I need to vent

EVM1216 · January 2013

So, I have my big job interview tomorrow, and since neither DH or I have jobs right now it may be the most important interview of my life.

So why are people going out of their way to annoy me and stress me out.

Tuesday: Mom sends a text at 7:30 am asking if I want her to watch DD that night or Wednesday night or both so that I can be baby free to work on the 45 min. presentation I have to give as part of my interview. I thanked her and said let me see how today goes and how much time I get to work on it. She said she would call me at 5:30. Well, DD decided not to nap and while I didn't really need mom to take her I thought that since mom really did seem to want to I would let her. When my mom hadn't called by 6:15 I started to get worried that something was wrong so I tried calling her. She was home but had been too distracted by her crossword puzzle to realize what time it was. Seriously? She then never mentions that she had suggest DD come over that night and goes right to "Well do you want me to take her tomorrow?" I say sure. Then mom starts quizzing me about where was DH? has he been applying for jobs? Has he "lowered his standards" and started applying for jobs he may actually get? At this point I'm just livid and told her I had to go. I am grateful that she was willing to take DD, but if she's going to be that much of a b!tch about it every time she takes her I am going to have to cut off her babysitting privileges.

Then last night DH and I were talking about today. I have to have dinner with the search committee tonight and he and DD are going to the ILs for dinner. DH is like, "if your dinner is at 6:30 you can drop us off at ILs at 6:15 and still get there on time." and I tell him, no, you're going over there after lunch so that I can have time to review their website, shower, do my hair, iron the clothes that I need to wear and have time when DD is not following me around demanding my undivided attention. DH got huffy and said "As long as you promise to do the same thing when I get a job interview." WTF?

Oh and we haven't talked about Friday yet, but he did mention last week that I could drop him and DD off at his parents before that part of the interview too. Because I want to get up at 5:00 am so that I can get ready before waking up cranky DH and DD at 7:00. Especially since DD's been insisting to sleep until 10 am now.

I just had to get this out before I tell everyone to STFU. Seriously, just stop causing me extra stress until Saturday, then everyone can start being turds again.

PGASTL · January 2013

Searching for a job is so stressful, and I am sure it's even more than double the stress when both you and DH are searching!

Good luck with everything!!

jarebearsmom · January 2013

Wow that sounds so stressful. What I'd you already have a job by the time he gets an interview? You can't promise you'll do the same for him if you dont know where you'll be working.

Why can't he and dd stay home Friday if you are going to get up before them and get dressed anyway? Jw

I'm sorry things are so stressful right now. Fx for the job. GL and let us know how it goes!

lrn327 · January 2013

I'm totally with you on the need to drop them off earlier today so you can get ready for the dinner in peace. It sounds like you've got your DH on board finally with this one though, but I agree that you can't guarantee him the same. Also, like jbm said, can't they just stay at home tomorrow morning so that DD can wake up whenever? Hugs girl, I know this is so stressful! I bet you'll do wonderfully though and I can't wait to hear how it all goes.

EVM1216 · January 2013

jarebearsmom:
Wow that sounds so stressful. What I'd you already have a job by the time he gets an interview? You can't promise you'll do the same for him if you dont know where you'll be working. Why can't he and dd stay home Friday if you are going to get up before them and get dressed anyway? Jw I'm sorry things are so stressful right now. Fx for the job. GL and let us know how it goes!

An excellent and thoughtful question that I don't know the answer to! I think that DH is worried that he won't hear DD wake up because he is a very deep sleeper. I get that, but if DD wants out of her crib she will wake him up. She's good at that, he just doesn't know it because I always wake up before him.

And as for the interview thing, I can make arrangements that will get DD out of the house before he has an interview, even if she isn't in DC yet. I have a network of family members who'd be happy to take her for a few hours so DH can have time to prepare.

lrn327 · January 2013

EVM1216:
jarebearsmom:
Wow that sounds so stressful. What I'd you already have a job by the time he gets an interview? You can't promise you'll do the same for him if you dont know where you'll be working. Why can't he and dd stay home Friday if you are going to get up before them and get dressed anyway? Jw I'm sorry things are so stressful right now. Fx for the job. GL and let us know how it goes!
An excellent and thoughtful question that I don't know the answer to! I think that DH is worried that he won't hear DD wake up because he is a very deep sleeper. I get that, but if DD wants out of her crib she will wake him up. She's good at that, he just doesn't know it because I always wake up before him.
And as for the interview thing, I can make arrangements that will get DD out of the house before he has an interview, even if she isn't in DC yet. I have a network of family members who'd be happy to take her for a few hours so DH can have time to prepare.

Excellent then! You can insure that your DH will have plenty of time to prepare and your only other task today would be to find DH an alarm clock! (Lol, sort of, right?)

GrayGhost13 · January 2013

::hugs:: I'm sorry your family isn't supporting you like you need when you have something this important to do. Sometimes people just don't get it.

Best of luck with the interview! I am sure you will rock!

jillybean800 · January 2013

Good luck! Sorry everyone is being a PITA.

EMOmamma · January 2013

Sorry you're so stressed! I know when my H and I were both home at the same time, when I was out of work, we really started to grate on each other. So that, plus job searching, plus you just moved (right?) can make day to day life tough.

You're going to totally rock your interview. Good luck!