feeling down...children mentioned not mine

whiteroses05

Hey wonderful ladies! Sorry to just drop in like this but knew you all would understand. For those that are new to the board I would like to say I am sorry for your losses!
Today I took my lunch break and head over to get a sub from Subway. I walked by a table of a family having lunch. As I am standing in line I watch as a sister and brother joke around. The little girl was 5 and brother was 3 or four. So as I am ordering my food I hear an uproar of excitement. The little girl lost her first tooth! All the sudden I feel a flash of sadness! Our lo who we lost at 21 weeks or even our lo we recently lost at 8 weeks, I will never get to see them lose their first tooth! Its not right that any of us have to feel this way! I am hopeful that someday my dh and I will get to have this but in someways wonder if we ever will! In a couple months it will be a year since we got the bad news about our lo passing away. Sorry no real point to this but to vent. Hugs to all you ladies!

Bayberry12

whiteroses05:

All the sudden I feel a flash of sadness! Our lo who we lost at 21 weeks or even our lo we recently lost at 8 weeks, I will never get to see them lose their first tooth! Its not right that any of us have to feel this way! I am hopeful that someday my dh and I will get to have this but in someways wonder if we ever will! In a couple months it will be a year since we got the bad news about our lo passing away. Sorry no real point to this but to vent. Hugs to all you ladies!

I know that flash of sadness.  You loose so much when you loose a child; you loose all your expectations for how you thought your life would be.  I feel like you really do loose your future, and all you have is sadness.  These triggers come out of nowhere, and can really take your breath away.   

I am also nearing the one year mark in a few months, and it is really hard to think about.  A WHOLE YEAR.  So much has happened in that amount of time, but so much could have happened.  It is easy to get caught up in all the "could haves".  Sometimes I just have to go back to taking things one day at a time.

You know we are always here for you! 

fluttergirlmoonchild79

I hate when this happens.  I normally end up not being able to function.  DH and I went to Sam's Club a few months ago and I have no idea why but I saw a family of 4 (mom, dad and 2 kids) and it just hit me.  Even though Corbin was our first I thought about how we never went out together as a family and it made me sad.  We had just started shopping but I was just not with it.  DH had to keep pulling me because my mind was not on this planet and I kept almost running into people.

Big hugs sweetie!

starburst0928

As I read this, there is an annoying little kid running around me...

The pain will hit at the most random times. I'm sorry you got hit with it today over lunch. What a way to ruin your day!