Things you wish you could say...

kk2bkd

I read all the time but don't post much. Need to get a few things off my chest! 

Feel free to add yours. Things you wish you could say to everyone/anyone but for some reason can't!

For me - YES we're trying for another baby "ALREADY" and YES I'm just as entitled to do so as any woman who can concieve "NORMALLY".

and... Dear Husband: It does kind of piss me off that you ask my permission to play hockey an extra night of the week knowing full well that I can't/won't say no but also knowing full well that this means I'm alone all day and night oh and I'm the only one packing up to move in ONE WEEK. But sure, no worries, go play hockey and then go out for beer after... sure, don't mind at all.

Whew - feels better.

stepper1725

We currently live 9 hours away from my inlaws. They've come to visit several times, stay in our tiny house as long as they want (i.e. we invite them for the weekend and they stay for a 6 days), smoke outside but still reek of smoke when they come back in, drink too much, etc. DH has a strained relationship with his mom. Right after DD was born they told us they were moving to our town. Their house is currently on the market. MIL is looking for jobs here. They are planning to move here because MIL has ruined pretty much all of the relationships/friendships she has and wants to come live near us because, as she puts it, we're family and we have to love her.

I wish I could tell them how much anxiety they cause me and DH, and how I feel that this is a lot of pressure to put on DD. Their lives now completely revolve around her. But I would never say that, because we're family and I know I have to suck it up.

nawlinsgrl

kk2bkd:

I read all the time but don't post much. Need to get a few things off my chest! 

Feel free to add yours. Things you wish you could say to everyone/anyone but for some reason can't!

For me - YES we're trying for another baby "ALREADY" and YES I'm just as entitled to do so as any woman who can concieve "NORMALLY".

and... Dear Husband: It does kind of piss me off that you ask my permission to play hockey an extra night of the week knowing full well that I can't/won't say no but also knowing full well that this means I'm alone all day and night oh and I'm the only one packing up to move in ONE WEEK. But sure, no worries, go play hockey and then go out for beer after... sure, don't mind at all.

Whew - feels better.

No need to justify that choice, IMO.  Heck, we started working on #2 pretty much right away, due to my age, and the need for IVF.  DD was only 5.5 months when we got pregnant.  I'm due in August, and she'll only be 14.5 months old.  

I never did understand why it was anybody's business how many kids or how often people have them, so long as they can afford to take care of them financially and emotionally.

kpearse99

Dear Hubby,

Why don't you get your butt off the couch, stop watching TV and come play on the dag floor with me and DS!!!!!!!!!

Dear Work,

You preach about how you want a positive work/family life balance.....THEN DO IT!!!!!!!

 Dear Son,

STOP PUKING!!!!!!!!!  But I love you anyway!

Phew.... good topic

kk2bkd

nawlinsgrl:

kk2bkd:

I read all the time but don't post much. Need to get a few things off my chest! 

Feel free to add yours. Things you wish you could say to everyone/anyone but for some reason can't!

For me - YES we're trying for another baby "ALREADY" and YES I'm just as entitled to do so as any woman who can concieve "NORMALLY".

and... Dear Husband: It does kind of piss me off that you ask my permission to play hockey an extra night of the week knowing full well that I can't/won't say no but also knowing full well that this means I'm alone all day and night oh and I'm the only one packing up to move in ONE WEEK. But sure, no worries, go play hockey and then go out for beer after... sure, don't mind at all.

Whew - feels better.

No need to justify that choice, IMO.  Heck, we started working on #2 pretty much right away, due to my age, and the need for IVF.  DD was only 5.5 months when we got pregnant.  I'm due in August, and she'll only be 14.5 months old.  

I never did understand why it was anybody's business how many kids or how often people have them, so long as they can afford to take care of them financially and emotionally.

You're absolutely right! We had DD via Donor Egg IVF b/c I have Premature Ovarian Failure... we got lucky that my aging uterus knew what to do but we don't know how long that will last so why not try now? If it works this cycle the babies will be 19 months apart - I don't think that's too close (if there even is 'too close'??). I just get frustrated b/c the people who don't know expect some sort of explaination (and try to talk us out of having kids close together) and pple who do know act like 'well you got one which was a miracle, don't you think another is expecting a lot'... ugh.

Btw - Congratulations on the new baby!! How very exciting!!

Gnadtkins

I hate that only people who have weight to lose are allowed to complain. I can't keep any weight on, feel like I have to stuff my face with foods that make me feel icky, feel like I look horrible in all my work clothes because I don't want to spend 100s to buy smaller clothes, and am donating money to my gym. The moment I complain, people jump all over my case.

Fun topic!

alizabethanne

Gnadtkins:

I hate that only people who have weight to lose are allowed to complain. I can't keep any weight on, feel like I have to stuff my face with foods that make me feel icky, feel like I look horrible in all my work clothes because I don't want to spend 100s to buy smaller clothes, and am donating money to my gym. The moment I complain, people jump all over my case. Fun topic!

One of my good friends had this issue with her babies while she was BFing. She went down to 95lbs! She was really frustrated by it and ppl were on her case all the time if she complained. She got a modified diet from her doc to follow to help. If it were possible I would send along an extra 25lbs I have kicking around for you!

I would tell my friends who keep baby competing with me that I don't care if your babies talk crawl roll way sooner then mine is... she is growing just fine and she's happy and the best kid I know!

mylittlesunshine

I have co-workers who ask if we will be trying for a boy next time. It drives me bsc!

My IL's also revolve everything around my girls. While I am not dealing with them moving to the area (thank god) they just drive me batty sometimes. They talked about when they retire soon how they are going to come out and rent a place in our city for a month at a time. I asked them what their plan was (since it wasn't going to revolve just on our family). They looked at me like I was a biitch for asking. I don't have issues with them spending time with my children/family, but to a certain point, they need to respect that we have a life that doesn't revolve around them coming to town for a month.

I have a good friend who has a daughter about a month older than DD2...it is her first. She loves to "other mother" me and it drives me insane. I think because my second is a month younger than her first, that she thinks she is more experienced.

seunrine

OMG this thread is cracking me up! I love it!

To my beautiful son - if you don't start to sleep longer than 3 hours at a time Mommy might end up in a mental institution.

To my loving husband - where do I begin? While it may seem that I am handling all this like a pro, I need help. I'm tired, I'm frustrated, and some days I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing. Having you gone for an entire weekend stresses me out and makes me resent you a little bit. And although I don't want to spend one minute away from our son...I miss taking time to do things for myself.

To my office - Cut me some slack. I gravely underestimated how hard this was going to be. And having a child that still doesn't sleep only makes it harder. I'm doing my best.

 Whew With that, I'm going to read a chapter in my book and go to bed.