Nervous! Missed MC???

letitbelotus

I am so scared that I may have had a missed miscarriage!!! I have been reading and hearing so much about MC. I am 7 weeks today with my first. All last week I was so nauseas and tired and now today I feel fine! I actually want to eat and don't feel as fatigued. I never got and sore boobies either. Our first appt isn't until the 18th of January. So worried :

lindsayanne14

I understand how hard it can be when symptoms change and/or disappear but at this point you have no real reason to suspect a missed MC.  I had one with my first pregnancy and at the time the Dr told me it happens in about 1% of pregnancies, which is a really low percentage!  The bottom line is there isn't anything you can do to sustain an non-viable pregnancy.  Today you are pregnant...try to enjoy it and your symptomless days!  You may wake up tomorrow and feel terrible again.

tpatruno006

It is true what everyone else is stating. I had a missed MC last year and it was my first pregnancy.  I had symptoms the whole time.  I never once thought there was anything wrong.  This time around I have symptoms very strong one day and none the next day.  My boobs were extremely sore the first week and now they don't even hurt.  I am constantly worried myself about having another but you can't stress.  Just relax and if you feel worried to the point where you can't take it call your doctor and relay your concerns.  They are there to help you.  The last thing they want is for you to be stressed out.

amandarins

Symptoms come and go. It's not going to make you feel better to assume mc. 

emecox

This happened to me last week. I had never had faltering symptoms in my first pregnancy so i was worried. I called my midwife and they slotted me in for an U/S just to confirm everything was ok, and it was! saw the little heart beating away and felt much better. It's always ok to call your doctor and express your concern - you may not have to wait until the 18th to check things out.

Ktbug613

lindsayanne79:

I understand how hard it can be when symptoms change and/or disappear but at this point you have no real reason to suspect a missed MC.  I had one with my first pregnancy and at the time the Dr told me it happens in about 1% of pregnancies, which is a really low percentage!  The bottom line is there isn't anything you can do to sustain an non-viable pregnancy.  Today you are pregnant...try to enjoy it and your symptomless days!  You may wake up tomorrow and feel terrible again.

 

Can't say it any better than this ^^ 

ktbelle1211

lindsayanne79:

I understand how hard it can be when symptoms change and/or disappear but at this point you have no real reason to suspect a missed MC. I had one with my first pregnancy and at the time the Dr told me it happens in about 1% of pregnancies, which is a really low percentage! The bottom line is there isn't anything you can do to sustain an non-viable pregnancy. Today you are pregnant...try to enjoy it and your symptomless days! You may wake up tomorrow and feel terrible again.

 

Thanks!! This made me feel better too!! I'm constantly worrying if I don't feel anything...I think it's just a normal part...

lindsayanne14

ktbelle1211:

lindsayanne79:

I understand how hard it can be when symptoms change and/or disappear but at this point you have no real reason to suspect a missed MC. I had one with my first pregnancy and at the time the Dr told me it happens in about 1% of pregnancies, which is a really low percentage! The bottom line is there isn't anything you can do to sustain an non-viable pregnancy. Today you are pregnant...try to enjoy it and your symptomless days! You may wake up tomorrow and feel terrible again.

 

Thanks!! This made me feel better too!! I'm constantly worrying if I don't feel anything...I think it's just a normal part...

It's absolutely a normal part! I think most ladies worry to some extent, a prior loss or not.  I guess for me I've just tried to focus on enjoying the fact that I am PG, it took awhile to get here again and I really can't do anything to prevent another MC...I might as well try to enjoy the ride!  I know it's easier said than done at times...trust me I've had a few terrified, crazy, crying, freak-outs this time around!

Ginkeez

Have you tried calling your doctor to see about getting an ultrasound to make sure all is okay? My doctor considers loss of symptoms enough to justify an early ultrasound. It certainly could give you peace of mind.

kateisgreat

I was so happy that I hadn't seen a post like this on this BMB yet. Yes, people are talking about m/c. We are all in 1st tri, that is when most m/c happen. However, they are NOT contagious. Being scared because you read about someone else's m/c is irrational, as their loss has absolutely no effect on your body.  Sorry if I seem harsh here, but I've been around the block a few times (this is my 6th pregnancy and 6th time joining a BMB) and there are usually a rash of these posts once one person starts them off. I guarantee that some of the girls who had losses on this board are still lurking, and it's hurtful to read that their loss is causing panic.

Also, as PP said, you can't stop a m/c. Symptoms come and go with any pregnancy, and with a missed m/c the symptoms usually hang around until you start bleeding (either by meds, d&c, or natural m/c) Not having sore boobs doesn't mean anything. At all. 

TristansMom01

kateisgreat:

I was so happy that I hadn't seen a post like this on this BMB yet. Yes, people are talking about m/c. We are all in 1st tri, that is when most m/c happen. However, they are NOT contagious. Being scared because you read about someone else's m/c is irrational, as their loss has absolutely no effect on your body.nbsp;nbsp;Sorry if I seem harsh here, but I've been around the block a few times this is my 6th pregnancy and 6th time joining a BMB and there are usually a rash of these posts once one person starts them off.nbsp;I guarantee that some of the girls who had losses on this board are still lurking, and it's hurtful to read that their loss is causing panic.Also, as PP said, you can't stop a m/c. Symptoms come and go with any pregnancy, and with a missed m/c the symptoms usually hang around until you start bleeding either by meds, damp;c, or natural m/c Not having sore boobs doesn't mean anything. At all.nbsp;

Agree.

koolindz

Really good advice across the board here! I had a missed miscarriage with my last pregnancy too, and continued having symptoms for almost a month after my dc. This time around, my symptoms seem to shift slightly each week, and I'm not worried at all. The early ultrasound really put my mind at ease. I recommend seeing if you can get in earlier for an US if you're really worried. Peace of mind is priceless.

Lilmrslay

I understand your concern, and after 2 previous miscarriages I have the same fear sometimes but I want to assure you that your symptoms changing is likely NOT a sign of a missed miscarriage.

At about 7.5 weeks all my symptoms seemed to subside quite a bit. I felt the same nervous feeling I had when I lost my previous pregnancies but because I had seen my baby in an early U/S with a strong HB and with high HCG levels I talked myself down and held onto hope.

At 9 weeks my symptoms have come back with a vengeance! My MS is worse than it has been all along and I am absolutely exhausted. My breasts have also got heavier and sorer again, after feeling fine for a few weeks. 

Symptoms don't necessarily correlate with the health of a pregnancy, and as PP have said, they can continue long after a miss miscarriage and a D&C due to the slow decrease of hormone levels.

So it's impossible really to know what's going on without an U/S so try to remain calm and if you really can't, push with your doc to get an U/S sooner.  

letitbelotus

kateisgreat:

I was so happy that I hadn't seen a post like this on this BMB yet. Yes, people are talking about m/c. We are all in 1st tri, that is when most m/c happen. However, they are NOT contagious. Being scared because you read about someone else's m/c is irrational, as their loss has absolutely no effect on your body.nbsp;nbsp;Sorry if I seem harsh here, but I've been around the block a few times this is my 6th pregnancy and 6th time joining a BMB and there are usually a rash of these posts once one person starts them off.nbsp;I guarantee that some of the girls who had losses on this board are still lurking, and it's hurtful to read that their loss is causing panic.Also, as PP said, you can't stop a m/c. Symptoms come and go with any pregnancy, and with a missed m/c the symptoms usually hang around until you start bleeding either by meds, damp;c, or natural m/c Not having sore boobs doesn't mean anything. At all.nbsp;

Sorry I was just looking for some support. I haven't been around the block and was just hoping for some comforting words to know maybe I wasn't alone...

darjeeling

kateisgreat:

I was so happy that I hadn't seen a post like this on this BMB yet. Yes, people are talking about m/c. We are all in 1st tri, that is when most m/c happen. However, they are NOT contagious. Being scared because you read about someone else's m/c is irrational, as their loss has absolutely no effect on your body.  Sorry if I seem harsh here, but I've been around the block a few times (this is my 6th pregnancy and 6th time joining a BMB) and there are usually a rash of these posts once one person starts them off. I guarantee that some of the girls who had losses on this board are still lurking, and it's hurtful to read that their loss is causing panic.

Also, as PP said, you can't stop a m/c. Symptoms come and go with any pregnancy, and with a missed m/c the symptoms usually hang around until you start bleeding (either by meds, d&c, or natural m/c) Not having sore boobs doesn't mean anything. At all. 

I lurked on my old BMB after my loss too.  But I think it's a bit unfair to guilt the OP for being worried by projecting what you think others who have had losses might be feeling as a result of OP's post.  That's a lot of variables, and it's not as If OP specifically tied her concerns to any recent missed m/c losses that have been posted here. Although maybe that's just my interpretation. 

Maybe your ultimate goal is fear management in general, a la Dutch boy.  Tthat's a noble cause...although perhaps a bit futile.  

kateisgreat

darjeeling:

kateisgreat:

I was so happy that I hadn't seen a post like this on this BMB yet. Yes, people are talking about m/c. We are all in 1st tri, that is when most m/c happen. However, they are NOT contagious. Being scared because you read about someone else's m/c is irrational, as their loss has absolutely no effect on your body.  Sorry if I seem harsh here, but I've been around the block a few times (this is my 6th pregnancy and 6th time joining a BMB) and there are usually a rash of these posts once one person starts them off. I guarantee that some of the girls who had losses on this board are still lurking, and it's hurtful to read that their loss is causing panic.

Also, as PP said, you can't stop a m/c. Symptoms come and go with any pregnancy, and with a missed m/c the symptoms usually hang around until you start bleeding (either by meds, d&c, or natural m/c) Not having sore boobs doesn't mean anything. At all. 

I lurked on my old BMB after my loss too.  But I think it's a bit unfair to guilt the OP for being worried by projecting what you think others who have had losses might be feeling as a result of OP's post.  That's a lot of variables, and it's not as If OP specifically tied her concerns to any recent missed m/c losses that have been posted here. Although maybe that's just my interpretation. 

Maybe your ultimate goal is fear management in general, a la Dutch boy.  Tthat's a noble cause...although perhaps a bit futile.  

You make valid points.  If the OP had left out "I have been reading and hearing so much about MC", then I wouldn't have responded with my first paragraph at all. My main point was that it is irrational to fear m/c because you heard about one, because that's not how m/c works, and with a missed m/c you can't take your symptoms into account anyhow. I've had 4 m/c, and am having a missed m/c scare right now (I find out on thursday), so although this post is mild compared to others I have seen, It bothers me that OP even mentioned other's losses when taking her pregnancy into consideration. I will probably respond the same way to any post that compares another woman's loss to their current pregnancy, it strikes a nerve with me. 

When I said sorry if I seem harsh, I really meant it- I don't want to come across like a big meanie. I wasn't trying to insult or guilt anyone, but if you have worried yourself into thinking you are having a m/c over nothing, then you need a reality check.