Way to tell DH when you get a +

Carolina Blue Skies

My first beta is always on a Monday, so for my last 2 cycles, I have POAS the Saturday or Sunday before.  In both cases, they were + and I surprised DH both times.  First with a set of books he wanted...saying he had to finish them in 9 months.  Second was his favorite book from childhood.  Unfortunately both ended in m/c.  Even though the first + doesn't always mean we'll have a baby, I still want to celebrate it (and what it this one works - wouldn't it be nice to have a story to tell our child of how I told his/her dad)?

IVF has taken a lot of the fun/surprises out of TTC.  I just want this one thing to feel somewhat normal.  Any suggestions?  And looking for a different idea this time - maybe that'll help the little embie stick!

thebrewers2005

I love this idea!!!!  I need to start a secret board on Pinterest or something with fun ideas.

Side note:  I'm in NC, are you!??  I'm guessing from your username.  

BootsOrHearts

There's no way I'd be able to surprise my DH. He asks EVERYDAY when it gets close to that time 'can you test today?'. And when I get up in the morning, he hears the wrapper being opened so he's waiting outside the door when I'm done asking what it says.

kflynn81

BootsOrHearts:

There's no way I'd be able to surprise my DH. He asks EVERYDAY when it gets close to that time 'can you test today?'. And when I get up in the morning, he hears the wrapper being opened so he's waiting outside the door when I'm done asking what it says.

Thats really cute

kflynn81

I'm trying to think of ways to tell him too. Fortunately for me, DH works midnights and sleeps all day so he will be asleep when I get the call. If its a BFP, then I have some time to do something creative for when he wakes up. I'm going to keep an eye on this post.....or I'll come back if I think of something

solisilou

BootsOrHearts:

There's no way I'd be able to surprise my DH. He asks EVERYDAY when it gets close to that time 'can you test today?'. And when I get up in the morning, he hears the wrapper being opened so he's waiting outside the door when I'm done asking what it says.

Same here

DH already asked today when could I start POAS. LOL

shellb1978

I bought a onsie that says "My Dad Rocks" when we started TTC 2 years ago, thats been at the top of our closet I've been planning to give him when I would get a BFP.  Now, it might be harder to surprise him, since we have found out he has zero sperm, and we are doing DIUI next month.  He knows I'll be able to test 2 weeks after we do the DIUI, but I'm hoping he loses track of the days, and I can still be able to surprise him with the onsie.

Balabusta

I have always wanted to surprise DH with this news by putting a shirt on my dog saying "Big sister" because DH is always dressing up the dog (BTW it's a German Shepherd, so she always looks ridiculous in clothes)

But.... 

I will probably run out of the bathroom, screaming, crying and snotting trying to tell him I'm KTFU. He probably wont understand me because when I cry I don't sound human, and then I'll probably shove the pee stick in his face! 

 

Carolina Blue Skies

thebrewers2005:

Side note:  I'm in NC, are you!??  I'm guessing from your username.  

Yes, I am in NC!  Triangle area, you? 

And in regards to surprising DH, he isn't the most organized person, so he doesn't keep exact track of things.  I just don't tell him when my first beta is.  At this point, he can probably figure it out, but I don't think he makes an effort to do so that I can (hopefully) have this moment to tell him.

Zaphina

Balabusta:

I will probably run out of the bathroom, screaming, crying and snotting trying to tell him I'm KTFU. He probably wont understand me because when I cry I don't sound human, and then I'll probably shove the pee stick in his face! 

I think about cute ways to tell him (and everyone else!) quite frequently, but then I always think I'll end up just doing something like this! Lol.

katka512

shellb1978:

I bought a onsie that says "My Dad Rocks" when we started TTC 2 years ago, thats been at the top of our closet I've been planning to give him when I would get a BFP.  Now, it might be harder to surprise him, since we have found out he has zero sperm, and we are doing DIUI next month.  He knows I'll be able to test 2 weeks after we do the DIUI, but I'm hoping he loses track of the days, and I can still be able to surprise him with the onsie.

 

i bought a onesie too, last May, to surprise DH with when we got a positive. I thought it would be coming soon. It has monkeys on it and says " hanging out with daddy."  It's still sitting in my closet. Not sure if ill really be able to surprise him with it since he knows when I'm getting the call and will check in for results during the day. Hope I can find a way to though!

liz4paws

I totally hear ya! I've never had a BFP, but when we first started TTC in early 2011, I put together a gift bag of daddy and baby items to be ready as the announcement. They have been in a cute gift bag, wrapped and ready to grab and give to him the moment the BFP happened. Inside of the bag, theres a Handbook for New Dads, a baby onesie that says "Wish Granted", a picture frame that says "I love my daddy" and in the frame itself it says "coming 2011" (yeah right!.) I also have a couple of daddy and baby animal story books, and lastly a musical card that plays the song "Celebrate good times" and the outside is addressed to: Daddy.

I've secretly gone up in the closet throughout our infertility journey a few times and sat with the different items on my lap and just sobbed. But I still want to be able to give this gift bag to him when that day a BFP finally does come, even if he's slightly expecting it. He's definitely not expecting the gift bag! I won't let IF steal every bit of magic away from me.

I doubt the batteries in the card still work, but whatever, it's the thought that counts, right?

BeckyP005

liz4paws:

I totally hear ya! I've never had a BFP, but when we first started TTC in early 2011, I put together a gift bag of daddy and baby items to be ready as the announcement. They have been in a cute gift bag, wrapped and ready to grab and give to him the moment the BFP happened. Inside of the bag, theres a Handbook for New Dads, a baby onesie that says "Wish Granted", a picture frame that says "I love my daddy" and in the frame itself it says "coming 2011" (yeah right!.) I also have a couple of daddy and baby animal story books, and lastly a musical card that plays the song "Celebrate good times" and the outside is addressed to: Daddy.

I've secretly gone up in the closet throughout our infertility journey a few times and sat with the different items on my lap and just sobbed. But I still want to be able to give this gift bag to him when that day a BFP finally does come, even if he's slightly expecting it. He's definitely not expecting the gift bag! I won't let IF steal every bit of magic away from me.

I doubt the batteries in the card still work, but whatever, it's the thought that counts, right?

Aww that's so cute....as I wipe tears from my eyes! GL to all you girls

JewelsW1980

I want to do something special too if/when we ever get another BFP. 

My first BFP I told him while bawling my eyes out that we were pregnant but I was bleeding. It was a sad, sad day.

With the FET I haven't kept him in the know of every single little itty bitty thing going on so I may be able to record his reaction too...like I've always wanted....I'm hoping.

LuClo

When I knew we were going to do IVF I ordered a cute onsie off Etsy- it has a little beaker and says "Made with Love and Science".  It seemed to fit.

DH is in the daily 'can we test yet' boat and has a copy of our treatment schedule, so it won't be much surprise.

thebrewers2005

Carolina Blue Skies:

thebrewers2005:

Side note:  I'm in NC, are you!??  I'm guessing from your username.  

Yes, I am in NC!  Triangle area, you? 

Me too!!!  I'm in Johnston County but doctors are all in Raleigh.  We'll have to connect!  I'll send you a PM now.  

thebrewers2005

Ugh.  Won't let me message you.  Silly forum website bump thingy.

dede0726

Zaphina:

Balabusta:

I will probably run out of the bathroom, screaming, crying and snotting trying to tell him I'm KTFU. He probably wont understand me because when I cry I don't sound human, and then I'll probably shove the pee stick in his face! 

I think about cute ways to tell him (and everyone else!) quite frequently, but then I always think I'll end up just doing something like this! Lol.

 This will probably be me! DH is counting every day so it would be tough to surprise him!

Carolina Blue Skies

thebrewers2005:

Carolina Blue Skies:

thebrewers2005:

Side note:  I'm in NC, are you!??  I'm guessing from your username.  

Yes, I am in NC!  Triangle area, you? 

Me too!!!  I'm in Johnston County but doctors are all in Raleigh.  We'll have to connect!  I'll send you a PM now.  

Bummer - I tried, too. Shoot me an e-mail at: carolinablueskies @ hotmail

Temp878586125009588

Unfortunately, I've just gotten to the point of just telling him, and then when the beta comes in, what the number was. This time, I don't think there will be any POAS action though, I'm going to try to hold out the full 2ww. And unfortunately, my office makes you wait 2 full weeks from transfer day for the first beta.  

firesiren

liz4paws:

I totally hear ya! I've never had a BFP, but when we first started TTC in early 2011, I put together a gift bag of daddy and baby items to be ready as the announcement. They have been in a cute gift bag, wrapped andnbsp;ready to grab and give to him the moment the BFP happened. Inside of the bag, theres a Handbook for New Dads, a baby onesie that says "Wish Granted", a picture frame that says "I love my daddy" and in the frame itself it says "coming 2011" yeah right!. I also have a couple of daddy and baby animal story books, and lastly anbsp;musical card that plays the song "Celebrate good times" and the outside is addressed to: Daddy.
I've secretly gone up in the closet throughout our infertility journey a few times andnbsp;sat with the different items on my lapnbsp;and just sobbed. But I still want to be able to give this gift bag to him when that day a BFP finally does come, even if he's slightly expecting it. He's definitely not expecting the gift bag! I won't let IF steal every bit of magic away from me.
I doubt the batteries in the card still work, but whatever, it's the thought that counts, right? :

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This makes me cry. I so know that feeling. This month is three years trying. Big hugs to you Liz. I hope your snowflakes are your miracle

liz4paws

firesiren:

liz4paws:

I totally hear ya! I've never had a BFP, but when we first started TTC in early 2011, I put together a gift bag of daddy and baby items to be ready as the announcement. They have been in a cute gift bag, wrapped andnbsp;ready to grab and give to him the moment the BFP happened. Inside of the bag, theres a Handbook for New Dads, a baby onesie that says "Wish Granted", a picture frame that says "I love my daddy" and in the frame itself it says "coming 2011" yeah right!. I also have a couple of daddy and baby animal story books, and lastly anbsp;musical card that plays the song "Celebrate good times" and the outside is addressed to: Daddy. I've secretly gone up in the closet throughout our infertility journey a few times andnbsp;sat with the different items on my lapnbsp;and just sobbed. But I still want to be able to give this gift bag to him when that day a BFP finally does come, even if he's slightly expecting it. He's definitely not expecting the gift bag! I won't let IF steal every bit of magic away from me. I doubt the batteries in the card still work, but whatever, it's the thought that counts, right? :

. This makes me cry. I so know that feeling. This month is three years trying. Big hugs to you Liz. I hope your snowflakes are your miracle

Aww, thank you so much.  FX for you too!