DD wanting to play with / touch her vagina??

chitwngal2010

DD will be 3 in March so i am hoping this is normal, but yesterday she was playing with my small lint brush and was trying to put it down her pants and when i asked what she was doing she nothing, and asked if i could go away for a little bit. I found the part of asking me to leave her alone disturbing, then later on, i asked her to go ahead and get undressed and get ready for bath time, and when i walked into the room she was once again rubbing the lint brush around her vagina and looking in the mirror, i once again asked nicely what she was doing and she just kind of ignored my question and asked me to leave her alone for a little bit, which of course i didn't do and asked her if someone had shown her how to do that or touched her there and she didn't say no or yes, just started dancing around, she doesn't always answer us when we ask her questions so that isn't weird but i am a little worried. anyone else go through this. she is in daycare and i totally trust them. 

stever

DS has discovered his junk. He "investigates" it on the potty or during bathtime and I figure it's normal.

MNgirl326

What she is doing is completely normal.  You need to relax and since she is already asking for privacy - it would be a perfect time to talk about good touch/bad touch/ private time touch. 

aglenn

Yeah, I think it is totally normal.  DD is doing similar things and I've tried to keep it matter of fact and just talk about appropriate times and places for that, as well as other boundaries (i.e., touching herself in the tub is OK but putting toys in there is not....).  Exploring their bodies is a normal and healthy thing to do and is part of this age.

BelhurstBride

abartow:

What she is doing is completely normal.  You need to relax and since she is already asking for privacy - it would be a perfect time to talk about good touch/bad touch/ private time touch. 

ITA.  

acaudill75

I usually tell her to get her hands off her pupy (its yiddish for vagina). She giggles and usually stops. I don't care that she is doing it, I just don't want her to transfer any bad germs and get an infection. FWIW, I also say the same thing about her nose or any other orifice I don't think her fingers, toys, utensils, etc., should enter, so I don't put a serious cloud of shame over the action. I just wish they would at least wait until they are teenagers and we as parents can't catch them before they start exploring their bodies.

chitwngal2010

ok thanks girls, i needed reasurrance, i suppose i am sensitive to this topic since i was abused as a child so i am overly cautious and scared. 

acaudill75

chitwngal2010:

ok thanks girls, i needed reasurrance, i suppose i am sensitive to this topic since i was abused as a child so i am overly cautious and scared. 

I get that, and I am always looking at things like, there must be some nefarious reason my daughter is doing _____ (insert weird behavior here). You have a legitimate reason for worrying beased on your experience. DH usually brings me back to earth.