My First Twin Freak Out

Dragonfly1226

Yesterday DH came home with a Joovy Big Caboose triple stroller. I took one look at it and started crying. Poor didn't know what to do. The stroller was just so big and I started to freak out. All I kept thinking about was how in the world would I be able to get down the steps and out of the apartment with that stroller, two infants, and a toddler? I am a SAHM and DS and I are usually out and about every morning. Then I felt so guilty. It was just three years ago that we didn't think we would ever have kids. Now we have an amazing son and two more children on the way. It's more than we could ever have dreamed. I should be over the moon. Instead I look at the big stroller and have a melt down. Please tell me that this is normal.

raraavis28

Totally normal; your hormones are going crazy and let's face it: as amazing as twins are they can also be intimidating as heck. I think emotional roller coasters are just par for the course. I hope you feel better soon...it will all be ok! hugs

jcath

I think it's really normal.  Frankly thinking about getting two infants and a toddler out of an apartment makes me want to cry

You will totally figure it out -it's the great thing about multiples, you become very creative about logisitics.  I tended to use baby carriers (bjorn, ergo etc) more than my stroller and even now I use a backpack carrier over a stroller.

I was so excited about getting a fancy stroller and I was really bummed b/c twin strollers just aren't sexy.  

BDK807

Totally normal. I had freak outs like this all the time before the twins arrived. DD1 was 20 months when the twins arrived and I also SAH. It's not easy but you find a way that works for you to do almost anything.
That stroller is huge too, I remember looking at it. lol

MuseumMaven

Totally normal! I'm sure it will be crazy at times, but you'll be ok!

D&HMom

it is entirely okay to be grateful and freaked out at the same time. Cuz like seriously there are 2 of them. I still look at my twins and think 'omg there are two of you...how did I do it" and you  have one more than me!  You also know whats to come come since you been through it before.

I can tell you this: It will be nuts, you will struggle but you will also know more love than ever before and you will be fine...and eventually better than fine!

Take care.

kgs0505

Totally normal!  The logistics of doing things is what is freaking me out the most.  I know we'll figure it out and it'll take some practice, but eventually we will all figure out how to do it!

LadyNikon

I freaked out, cried and had a panic attack at the hospital when the doctor said I could come home.  I was like "OMG I AM ALONE!"  You can do this!

Dragonfly1226

Thanks everyone. You have made me fee so much better. I love these LOs so much, even if I freak out once in a while. It's good to know that it's normal though.

kiwi443

My DS and DDs are about the same age apart that your kids will be. It's okay to be scared. It is scary to think about caring for 3 kids under 3. But, you will figure it out and slowly it'll feel less daunting.

macchiatto

Agreed, so normal! And the picture you just painted freaks me out, too. Can you keep the stroller in the car? I never took mine in the house ... but we weren't in an apartment. I agree that you have to get creative with the logistics. I would probably put one baby in a wrap/carrier, carry the other in an infant seat with one hand, and hold your toddler's hand with your other hand to get to and from the car.

cewilliams7

Totally normal girl!  I was shopping for a triple stroller myself and all I could think of was how they all looked like missles!  I cried ofcourse and decided I couldn't handle that for now.  It's all hormones and the emotions are running wild and after my pregnancy with DD I didn't think to imagine how much more intensified symptoms are with multiples.  It's ok girl I'm sure many of us completely understand.

kiwi443

RWMomma:

Totally normal! My first twin freak out was because I realized there was no way I could safely get 2 toddlers and 2 infants down three flights of stairs and out of our apartment. My DH calmly said that our lease would be up before we had the twins and that we would just need to move. (Not actually all that easy, but was doable for us.) And my second meltdown was because I realized that I wouldn't be able to give so much of my attention to my girls when the boys were born. I felt so guilty. We also went out and about every morning. However, they love their brothers even though we don't get to go out every morning now. You will figure it out. We still live in an apartment but on the first floor so the girls hold my pinky fingers and I carry the boys out. It took getting used to and took us 15 minutes to get out the door and all buckled. Now it takes about 5 minutes. You will be able to do it!

Aaand, you are my hero! It still takes us longer than 5 min. to get out the door.