Big time potty training issues and more...

thedanusc

 Two things going on here:

My dd will be 3 in a couple of weeks. She goes both #1 and # 2 on potty if we take her all day long. She can hold it for a while and has good control.  She can also go to the potty by herself if i tell her to go.  She is super smart, but has never said the words"I need to go potty" the only thing she will say is "I am pooping" right when she is about to go poop. If we forget to take her she will just pee in panties or in pullup and then say immediately "I pee peed"  

l am so over it!  She started going in the potty before she even turned 2!!!  

Should I just let her have the accidents and not take her all the time to see if she will finally get it???   Any suggestions???

 Also, I take her to the bathroom right before bed and quiet time and almost every time she will pee in her pull-up and yell " mommy I pee peed" in order to delay nap, etc. she does it on purpose because literally she just went to the bathroom. And there will hardly be any pee in her pull-up.  How should I handle this, because it clearly is a game.

I know this was ridiculously long. I appreciate any feedback!! Thanks! 

Stephanie2167

Switch her to big girl panties and out of pullups. DD only wears pullups at bedtime because she doesn't hold it through the night yet.

I'd think she doesn't know what it feel like to pee her pants since the pullup absorbs like a diaper.

JulySpark05

If I tell DD to use the potty then we'll be accident free but I think she needs to do it on her own. For poop though she started pooping in her underwear last week (we have only been training for two weeks now) so I tell her to poop when she goes on the potty. For the rest of the day though, I just remind her that if she needs to go, she should go. That's when she started going on her own without telling me so it might be worth a try since now she might be dependent on you telling her when to use the potty instead of doing it herself.

She will usually have one or no pee accidents but if she has one during the day, it doesn't happen again since she will make sure to go on the potty before she has an accident the next time. I should also say that her pee accidents are basically just dribbles of pee on her underwear so she's come a long ways!

ThatWasAHoot

I think that pullups are actually a disadvantage while potty training.  "Don't go pee/poop in your pants, but here is a diaper."  It is sort of a mixed signal to a child.  Just switch completely to undies and see if that helps.

tyke29

We are not at that point yet, but my suggestions is to stop pull up (only use them for nap and bedtime) and if she wets her clothing make her change herself.  At nap or bed when she has gone and you know it is only alittle in the pull-up, then let her sleep in it. 

AmericanInOz

I agree to ditch the pull ups during the day - then they feel it running down their legs and don't like it

I'd set up some sort of reward too for going on the potty - it's the only thing that motivated dd to WANT to go there - we have a little jar of M&Ms and she gets 1 if she goes in the potty

plus if I see her starting to go I run her to the potty and if she finishes there she gets an M&M too

nothing for going in her pants

she TOTALLY is motivated now.....

Angela814

We never had problems using pull ups, but I could also put DD in a diaper, and she won't deliberately pee in it. It sounds like in your case, your DD needs to understand feeling wet and uncomfortable in order to motivate her to use the potty. I'd move to undies during the day and just expect a few accidents while she's learning.

Jessys_Girl

1) we had the SAME issue of her not ever telling us she had to go.  I was losing it!  SO finally, I "tricked" her into it.  I had been saying "Tell us when you have to go"....but then I started saying "Mommy and Daddy REALLY need your help!  We can't remember when it's time to go potty, we really need you to remind us when it's time, it's so hard for us to remember, can you help us?" and I even said one day "It's your big girl responsibility to remind mommy when we have to go potty"  and she loved learning the word "responsibility" (LOL She likes new words).  So now, she "reminds" me all the time "Mommy, I gotta go potty now, remember?"  LOL.  It worked great.

Now that being said, I still sometimes will ask her if she has to go and I kind of keep track in my head of when she last went, so I can encourage her to go if it's been a long time, but she's taken it on now that she thinks it's doing me a favor.


2) I allow ONE "get up and pee" at bedtime.  As far as peeing in the pullup and needing changed, I would just tell her "We'll change it after your nap, go to sleep" and leave her.  She'll realize after a while that you're not going to change a barely peed pull up just to delay the nap and she'll stop doing it.