something's gotta give

candlequeen

our morning routine is terrible!! DS gets up around 6:30 or 6:40 a.m. (we leave the house at 7). I try to get him on the potty...he yells no potty no pee-pee!!! I take him to the couch, he wants to snuggle. I am glancing at the clock every second. Then I pry him off of me while I go get his clothes and underwear. Sometimes he'll go potty b4 the underwear, sometimes not. Then he goes back and forth from wanting a drink to laying on the floor crying. When we FINALLY get to DC (I also work there)...he refuses to walk on his own most days. He ends up throwing a tantrum while I set my stuff down in the hall and pick him up to hurry him to the room. When we sit down for him to eat breakfast, I am out of breath and patience. He is SO GOOD at daycare and potties anytime they ask him. What is wrong with me or my child?!?!?! I had a panic attack this morning after I put him in his room. This is not healthy for me while being pregnant. DH has agreed to get up earlier and help more....

JulySpark05

I'm sorry you are going through this...Back in June of last year, DD1 was almost fully potty trained at the sitter but she would flat out refuse to use the potty or toilet at home, I am talking screaming fits, tantrums, you name it! It was impossible!

So she was trained at the sitter and in diapers at our house because we just couldn't get her to go and if we put her in underwear she would just pee all over the place... I then laid off for a bit and tried a few more times and she still wasn't ready.. I then started potty training a few weeks ago and now she goes willingly and is doing pretty good. Kids are funny sometimes.. I always wondered why she was using the potty at the sitter and not at home but I think she just didn't want to and a lot of people will say that kids act differently around other people then they do their parents and I agree with this 100%.

Hope things get better for you soon!! 

candlequeen

thanks. I love your updated pics of your girls, btw. Any tips for my morning routine? Maybe Monday will be better since DH has promised to get up earlier...we'll see if he really means it.

MNgirl326

I would try and tackle one thing at a time.  First of waking at 6:30 to leave the house by 7, seems like a huge rush.  Maybe try and wake him at 6:20.

Also, have him be involved in the process of picking out the clothes- you can do this the night before- and give him choices.  do you want to wear your rocket ship shirt or your dino shirt?

Then in the morning- tackle one thing at a time.  With my LO I know that when he first gets up, to put him on the potty is useless, becuase he just isn't awake enough to go and isn't ready.

So- I usually give him him some snuggles, sometimes i put on Dora and then let him wake up a little bit.  I then give him breakfast since we are out the door so early and he is at daycare at 6:30.

After breakfast I do his clothes and have him go potty.   USually by then he is awake and is ready to cooperate.  

As for daycare- the tantrum is more then likely because he knows your exaperated from the morning and the tantrum is part of the game/show.

I would talk to the DCP about what they can do to help.  For us, I drop him off in the large play room.   The teachers know, I give 2 hugs and 2 kisses and then I leave.  They know that if he starts throwing a fit, to come and help get him up and I walk away. 

He is also at the age where on the way to school we can talk about what he is goin to be doing and who he is going to see.  That usually helps b/c he is excited to be there and do the things we talked about. 

I hope that helps. 

Also, if you work at the daycare- maybe get him in the building first, without bringing your stuff in.   Carry him in for awhile, taking away the opprtotunity for the tantrum and then go back to your car to get your things.  Its a pain in the but, but it might help.   

TiffanyBerry

Have you tried giving him 5 minutes of undivided, potty-free, child-led attention?  It sounds like you are rushed and he is super rushed, and toddlers being super rushed are toddlers that are uncooperative. You might find everything a lot smoother if you have all of your stuff packed and in the hallway the night before, breakfast ready to go (possibly having eaten yourself?), and then have less YOU have to do in the morning so that you can spend more time with him.

JulySpark05

candlequeen:

thanks. I love your updated pics of your girls, btw. Any tips for my morning routine? Maybe Monday will be better since DH has promised to get up earlier...we'll see if he really means it.

Thanks! As far as any tips, I agree with the previous posters of maybe trying to see if you can't get your little guy up a bit earlier and seeing if that helps.. I know DD doesn't like to be rushed in the morning and in order to get her clothes on, I have to tell her to get dressed or I will dress her and she usually wants to do it on her own.. as far as using the potty in the morning, if you keep trying to encourage him to use it then hopefully it will become a habit. I make it fun when she wakes up and try to be overly happy and excited and say "It's potty time"!!! Yay!! Crazy but for the most part it works because it gets her excited to use it.

TiffanyBerry

That's another thing to consider - what is YOUR child's transition from sleep to wake.  My daughter has a tough time with that transition, less in the morning than at nap, but still so.  Getting her up and rushing her is a recipe for meltdowns, disasters, and a deep, deep unhappiness and frustration in her.  Like her daddy, she NEEDS TIME!  So, I have to plan that into whatever is going on in the morning, or it's just going to lead to chaos and us being late.

Jessys_Girl

1 get a everything ready the night before. Put his clothes in a stack on his dresser so they are out and ready. Put all your work stuff in the car.

2 wake him around 6:15. Spend 510 minutes snuggling/hugging and THEN say "it's time to go potty and get dressed."

3 when you get to daycare: focus on him first. Bring him in, get him settled etc. THEN go get your work stuff and start your day.

AmericanInOz

I agree that your morning sounds rushed

my dd is about the same age and REFUSES to sit on the potty first thing in the morning. So I bring her to the sofa and let her wake up a bit watching kids tv. Then we go eat breakfast and eventually she will go to the potty - but that takes at LEAST half an hour, if not more - today she kept wanting breakfast - we went through 3 rounds & 2 potty trips before we finally got out of the house.

I agree with pps that you should wake him earlier, so he has time to at least wake up a bit before going potty & leaving the house, even if you eat both eat at work

bellybaby

Sounds like my  my mornings. Unfortunately I think u should wake him up earlier so hes not as rushed. I pack my daughters lunch, pick her clothes out, and get myself ready before I wake her. I give her a dannon drinkable yogurt on the go as well as a juice box and we listen to her CDs in the car. Often times I put a specia;l snack in her lunch and bribe her with it LOL I also start to sing songs we only hear in the car and she gets excited to leave