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We want to put SS in a sport. When DH txt BM she agreed. I'm really not looking forward to this but I will live. Do you think it's strange to put my daughter on the same team? My daughter also wants to play and at this age the teams are still coed. It would make practices and games much easier. If I don't put her on his team they will end up playing each other twice anyway. Also in a non blended family situation would you put brother and sister on the same team? 

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Re: Same team?

  • mom2onemom2one member
    If the kids get along reasonably well then YES I would definitely do it. It's no fun at all juggling two schedules of games and practices if it's not necessary!
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    In a non-blended family, yes, I would put both on the same team.  As long as the two children do not have issues with each other that are concerning and it owuld not be an issue with BM, I would do this too.
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  • cole2144cole2144 member
    Yes I would put them on the same team.
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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member

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    In a non-blended family, yes, I would put both on the same team.  As long as the two children do not have issues with each other that are concerning and it owuld not be an issue with BM, I would do this too.
     

    I have a feeling BM won't like it at all. I don't think she will do anything but I don't think it will make her happy. 

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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member
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    In a nonblended family, yes, I would put both on the same team.nbsp; As long as the two children do not have issues with each other that are concerning and it owuld not be an issue with BM, I would do this too.


    I'm sorry, but as long as the kids get along and want to be together, who cares what BM thinks? Why should the kids not be able to play together just to appease BM? One kid should have to miss out just because BM might have an issue? If this is the case, BM needs to grow up.

    If both kids want to play the same sport and the team is local and convenient for all parties involved, then they should be together. Depending on the league, you may not even have a choice in the matter. Besides, as we all say here, "this is about the KIDS, not the adults". If the kids are happy and get along, then the adults' issues need to take the backseat.
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    If it was your two kids would you?
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  • twister22twister22 member
    I say put them on the same team. And this is coming from a BM.
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  • lb1212lb1212 member
    YES put them on the same team!!  Why not make some part of your life easy? Especially if the alternative if having them literally compete against each other!
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  • blush64blush64 member
    I would put them on the same team either in a blended family or not. It will be easier in every way. If my kids were closer in age they would have been on the same teams in everything they were in.
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  • SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
    I don't see why you would separate them. You'd have to keep up with two different team schedules and it would make things way more hectic. You would probably have to choose sometimes whether to attend DDs game or SS game, and it would just get complicated.
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  • katie_cjkatie_cj member

    Absolutely put them on the same team.

    I'm a BM and if I were in the situation, I would do the same thing for the convenience. 

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  • IlumineIlumine member

    I am lone dissenting voice I guess.  I would not put them on the same team NO MATTER WHAT.

    1) Children need separate interests.  Even if they like the same sport, they need to be individuals.  The earlier the better.

    2) Comparisons happen.  It is very hard not to do so. Especially if there is a marked difference in ability.  

    3) Competition within a blended family is hard on the kids to begin with, but fostering daily/weekly competition (one or two games out of a season is not the same) just begs for more problems.

    4) This can easily become both distracting for each other AND can actually deter creating outside friendships, ie they could rely on each other too much.

    The whole point of pee-wee sports is to two-fold: to teach the basics and to help foster interpersonal relationships.  The possibility of harming that outweighs the parent's need to streamling their logistics.

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  • Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member

    While I agree with Ilumine in that children needs separate interests, if this sport is something they both want to do then absolutely you should put them on the same team to prevent schedule conflicts. As someone who typically has 4 kids in different sports or activities at the same time, it gets difficult to juggle and if games overlap, you are forced to choose a game to go to. It sucks.

    Just don't do what BM in our situation did, one season she forced SS10 to play football and even convinced them to put him in the lower age bracket because of his size (he's skinny) so he could be on SS8's team flag team instead of bantam which had the kids his age. SS10 hated football and ended up sitting on the bench most of the season. Baseball has always been SS10's sport and the last season SS10 played baseball, she held him back a level so that he could be on SS8's team (first time SS8 played baseball) because their friends from football were coaching. So he went from player pitch back to coach pitch.

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