Upset about leaving DS while in hospital

Mrs MoJoRisin

I am panicking about leaving my son while I am in the hospital to have DD. I am with him all day, everyday. Any advice? I started crying just thinking about it last night.

Tara*N*Chris

do you have someone you trust to stay with him?  Maybe do a trial run and let him stay over, and get a massage to take your mind off being away from him. Good luck, I am sure he will be fine and it will be a lot harder on you than on him

as I type this I feel like a hypocrite because I am stressed about the same thing, and I am on 12 weeks.  My thoughts for now are to have DS stay with MIL the first night, then DH to stay at home with him the second night. Maybe I will try and take my own advice and do a trial run, but I am not ready for that yet! dS is only 8 months, maybe closer to July I will be ready (doubt it)

Mrs MoJoRisin

Tara*N*Chris:

do you have someone you trust to stay with him?  Maybe do a trial run and let him stay over, and get a massage to take your mind off being away from him. Good luck, I am sure he will be fine and it will be a lot harder on you than on him

as I type this I feel like a hypocrite because I am stressed about the same thing, and I am on 12 weeks.  My thoughts for now are to have DS stay with MIL the first night, then DH to stay at home with him the second night. Maybe I will try and take my own advice and do a trial run, but I am not ready for that yet! dS is only 8 months, maybe closer to July I will be ready (doubt it)

DH is going to stay with him, and my Mom will probably stay in the hospital over night with me. I know he is in good hand, but it's still killing me!

dale5689

Oh my goodness, I totally can empathize with you because I was exactly in the same boat and felt the anxiety and fear my entire pregnancy.  It brought tears to my eyes every time.  My parents were going to stay with my DD who would be just 21 months and no one had put her to bed for the most part except for me.  The morning I went into labor I started to freak out and cry but then the contractions kicked into high gear.  A friend came over to stay with her until my parents could get there.  As I was walking out the door and saying goodbye I started to cry and my husband mouthed, don't let her see you get upset and because I had to think of her I restrained myself.  Since I was doubled over in pain as I was leaving the house I really had no room to think about it.  I KNEW she'd be in good hands.  It was the longest time I was ever away from her and I felt it and missed her but also knew it was the only time I would ever have just that alone time with the baby and I was so overcome with love and joy that it made me feel OK about her being home with her Grandparents.  I couldn't wait until she visited each day and hated when she left and I was dying to get home but after all that stressing, she was fine and I lived through it!!  I know it's easy to say after the fact, it'll be OK and don't worry.  I know when you're in it, you can't imagine how it will be fine without you or how it will go.  But in the end, your DS will be fine especially since he'll be with Daddy and he can visit you and you'll be home before you know it and it'll seem like you were never ever gone.  I knew bedtime would not be as smooth and she gave them a little bit of a hard time but was she harmed?  No and she did go to sleep.  She was no worse for the wear.  Try not to worry too much and just focus on how amazing it will be when he meets his new sibling for the first time and then how it will be when you are home and you're all together.  Honestly, there is nothing more powerful than those moments and they are seared in my mind and heart forever.  Just get ready for the most amazing, wonderful, and beautiful moments that are to come.  Good luck and enjoy!!!!  Wish I were doing it again!!

Mrs MoJoRisin

dale5689:

Oh my goodness, I totally can empathize with you because I was exactly in the same boat and felt the anxiety and fear my entire pregnancy.nbsp; It brought tears to my eyes every time.nbsp; My parents were going to stay with my DD who would be just 21 months and no one had put her to bed for the most part except for me.nbsp; The morning I went into labor I started to freak out and cry but then the contractions kicked into high gear.nbsp; A friend came over to stay with her until my parents could get there.nbsp; As I was walking out the door and saying goodbye I started to cry and my husband mouthed, don't let her see you get upset and because I had to think of her I restrained myself.nbsp; Since I was doubled over in pain as I was leaving the house I really had no room to think about it.nbsp; I KNEW she'd be in good hands.nbsp; It was the longest time I was ever away from her and I felt it and missed her but also knew it was the only time I would ever have just that alone time with the baby and I was so overcome with love and joy that it made me feel OK about her being home with her Grandparents.nbsp; I couldn't wait until she visited each day and hated when she left and I was dying to get home but after all that stressing, she was fine and I lived through it!!nbsp; I know it's easy to say after the fact, it'll be OK and don't worry.nbsp; I know when you're in it, you can't imagine how it will be fine without you or how it will go.nbsp; But in the end, your DS will be fine especially since he'll be with Daddy and he can visit you and you'll be home before you know it and it'll seem like you were never ever gone.nbsp; I knew bedtime would not be as smooth and she gave them a little bit of a hard time but was she harmed?nbsp; No and she did go to sleep.nbsp; She was no worse for the wear.nbsp; Try not to worry too much and just focus on how amazing it will be when he meets his new sibling for the first time and then how it will be when you are home and you're all together.nbsp; Honestly, there is nothing more powerful than those moments and they are seared in my mind and heart forever.nbsp; Just get ready for the most amazing, wonderful, and beautiful moments that are to come.nbsp; Good luck and enjoy!!!!nbsp; Wish I were doing it again!!

Thank you for your encouraging words!

sherbear1322

I could have written this word for word and had a meltdown about it two nights ago.  I'm dreading it.  No one else has ever put him to bed besides H and I.