Attachment Parenting

need bedsharing advice

Visiting bumpie from my BMB!  Typically I just let baby and toddler lead the way when it comes to eating, sleeping, peeing etc and up until now, that has worked great.  Even with our 3.5 year old.  But I am now at a loss!

We bedshare.  Since baby has come, DH sleeps in our room with DS1 on the floor in his nest.  DS2 and I bedshare in another room.  For one, DH is too heavy of a sleeper to have baby in bed with him, and also I dont want crying baby to stir DS1.

So the problem is that DS2 is a VERY LOUD sleeper.  He grunts, groans, and growls all night long.  Its progressively getting worse.  I love snuggling with him all night long, but Im not getting any sleep at all.  I have the arms reach co-sleeper, and he actually STTN when I put him in it one time.  But every other time I've tried using it, he has fussed and fussed.  So I feel like he needs to be in bed with me, but IDK.  I feel selfish for needing to move him, but maybe theres a better way to do it?  Thoughts and suggestions please!  TIA! 

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Re: need bedsharing advice

  • When you put him on his own, did you swaddle? If you're going to try getting him into the cosleeper/crib, you've got to try the tricks of the trade - swaddle, white noise, leave something with your scent near.

    You've got to sleep. You could also use earplugs, if that would help. Trust me, you'll still hear and be aware when he needs you.

  • Thanks for the suggestions!  I think the ear plugs and white noise are great ideas.  I think the white noise might drown out some of the groaning too...hopefully.  If not, the crib it is :(  Although, DS is really easy-going, so it probably wont bother him near as much as l think its bothering him.

    Thanks again, really I just needed affirmation that its okay to move him if needed. 

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