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October 2011 Moms
Elsa1984
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FFFC
Elsa1984
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Re: FFFC
My little CHD warrior. Born 9/29/11. Got his new heart 10/20/11
BLOG :] & Shaping Up
My confession: Laneypoopers was in my dream last night. I have no idea what she really looks like, but I created a short brunette. She helped me through some sort of vent maze in this institution we were a part of creating. It was weird.
H is very overweight (obese even.) He went to the doctor's this week for a physical and all of his numbers were totally fine - blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, etc.
My confession: although I am glad his numbers are healthy, I was kind of wishing at least something would be slightly high in order to give him the push to eat healthier and start exercising again. I really wanted the doctor to tell him he needs to be healthier, because my efforts aren't working, he won't do it on his own, and he won't do it for DD. It's been pissing me off lately and I feel like there is nothing I can do.
I am mad at DH because he didn't get up with DS last night. I mean sure DS would only settle down while I was holding him and if DH picked him up he screamed bloody murder and would cough his guts up because he was screaming. But I am tired and this is the third night I have been up.
I love that show. Randy is amazing!
Bridalplasty- watch it.
Two of my best friends are trying to get pregnant with their first right now. I'm happy for them but so glad I don't have a newborn in my future. We're one and done.
You aren't a terrible woman or friend. You know what's right for you and your family and live in a time when you can have a baby on your terms. I say "Hooray" for you not getting caught up in the baby fever.
Burned by the Bear
My ILs haven't seen DD hardly at all, and they live in the same area (about 40 mins away). I think it is horrible that they have nothing to do with their grandchild, but I refuse to be the one that is constantly trying to bend over backwards to arrange for DD to go see them. DH thinks that is selfish of me, and maybe it is, but if they showed a LITTLE bit of effort, I would probably feel differently. It makes me sad that she doesn't know her grandparents though.
DH and I were talking last night about possibly moving out of state (from Va to Tx) for my work. He said "Well, I know your family would probably be sad and upset... and I guess my family should be too but I doubt they will." The whole situation is just sad. But I am not doing anything to try to make it better at this point.
Maybe that should be my FFFC- Our relationship with ILs is non existent right now and it makes me sad that DD doesn't know her grandparents, but I am tired of being the only one trying to make it better, so I just don't anymore. I feel like it is their loss for not being a part of DD's life because she is one amazing little girl.
Married 08/18/07
BFP 02/15/11 EDD 10/27/11 Born at 35w3d on 09/25/11
BFP 10/13/12 EDD 06/25/13 Born at 37w0d on 06/04/13
BFP 12/11/15 EDD 08/23/16 Early miscarriage
BFP 02/02/16 EDD 10/16/16
Aw, I am sorry! I hope your dad realizes what he is missing out on.
That is not being greedy, that is trying to gain your sanity back.
absolutely!
Yesterday I parked my car in the garage under my work building next to a another SUV. I noticed the guy was sitting in his car reading. When I got out to pay the meter I noticed he was reading a Bible. After work I came back out to my car and noticed that he had an assault rifle manual out on his back seat. I immediately freaked out and thought he might be some crazy person wanting to shoot up a Federal building. But after thinking about it, if I was going to shoot up a building, I probably wouldn't put in a full day of work first. I did take his license plate number down though.
I also have been pretending that the "flu" I have is way worse than it actually is. DH starts school next week and I will be essentially a single parent during the week, having to do all the morning and evening routine alone. I kinda want to milk having him home in the evening for all it is worth before I will have to do everything myself again, so pretending I am sick is my passive aggressive way of punishing him.
I have had many people tell me I should sue. Even a few nurses that took care of me in the cardio wing of the hospital. But I never did.
Now I regret that decision. I want to sue the crap out of the doctor. Life long damages have been done and I want her to pay. This makes me feel like a money hungry wh ore though. I never thought of myself as such a person.
I'm battling myself over this.
Since that was a lame confession, I will add another one. I am thinking about having a three way MH and a willing woman.This makes me feel dirty.
Ok, as to your first confession: I am sorry you had such a horrible experience, and I don't think you're a bad person for wanting to sue your doctor. Your second confession: holy cow! That's a confession.
Yeah, way to sneak that one in there.
Friday nights are my favorite because of SYTTD, I like Atlanta better than NY though now. Those southern women are nuts and I love it.
It's so stupid I managed to watch every episode in a week. Followed by Randy knows best and SYTTD Atlanta.
But yeah, it's...dumb. But I couldn't stop.
Right?!? Very sneaky, you.
Burned by the Bear
Papps, that pretty much explains the main reason why it hasn't happened.
To the posters about the grandparents, as a kid who grew up with grandparents who were in the picture yet wanted nothing to do with us....I think that was worse than knowing they were somewhere out there but not around. My dad was one of three, and the other two were married several times and unstable. My dad was married once and still married. My grandparents felt bad for the other four grand kids and treated them amazing....shopping sprees, fishing trips, vacations, etc. My cousins were still doing fun things with their parents, but my grandparents took it to the extreme. My older sister and younger brother and I were all in sports, they went to our cousins sporting events and not ours. Our cousins pictures littered the house and fridge, ours weren't. They had a better relationship with my parents than their other two sons and my parents were always helping them with stuff....yet they treated us like poo and we lived in the house next door. The cousins flaunted their shopping spree finds, while we unwrapped our consignment store gifts that were half broken.
I will never forget the time my grandpa was asking my cousin when he wanted to go fishing next. My brother was about 8, and he was the only other grandson. He said in a soft little voice "what about me grandpa?" My grandpa looked at him and looked away without saying anything.
Nothing is worse than being rejected time after time when you are kid, right infront of your face. We had another couple we dubbed our grandparents, as they were no way related to us. Not once did they buy us a gift, they did something better....they went to all of our sports, graduations, they had conversations with us, fed us ice cream when my mom wasnt looking...and were downright amazing.
After dealing with the wrath of my dad's parents for 21 years.....we stopped visiting, my grandma passed, my cousins stopped visiting my grandpa, and my grandpa turned into a bitter man. He has no one. For the past 8 years, I see him at Thanksgiving and Christmas because my mom doesn't want him alone on the holidays and invites him. His other two son's stopped visiting and calling him years ago, when they realized they could no longer mooch of him. My parents still do most things for him, but it hurts my dad the most that his dad was so bitter towards us three.
It's still makes me sad as an adult to think about all of the times they seemed annoyed by us three. As a child, to have that happen over and over....it's devastating. If it was Gator and I was in the situation, I would make the grandparents make the effort and I wouldn't make it for them. I wouldn't force them into anything and would only want them around if they chose to be around. I would rather have people in her life that make an effort and love her, than people that treat her like she is a burden.
First I want to say that I am so sorry that happened to you am I am so sorry to everyone one the boards whose parents choose to not be involved with their grandchildren!
I would flip out if my FIL did that to my son or any future children/nieces/nephews. My heart broke when I read that story! I don't know how your parents handled that, but I would have walked out right then and there an never looked back!
Cameron eats the little Chef Boyardee mini meals once or twice a week. She loves the chicken/rice/vegetable meal and the spaghettios. She's pretty much on a veggie/meat strike and is incredibly picky, so I figure I could do a lot worse. I didn't realize until yesterday's UO thread that other moms may be judging me when seeing that in my grocery cart.
Judge away... when it comes to toddler mealtimes these days, I'll take what I can get!
I have one. We can't seem to stop E's interest in electricity. DS has a electric box and cords he plays with. He's so obsessed with cords and plugs that we gave him some cords and a plug box to play with that's not hooked up to any current.
Our thinking is that we can teach him better this way then him trying to sneak around and plug things in he shouldn't at other people's homes. If he tries to stick anything in there that doesn't belong we can stop him at home thereby teaching him it's wrong.
Either that or we're just pacifying him and we're screwed because he has a very strong will.
I am not judging you for that. I just hate Chef Boyardee and don't want my DS to eat it. Every Mom has to do whatever she has to do so no side eyeing here.
Same. I've been pretty lucky but Abigail has her moments when all she will eat is a Babybel cheese, Kix cereal and a banana. We do what we can.
Burned by the Bear
I second this. Grandparents are suppose to be awesome and supportive. I'm so sorry.