multiples easier than one?

projectbaby2012

A friend emailed an article to me claiming that multiples are easier than a singleton asking me if its true. At three months, I called bs on it. However I can imagine how older babies might be easier to have more than one. What does everyone here think?

https://www.mommyshorts.com/2013/01/5reasonshavingtwinsiseasierthanone.html

amy1007

Um HELL no they are not easier!!!!! Ive had one and good god it was a million x easier.

yinyang124

BS.

ETA: Now that the article has loaded on my phone. LOL! I've experienced some of those. Still BS that twins are easier, but yes, you do get some leniency from others. 

pea-kay

I blogged the same thing.

https://pyjammy.com/?p=2721

But come on, her post is humorous. As is mine. Who really cares? It's not a contest.

yinyang124

pea-kay:

I blogged the same thing.

https://pyjammy.com/?p=2721

But come on, her post is humorous. As is mine. Who really cares? It's not a contest.

Love the post and the pictures to go along with it. 

CourtneySue

Umm no! However I do think it is easier then a toddler newborn at times as you are switching gears back forth with 2 at different stages.

D&HMom

I don't know any different since D&H were my first.  But I helped out a friend last weekend by staying with her singleton overnight and coudln't believe how much easier I found looking after one.  Many things were just logistically easier.  Like bottles, feeding solids, getting up the stairs etc...

There are fleeting moments now where they play together and I can see it improving by the day but the hard times are still hard.  2 screaming toddlers is still 2 screaming toddlers!

macchiatto

I haven't read the article. I've read Pam's. I can see the humor in it but the sad thing is, I know some people (singleton parents) who seriously tried to convince me of that. Their logic is way off. My boys also took 3 years to really start playing with each other so even the "oh they're easier because they entertain each other" line wasn't true for us until recently. And even now, I don't think the times they do play together make up for the constant refereeing I have to do. Like Pam said, it's not a contest, but I still think it's silly when people try to claim it's really true.

There are definitely some pros of having multiples though, and it's true there are times people give you some extra slack because of it, which is very nice.

pea-kay

macchiatto:

I haven't read the article. I've read Pam's. I can see the humor in it but the sad thing is, I know some people (singleton parents) who seriously tried to convince me of that. Their logic is way off. My boys also took 3 years to really start playing with each other so even the "oh they're easier because they entertain each other" line wasn't true for us until recently. And even now, I don't think the times they do play together make up for the constant refereeing I have to do. Like Pam said, it's not a contest, but I still think it's silly when people try to claim it's really true.

There are definitely some pros of having multiples though, and it's true there are times people give you some extra slack because of it, which is very nice.

Needless to say, ONLY MoMs are allowed to make this claim. Any singleton mom who wants to tell me that her one is harder than my three will get a throat punch. Even though it's not a contest.

projectbaby2012

pea-kay:

macchiatto:

I haven't read the article. I've read Pam's. I can see the humor in it but the sad thing is, I know some people (singleton parents) who seriously tried to convince me of that. Their logic is way off. My boys also took 3 years to really start playing with each other so even the "oh they're easier because they entertain each other" line wasn't true for us until recently. And even now, I don't think the times they do play together make up for the constant refereeing I have to do. Like Pam said, it's not a contest, but I still think it's silly when people try to claim it's really true.

There are definitely some pros of having multiples though, and it's true there are times people give you some extra slack because of it, which is very nice.

Needless to say, ONLY MoMs are allowed to make this claim. Any singleton mom who wants to tell me that her one is harder than my three will get a throat punch. Even though it's not a contest.

I agree. I think most of my friends with singletons feel sorry for us right now. They can't imagine having two at the same time. At three months it is getting easier, but is by no means easy.

LottaLattes

My idiot x husband told my bigs that having twins is probably no harder than a baby and a wild 3yo. In all the nastiness of divorce and all that, I think I hated him the most after hearing that ; having been through both, he has no idea.

I do get offers of help sometimes at Costco or the grocery store and lots of "hands full" comments.

kiwi443

I think it's tongue in cheek. I also found it hilarious .

I do think some things are easier with twins, probably because mine really do entertain each other well (for now!). As with everything in life, there are so many variables. Some singleton kids are much harder than two mild-mannered twins, for example.

I recently took my girls to story time, for the first time. It was so easy. They sat nicely on my lap, never tried to crawl away, didn't hit or try to take away other kids' toys during free play. We had a delightful time. My son was a different story, even at that age. If he would've had a twin with a similar temperament, I'd have a very different take on parenting multiples and the challenges that go with it.

macchiatto

pea-kay:

macchiatto:

I haven't read the article. I've read Pam's. I can see the humor in it but the sad thing is, I know some people (singleton parents) who seriously tried to convince me of that. Their logic is way off. My boys also took 3 years to really start playing with each other so even the "oh they're easier because they entertain each other" line wasn't true for us until recently. And even now, I don't think the times they do play together make up for the constant refereeing I have to do. Like Pam said, it's not a contest, but I still think it's silly when people try to claim it's really true.

There are definitely some pros of having multiples though, and it's true there are times people give you some extra slack because of it, which is very nice.

Needless to say, ONLY MoMs are allowed to make this claim. Any singleton mom who wants to tell me that her one is harder than my three will get a throat punch. Even though it's not a contest.

Yes, very good point!  

And Kiwi, that is amazing your LOs handled story time so well! I'm impressed! That kind of thing did not go well for us till my boys were 3 (and only then b/c they were in preschool and getting used to behaving in structured settings).

jlefief

PeaKay- I agree - only MoM's are allowed to make comments about the ease/difficulties of mulitples.

My MIL tried to tell me once that her (smooth sailing) pregancy with her 10 pound son was the same as my (every complication in the book) pregancy with my twins at 5 pounds each.

She was very close to a throat punch.

BabyCarryingVessel

I don't have a singleton but I have also been told that multiples are easier. I would never and have never told singleton parents that they have it easier, so why would they tell me that? I think it's rude. Exhaustion is exhaustion, in my opinion, and every mother has been there!

MuseumMaven

pea-kay:

macchiatto:

I haven't read the article. I've read Pam's. I can see the humor in it but the sad thing is, I know some people (singleton parents) who seriously tried to convince me of that. Their logic is way off. My boys also took 3 years to really start playing with each other so even the "oh they're easier because they entertain each other" line wasn't true for us until recently. And even now, I don't think the times they do play together make up for the constant refereeing I have to do. Like Pam said, it's not a contest, but I still think it's silly when people try to claim it's really true.

There are definitely some pros of having multiples though, and it's true there are times people give you some extra slack because of it, which is very nice.

Needless to say, ONLY MoMs are allowed to make this claim. Any singleton mom who wants to tell me that her one is harder than my three will get a throat punch. Even though it's not a contest.

I was thinking the same thing!

WhiteysWifey

Depends on what in particular you're discussing. 
Our DD was 2 when our triplets were born. The first year, particularly with sleeping, the trio was a easier than our singleton.

notallisonmarie22

I did not sleep a single minute last night.  I just read that b.s. and I want to punch that hoar in the face.  That is all.

MelleTX

After 6 weeks of being a single mom to twins, I can honestly say that having a husband and just one baby might be similar to having and caring for a cat. 

I also have 3 cats.