Too early to setup nursery?

Pinksparkle28

If anyone can understand why Im nervous you ladies can. Im 23 weeks and we bought the crib last weekend. We had someone come do wall art in the baby's room. Somehow keeping the crip in the box makes me feel safe, like if something were to happen then it could all just go back hassel free per say. If we set up the nursery and build the crib and decorate I feel like I'm setting myself up for heartache. When are you going to set up the nursery or when will you? TIA

ktbelle1211

We're only 8 weeks along but talked about this yesterday.  My BF wants to talk about nursery ideas and all these things that go along with pregnancy and I'm so scared to.  I have a feeling once I get to hear the heartbeat I'll start planning and doing things like nursery ideas, etc. 

FreyaWin2382

I think the fact that you bought the crib is a good first step. FWIW, we didn't set up our crib until almost 30 weeks....even going into baby stores was very difficult for me and, following my shower, I hesitated about even taking the tags off anything. Finally, around 35 weeks I decided to "rip the band aids off" in a sense and did load after load of baby clothes....it honestly got easier as I went forward and was then able to buckle down and "do" the nursery.  I say just take your time and support one another....you'll get there.

QuigleyCat1

*lurking*

Here's how I look at it:

1. You're 23 weeks along; not 4.  I realize that things can happen at any stage.

2. If, God-forbid, something were to happen you would have heartache regardless of whether or not your crib is set up. And you already have permanent art on the walls, right?

3.I say, go ahead and set everything up.  Why?  Because you should be enjoying all of these fun things!  I remember how much I enjoyed setting up our DS's room.  

I guess what i'm trying to say is, while I understand your fears, don't let it take away from enjoying the tiny little life inside of you!  (((hugs)))

Pinksparkle28

QuigleyCat1:

*lurking*

Here's how I look at it:

1. You're 23 weeks along; not 4.  I realize that things can happen at any stage.

2. If, God-forbid, something were to happen you would have heartache regardless of whether or not your crib is set up. And you already have permanent art on the walls, right?

3.I say, go ahead and set everything up.  Why?  Because you should be enjoying all of these fun things!  I remember how much I enjoyed setting up our DS's room.  

I guess what i'm trying to say is, while I understand your fears, don't let it take away from enjoying the tiny little life inside of you!  (((hugs)))

Thank you! I guess I needed to hear it from someone else. These paranoid thoughts need to go away!

bananers

Agree with everything Quigley said. Also, you can NOT jinx your pregnancy. I say do it!

minicheezburg

QuigleyCat1:

*lurking*

Here's how I look at it:

1. You're 23 weeks along; not 4.  I realize that things can happen at any stage.

2. If, God-forbid, something were to happen you would have heartache regardless of whether or not your crib is set up. And you already have permanent art on the walls, right?

3.I say, go ahead and set everything up.  Why?  Because you should be enjoying all of these fun things!  I remember how much I enjoyed setting up our DS's room.  

I guess what i'm trying to say is, while I understand your fears, don't let it take away from enjoying the tiny little life inside of you!  (((hugs)))

Could not agree with this more! I tell all the PgAL ladies exactly what she said for #2.

martyn17

I think you should go for it.  Have fun!  Show us photos!

panacea05

Yep, do it! I'm 28.5 weeks, and we don't have anything done yet, because we had to do some reconstruction on the house first. Now, I feel like I'm running out of time. Start now, so you can really enjoy putting it all together! 

Lilmrslay

I decided to bite the bullet and uh a crib yesterday after our 2nd positive scan seeing baby moving with a strong heartbeat.

After 2 previous losses I have decided to celebrate getting this far and start acting like I'm expecting a full term baby, not a loss. I still have my fears, but I want to move away from waiting for the worst, to enjoying what's actually feeling like a reality for once. 

Gregermis

I'm 23wks too... we started clearing out some of the things in the room, but definitely haven't set anything up yet.  We still have awhile to go (hopefully)

luvmyducks

((hugs))  It is hard but exciting at the same time.  You can wait a little bit if it makes you feel better.  But setting up the nursery won't jinx anything.

D&S724

I understand how you feel.  My two older boys are going to be sharing a room once the new baby comes (my younger son currently sleeps in the "nursery").  We have started looking into bunk beds for them, and it makes me nervous to make these big changes so soon before I give birth.

Part of me realizes that it's just my PgAL brain going into overdrive, and I'm trying hard to enjoy this time of my pregnancy.  I know if I don't cherish these moments, I'm going to regret it later.

babystoli

Lilmrslay:

I decided to bite the bullet and uh a crib yesterday after our 2nd positive scan seeing baby moving with a strong heartbeat.

After 2 previous losses I have decided to celebrate getting this far and start acting like I'm expecting a full term baby, not a loss.

I still have my fears, but I want to move away from waiting for the worst, to enjoying what's actually feeling like a reality for once.nbsp;

I may buy a crib before Tuesday! Land of nod has a sale til Tuesday, and they can delay shipping for six weeks. I have my 12 wk appointment on Wednesday... So hopefully it goes well!!