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RissNRuss

My parents are divorced/remarried and my husbands are not. I would like to respectfully differentiate for lil one (due in June) my parents from my stepparents when utilizing grandparent names.

Hubby's family uses "Tita and Papa" for grandparents so that's easy if they want to continue with that.

My mom is SEVERELY offended when her husband's grandchildren call her Grandma FN. I was planning to do that, because I thought it was respectful, while also gently acknowledging who my mom and dad are. Also, my stepfathers grandkids call him Boompa (which drives me nuts and reminds me of that "booba" show).

Any other suggestions? If you're in my situation, how do your kids address your step parents?

HisChamaoleGirl

RissNRuss:

My parents are divorced/remarried and my husbands are not. I would like to respectfully differentiate for lil one (due in June) my parents from my stepparents when utilizing grandparent names.

Hubby's family uses "Tita and Papa" for grandparents so that's easy if they want to continue with that.

My mom is SEVERELY offended when her husband's grandchildren call her Grandma FN. I was planning to do that, because I thought it was respectful, while also gently acknowledging who my mom and dad are. Also, my stepfathers grandkids call him Boompa (which drives me nuts and reminds me of that "booba" show).

Any other suggestions? If you're in my situation, how do your kids address your step parents?

I have a stepfather and he is called "grandpa ken." He is the only grandfather in our family as DHs father passed when he was a child so there isnt any issue with "offending"

twister22

My grandmother passed away and 6 years after my grandfather remarried. My kids call him "G-pa" and now they call his wife "G-ma FN," although I think it will eventually be just "G-ma." 

Why does your mom get offended when her step-grandkids call her grandma FN? I would have a talk with your mom about it.  

jennipalmer

My kids call  my ex's parents granny and papa. My mother hated granny and so does my now husband mother. They call my MIL and FIL grandma and grandpa. I am not sure what they call their SM's parents I think nana.

Ironically my mother who is now deceased they called Grandma Ms Palmer because she was teacher and everyone addressed her as Ms Palmer

RissNRuss

Thanks for the advice.

My mom doesn't like it because it says to her "you're not my REAL grandma". Which I remind her, she isn't biologically, and they still consider her their grandma (the kids told me once how much they love having so many AWESOME grandparents). My sister, and all 5 of our step-siblings are currently blessed to have all of our parents (and their spouses) still with us so alot of it is differentiation between so many people! It's funny really because she raised me calling her best friends parents Grammy and Grampy PartialLN! We were all "raised" by the time they remarried so we all refer to the stepparents by first name anyway!

fellesferie

Both my kids are biologically mine. DS is from a previous marriage and DD is from my current marriage.

My parents are "Grandma" and "Grandpa."

XH's parents are "Nana" and "Papaw." (Their choice.)

DH's parents are "Grandpa FN" and "Grandpa FN." My MIL is "Nana" to some grandkids, "Grandma" to others, and "Grandma Utah" to yet others. My MIL's husband (she remarried late in life so he's not exactly DH's stepfather) doesn't have a title because the kids have never met him. DH is pretty against the idea of him being Grandpa anything, so maybe Mr. FN.

Before DS was born, my mom went through a period of wanting to be called "Mia" or "Mimi" because she had a friend whose grandkids called her that.

DH thinks everyone ought to be Grandma or Grandpa and that's it, lol. He is a fan of simplification.

PALGal

My SD calls my mom "Nana Mary"

Littlejen22

Nanny, Nan, etc. Pop

Ginlyn0

DD calls her BD's stepfather grand-daddy which is a name their family uses for grandfathers. Her BD's dad is called Pap-paw. Her grandmother on that side is  Nana. She calls her SM's parents "Grandma and Grandpa FN."

All the grandkids (including my SKs) call my parents Grammy and Poop. My niece started calling my dad that after hearing my mom call him "an old poop" when she was 2. I swore my kids would never call him that, but sometimes you are just outnumbered and overruled by other family members call a person by a certain name and it sticks   They use it as his name just like any other name and don't actually think of it as anything else and my dad embraces it LOL.

All the kids call DH's parents MawMaw and PawPaw. My SK's call BM's mom Nana.

When it comes down to it all I have decided that I think it should be up to the grandparent &/or the kids to decide since they are the ones that actually use the name.

I always called my own grandparents "Grandma & Grandpa LN" and Granny FN.

Other more unique names I have seen are Meme, Gigi, Nonni  

PrincessFiona9

DD calls my stepmom Mimi and my future stepfather Bubba (weird, I know.) She calls my dad Papa and my mom Grammy. She calls her bio father's parents Papa and Grandma. She calls FI's parents Gammy and Poppy. It's okay if you're not following all of this. My point is unless your stepparents haven't been in your life for long and you don't have a very good relationship with them I wouldn't worry about coming up with different names for them. Plus LO will call them whatever they can say.

Tasheystar

I always called my grandparents grandma or grandpa lastname. I still have two full sets, plus my dad's mom. We never differentiated between the step biological grandparents.

I now refer to my mom's SM by her first name, as I haven't seen her in years. I don't really see her as my grandmother anymore.