Freaking myself out

Ahtnamas6789

This is my first pregnancy and I can not stop thinking about having a miscarriage. Two nights ago after sex I had two small blood clots in the toilet, called my insurance hotline and they said it sounds normal and to come in for my next appointment on the 15th. Since then I have had no pregnancy symptoms and have convinced myself that I have had a miscarriage. I can not sit and wait until the 15th to find out.
Does anyone else constantly have this fear? I am literally killing myself here! I want to go into the ER and have them check it out but I'm scared they are going to tell me the same thing..to wait until my appointment. Everytime I see a post on here about a loss my anxiety spikes and I can't function in anything I do. I don't feel pregnant anymore and I don't know if that's my fears or reality. Should I just go into the ER to have them check and put my mind at ease?

MichelleDis

Did you call your OB directly?  How far along are you now?  Going to the ER isn't going to change the outcome though, so I wouldn't, but I would call my OB to see what options she might have- maybe getting in a little sooner?

MommyAmes2

Going to the ER usually makes people worry more. The docs usually aren't well educated on the matter. Spotting is normal, especially after sex. Be thankful you have no symptoms. They are not a sign of how pregnant you are. Just try to relax.

CaliforniaDream87

dani_brewer:

A miscarriage would be accompanied by a lot more blood than that.

This is not necessarily true.

OP, I'm sorry you are having so much anxiety. You have to find a way to relax until your appt. Remember, stress will not change the outcome. Today you are pregnant.

FX that everything is just fine.

amarissa85

I agree with PP, worrying is not going to change the outcome. If they told you to wait until your next appt I would probably do that. Even IF you were miscarrying I hate to say it but they are going to tell you there is nothing they can do and you will sit for hours just to hear them say this. I have found that most ER doctors don't have much bedside manner. Spotting after intercourse is normal. Check the board scroll back you will see others have posted it. Try to relax.

kateisgreat

Please don't take up valuable space at the ER, not that everyone there is having a "real" emergency, but in a perfect world, that's what it's for. You aren't having an emergency. If you were bleeding through a pad in an hour- that would be an emergency. I caught flack in another post for this, but I'm going to say it anyhow:

If you have worried yourself into thinking you are having a m/c, you need a reality check. It is normal to spot after sex. You cannot use your symptoms to determine if you are having a m/c. If your nurse line already told you what to do, then follow their directions. If m/c posts are freaking you out, then don't read them. Another woman's loss has absolutely NO impact on your own pregnancy. If you are having a m/c, there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop it, and you did absolutely nothing to cause it. 

It is normal to be worried, but not normal to be so worried that you cannot function. Find a way to cope with your fear, maybe talking it out with someone IRL will help you get things off you chest and you will be able to breathe.

Laurakat81

Call your OB, I'm not sure the insurance hotline has an OB on staff to give you advice....just my two cents. Secondly, while worrying wont change the outcome as everyone has said I think it's a moot point. You ARE worried and I know no amount of telling you that you shouldn't be or telling you to stop worrying is going to help you at all. People can't usually relax on command.

So call your OB and see if they will see you sooner. Hopefully they will. I agree that the ER is completely unnecessary unless you are bleeding heavily or in a lot of pain. And even then if it's during office hours the OB is still the best place to be.

Most women do not miscarry. And spotting CAN be very normal in pregnancy so keep repeating that to yourself. Once you get reassurance that all is okay then work on finding ways to relax, do meditation, yoga, exercise, whatever it is you do, and focus your energy as best you can on that. Also, stay off these forums if it's stressing you out. Stress won't cause a miscarriage but it can still make you miserable which it's clearly doing.

Good luck!

Ahtnamas6789

Thank you to everyone who had a positive response. I appreciate it. I need to stay positive and stop worrying! I get myself way too worked up in the moment. I will wait it out until my next appointment and go over my anxiety issues with my doctor then. Thanks again. =]

jeannkerricotober09

I don't know how that post ended up here! Sorry!

letitbelotus

I too share your fear. A few days ago I posted about fearing a missed MC. I got some really good comforting words and some nasty not so helpful words. So let me send along the positive notes.... one, on a day your symptoms disappear be thankful for that day... As tomorrow you may feel sick again. Two, if you have concerns call your doctor and share them, they are there to help with any questions or concerns you are having. And three, try to keep a positive attitude.... Stress will not help you, listen to your body and do what feels best. Even if that's going to the ER. Best of luck and good wishes!!!

Ahtnamas6789

letitbelotus:

I too share your fear. A few days ago I posted about fearing a missed MC. I got some really good comforting words and some nasty not so helpful words. So let me send along the positive notes.... one, on a day your symptoms disappear be thankful for that day... As tomorrow you may feel sick again. Two, if you have concerns call your doctor and share them, they are there to help with any questions or concerns you are having. And three, try to keep a positive attitude.... Stress will not help you, listen to your body and do what feels best. Even if that's going to the ER. Best of luck and good wishes!!!

 

Thank you so much for such a postive response! Literally made me cry..(Dang hormones hehe) Having all of these fears is by far the worst feeling I have ever experienced yet getting postive, helpful feed back like this is just what I needed. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

peanutmuse

Ahtnamas6789:

Having all of these fears is by far the worst feeling I have ever experienced yet getting postive, helpful feed back like this is just what I needed. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

It sounds like you are insinuating that someone here has not given you helpful advice, which is absolutely false. You came to a public message board, not a cheerleading session. All of the advice was helpful, and that is what is important. You don't get to decide the tone that people choose to respond to you on a public message board.

That being said, another thing to consider is the fact that the insurance company would likely not want you to have extra appointments, because guess what? They have to pay for them. I never, ever would call an insurance hotline for medical advice, personally. Call your doctor to see what he/she wants you to do. But as PPs have said, don't go to the ER. It's unnecessary and wasteful at this point.

TurtleMomma

Take 10 minutes to do this. Absolutely serious.

 

https://ptsd.about.com/od/selfhelp/ht/breathing2.htm

 

Its not going to assuage your fears or suddenly make you fine with everything, but it will help put you back into a frame of mind to think rationally. You are beyond the point of reasonable anxiety. Do this meditation, then make a list of what you need to do to TOMORROW. Then do the meditation again.

Ahtnamas6789

TurtleMomma:

Take 10 minutes to do this. Absolutely serious.nbsp;https://ptsd.about.com/od/selfhelp/ht/breathing2.htmnbsp;Its not going to assuage your fears or suddenly make you fine with everything, but it will help put you back into a frame of mind to think rationally. You are beyond the point of reasonable anxiety. Do this meditation, then make a list of what you need to do to TOMORROW. Then do the meditation again.

Thank you! Will be giving it a try! Appreciate it :