My son has been struggling in school since first grade and is now currently in second grade. He has a hard time focusing and staying on task and as a result he's behind in math and writing. He also doesn't retain information for very long so anything he learns has to be repeated over and over to him. By the next day however he forgets. Surprisingly, he's an excellent reader because it's something he has always taken an interest in. He does talk a lot and interrupts but he's not impulsive (other than for little things such as talking) or aggressive towards others. He's a pretty good kid and a joy to be around. As you have probably guessed by now he does likely have ADHD.
My problem isn't that my son has ADHD but that his school isn't giving him the extra help that he needs. He's had the same teacher for two years in a row and so she has known that my son has been struggling quite badly in school. She has voiced her concerns and took the initial steps to get him extra assiantance. However, I was told that it would take 6 weeks before the school would evaluate him and consider him for special ed services. After 6 weeks, they then told me that it would take months before they'd consider him for Special Ed unless there was a diagnosis such as ADHD. So, I made an appointement and presented the doctor with the questionaire that his teacher and I filled out about my son's behavior and he was diagnosed ADHD. I have told both the school and the doctor that I do not and will not put my son on medication. Both the doctor and I agree, I think, that the school was pushing a diagnosis in hopes of getting him medicated. I basically told him that I was there not because I was shopping around for a diagnosis but because the school basically told me I needed to take my son to the doctor for an evaluation in hopes of speeding up the process of getting him extra assistance. He felt that there was a high probability he has ADHD but that it would be a good idea to come back the following school semester with at least 2 more questionaire's filled out by 2 different educators other than his 2nd grade teacher to definitely confirm he has ADHD. So, medication wasn't discussed.
Basically, what I am confused about is why it's taking so long for the school to test my son to see if he qualifies for Special Ed Services. The Special Ed Committee recently reviewed my son's referral from his teacher for extra assistance and kicked it back because they want a behavioral plan implemented in the classroom. His teacher has had a behavioral chart in the classroom documenting my son's behavior. He brings it home everyday and I intial it. If he meets the expectations he gets a plus, if he doesn't he gets a minus. He usually meets the weekly goal of whatever points she wants him to meet. Now they want something along the same lines but that challenges him more. So, I have to wait another month before they'll reconsider the referral from his teacher to get extra assistance. When I met with his teacher, school psychologist, and another woman they felt that medicating could help him. However, I won't put him on meds and I have told them this before so it was a little upsetting medication was even brought up. They said it's my choice and nobody is pushing me to put him on meds but that in their opinion and experience I should give it a try. I'm sorry but I refuse to do so. If he was aggressive, impuslive, and disruptive I would consider it. I'm not completely convinced he has ADHD and I think he probably has a learning disability. However, how can I know if the school won't evaluate him? Is it normal for a school to require a medical diagnosis before they act on getting a child evaluated for Special Ed Services? Without the medical diagnosis I know for a fact that the referral wouldn't even have reached the Special Ed committee. I'm at my witts end on what to do. It''ll be halfway through the school year before he finally gets evaluated (if they even accept the referral). Also, I don't understand why they can't have someone help him in school. At his other school he didn't need a diagnosis or to be placed in special ed for extra assistance in math. They simply had a special ed teacher pull a group of kids out of class for 45 min to focus on math or reading. We live in Germany and he's attending a DOD school. I'm not sure if that makes a difference. Does anyone have any advise?