Siggy warning. Suggestions for help for a friend

monlyn9

Hello ladies,I just found out yesterday that a coworker lost her baby on Friday at 38 weeks. I don't know details at this point. I was curious if any of you who have experienced later term losses could offer suggestions of what our group of coworkers might do for her to help ease her pain. I can't even imagine what she is going through right now. She has a teenager, an almost 4 year old, and a 16 month old at home. She has had a couple of miscarriages over the past few years but they have all been first tri losses. Any suggestions that any of you might have for us to do for her would be greatly appreciated.

lrichmond86

I'm very sorry for your friend's loss. After our loss I didn't want to see or talk to anyone for several weeks. But I did appreciate all the very personal cards and gifts flowers, food baskets that were sent to us. Also, dh and I had a hard time pulling it together enough to do "normal" things like food shopping. Many of our friends and family sent us meals for the first few weeks. Could you email your friend and ask if she would like you to organize some people at work to drop of meals for her family? I imagine this would be helpful with three other children at home. My heart truly goes out to her and her family.

Jennifer271012

This is terrible, my heart breaks for this lady.

I would give her time and space. After my loss, I needed to be alone with my husband to just process and really deal with the rawness of the situation. It really wasn't pretty and I was grateful that my family and friends respected our wishes.

I would perhaps send an email or card telling her you're thinking of her.

cherrycobbler

I'm so sorry for your friend's loss.  I will also say that I was in no mood for doing any kind of shopping or cooking, so I will vote for meals and/or food.  Since she has other children-maybe some healthy snacks for them as well.  I wasn't so much into sitting down and having a meal but more like picking and grazing.  Sandwich platter, cheeses, fruit and veggies and hummus and dips, cookies (not healthy, but yummy) and also meals.  I'm going to assume the 4 year old and maybe even the teenager will not be as negatively affected so they will probably want real food.

Also, you can check out our Loss Blog, there are some more ideas there. The link is at the top of our main page and also in my sig.  

(And could you also put a siggy warnig in your post title.  I feel some of the newer ladies here might not want to see your tickers.)  

Bayberry12

These women have given you really good suggestions.  I will tell you the worst thing you or you co-workers could do, would be to ignore her loss and her grief.  when and If she comes back to work she will be a different person, and people need to acknowledge and understand that.   

cherrycobbler:

Also, you can check out our Loss Blog, there are some more ideas there. The link is at the top of our main page and also in my sig.  

Please read the blog.  https://thelossblog.blogspot.com/  and FAQ at the top of the page.   

meli1025

Bayberry12:

These women have given you really good suggestions.  I will tell you the worst thing you or you co-workers could do, would be to ignore her loss and her grief.  when and If she comes back to work she will be a different person, and people need to acknowledge and understand that.   

cherrycobbler:

Also, you can check out our Loss Blog, there are some more ideas there. The link is at the top of our main page and also in my sig.  

I'm so sorry for your co-worker's loss.  You got a lot of good advice here, and I can't agree more with the fact that her baby should be acknowledged.  When I returned to work, people didn't know what to say so they didn't say anything at all.  That hurt me more than anything.  It is OK for people to say they're sorry and offer an ear.

Please read the blog.  https://thelossblog.blogspot.com/  and FAQ at the top of the page.   

meli1025

Bayberry12:

These women have given you really good suggestions.  I will tell you the worst thing you or you co-workers could do, would be to ignore her loss and her grief.  when and If she comes back to work she will be a different person, and people need to acknowledge and understand that.   

cherrycobbler:

Also, you can check out our Loss Blog, there are some more ideas there. The link is at the top of our main page and also in my sig.  

I'm so sorry for your co-worker's loss.  You got a lot of good advice here, and I can't agree more with the fact that her baby should be acknowledged.  When I returned to work, people didn't know what to say so they didn't say anything at all.  That hurt me more than anything.  It is OK for people to say they're sorry and offer an ear.

Please read the blog.  https://thelossblog.blogspot.com/  and FAQ at the top of the page.   

LuckEinLuv

Everyone had great suggestions. If you want to set something up with coworkers to bring food, www.takethemameal.com is a great way to organize everything.