FET = BFN
IVF/ICSI #4 (DE w/ CCS) = BFP
Beta #1 @ 10dp6dt = 265; Beta #2 @ 14dp6dt = 1251.
1st U/S @ 6w2d showed one perfect little heartbeat!
2nd U/S @ 7w2d. HB 132 & everything measuring on track.
Our beautiful little girl arrived January 2015!
Congratulations on your success. Here's to a H&H 9 months!!
Im looking at a mid Feb transfer date using DE, so I always love reading success stores!
DD conceived with no issues, but born at 33 weeks due to PPROM
loss #1-06/2010 loss #2-2/2011 loss #3-5/2011
07/2011 dx with a Balanced Translocation
9/2011-decided on domestic infant adoption 10/2011-signed with an agency and getting ready for homestudy
12-2012-after being with our agency over a year and only shown to EM once we decided to talk with RE about DEIVF. Thru a crazy sequence of events we decided to go for it and we picked a donor MUCH quicker than anticipated
1/13/2013-started lupron with anticipated transfer in mid Feb.
ER 2/15 resulted in 15 eggs/10M/6F with ICSI.
2/18 transferred 1-8cell and 1-9cell embie. Snuggle in little embies.
positive on HPT 6dp3dt. Could this really be IT?!?! Beta 14dp3dt=2440. U/S scheduled for 3/20.
ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive. Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)
DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!
Baby boy Henry born 2015.
Expecting our capstone baby (boy) early March 2018.
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Me (32) DH (36) - Finding our way to baby #1
Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR, insulin resistant and gluten intolerant
DH: Severe MFI
12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN
8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)
My ovaries are just for decoration
12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts.
2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.
6/5/13 - Adopted four new embryos that had been frozen for seven years!
9/12/13 - DEmbryo FET #2. Thawed and transferred two beautiful blasts
9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d.
11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
Beta #1 @ 13dp6dt - 522 Beta #2 @ 16dp6dt - 1373
6w5d ultrasound showed one perfect baby with a beautiful heartbeat of 134bpm!
Snowflake baby is a girl!
Our beautiful Snowflake girl arrived on July 22, 2014!
My embryo adoption blog: Wishing on a Snowflake
Hey hello!
Thanks for sharing your story. I posted above and then of course read your post. We might be looking at a DE/DS option in the future.
Mind if I stalk your blog in a totally friendly non-threatening and awesome way?
Can I PM you if I have any questions? Not sure if I do right now... We're not to the stage of donor things quite yet, but I'm hording my researching like a squirrel on a birdfeeder.
And I hope your pregnancy continues to roll in a happy + healthy way!
TTC #1 since 1/10
DX: Unexplained/??? MFI issues
Our lil' lost sparks:
5w3d loss 7/30/10 - EDD March 2011
8w loss 4/15/11 - EDD November 2011
8w3d loss 8/2/12 - EDD March 2013
4w c/p loss 10/29/12 - EDD July 2013
Long story: trying on our own + testing testing testing with 6 rounds of Clomid, more testing, injectables + TI, laparoscopy - one tube blocked, 2 IUIs with Follistim...BFNs.
RPL testing all normal, Karyotyping normal
Moving on to IVF.
IVF #1 April 2012 = BFN, IVF #2 June 2012 = BFP. U/S 7/23 = saw heartbeat but measuring behind. Follow up U/S on 7/30 - no heartbeat. D&C 8/2. Trisomy 12. IVF #3 Oct 2012 = Chemical Pregnancy
Phone consult with CCRM on 12/12/12 - ODWU 1/4/13 - both tubes clear(!) - AFC 24, AMH 3.2, FSH 9.6, LH 5.4, E2 25. DH has high frag rate but improved!
IVF #4 March 2013 CCRM. EP protocol w/ Menopur, Gonal-F & Dexamethasone. ER 3/29 & IMSI, PICSI. 43R 13M 10F 6blasts bio'd. CCS testing reveals 3 normals!!!
FET 5/31/13 of 1 4AA blast - thawed and expanded. 4dp5dt BFP.
Beta 9dp5dt = 181, 11dp5dt = 427. 1st u/s showed a healthy heartbeat! EDD 2/16/14
After 4 years of hoping and heartbreak, our sweet little bean was born on 2/19/14
We are so in love with her.
"I'm not telling you it's going to be easy, I'm telling you it's going to be worth it."
Everybody is welcome!!!