HFA prek being extremely aggressive in the classroom

sjones771

As of recently my 5 year old SS has been acting more and more violently in the classroom. He doesn't know how to act in social situations and he cannot speak and communicate very well either. Normally he keeps to himself or plays around others but not wih them. In mid December he hit a kid and told him he was going to kill him and bust out his teeth. We think his mother and her bf taught him that, although that's another story. Yesterday, he choked a kid, unprovoked, and bit the teacher when she asked him to get of the bike to share. These are just a couple examples. Everyday it's something else. He has started to throw things if he gets extremely upset, although not often. He doesn't act like this at our home or at his mothers home. His mother acknowledges his behavior in school but that's all. She doesn't even really acknowledge he is autistic because she "never has problems with him." That's bs. Has anyone else had his happen with their HFA child and how did you deal with it? We do time out at home and it somewhat works, but its not realistic to do that in class. His therapist will take him outside class to cool down and talk but with his inability to focus on what is being said and his difficulty to even verbalize why or how he feels, I feel like it is near impossible to get him to understand wha he's doing is wrong and hurtful. It's very frustrating and we have run out of ideas on how to work with him.

sjones771

I do understand that there is a lot of stimulus for him in his class. It's a mainstream class btw. Working with his mother is virtually not possible. Besides the fact she doesn't think he needs help, she is a long time liar. Mom has said that she has killed a man before, claimed she walked in on a suicide, claimed she deleted SS medical records from a hospital she claimed she worked at but mever did so she wouldn't have to pay anything...the list goes on. They are in the process of getting a parental assement.

I am just curious as to what DH and I can do in our home with our limited time with SS and lack of help from mom to help him. We do have a son together, a 7 month old, and SS sometimes enjoys playing with him.

Thank you for the book recommendation. I may get it.