Separation issues?

willadieselstm

Is anyone else going through this?  DS is no longer fine with Daddy or anyone else.  He simply cries like he is going to die until I come back or hold him.  This is making going to the bathroom, cooking dinner, letting the dog out, pretty much anything very difficult.  Is it wrong to let him cry and reassure him that he will be ok? I mean at some point he will need to get over this phase.  How long does this typically last?  Up until the last two weeks he was perfectly fine regardless with where I was or what I was doing.  He has always been a very good baby that can entertain himself.  Not so much anymore.  Suggestions?

littleredfish

DD was/is going through this phase. It wasreally bad about a month ago. I couldn't pee, eat, or go out of the room without her screaming bloody murder. She wouldn't let DH hold her for more than 5 mins and NEVER if she was tired or cranky. She still won't let him put her to sleep but he can hold her, and now she cries less and more whines when I leave her sight. I just try to tell her it's ok and don't pick her up. I try to distract her with a toy (I keep a bunch of small new ones around and rotate which ones I hand her so she doesn't get bored of them). If I give her attention it's not touching her, just leave her in her chair or on the floor and give a smile and some reassuring words. With DH we'd sit on the floor and he'd hold her while I played with her to get her used to him holding her again. She's getting better but it's been a month so far and we're not through it yet. Not sure how long it will last but what we're doing seems to be working.

jlsweets

My son is going through this now and it's driving me crazy ha...I'm wondering if it is because I work from home so I'm home all day with him. It's just me and him for most of the day. My husband gets home late so he only ever sees me. I can't walk away from him now without him crying until I come back. He slugs after me if I'm in the kitchen and hangs and whines on my feet...I call him the little ankle biter! He used to play great by himself and could entertain himself for the longest time without me being in sight. Now if he is playing I have to be sitting on the ground with him with my computer on my lap! He won't take a bottle from my husband either only me. He will play with my husband just fine on the weekends but if I come downstairs from doing something and he sees me, he starts slugging after me crying....hoping this is just a phase and they will get over it soon! Of course as soon as I pick him up he gets a big smile on his face like, ha I won!

jlsweets

Oh and I also let him cry today and didn't go get him when he was playing...after about 5-10mins he stopped and continued to play on his own....BUT as soon as he saw me again he started up...so I would try letting him cry for a little bit to see if he will calm himself down and entertain himself..its frustrating, I feel you!

willadieselstm

I'm glad to see other mamas are dealing with this too! I love being needed. But peeing without a screaming child crawling to me while I'm on the toilet would be nice!! Ha.

bellelamb

Oh yeah they almost all go though this, in my life peeing alone or showering alone is like a vacation.

littleredfish

schemrich:

I'm glad to see other mamas are dealing with this too! I love being needed. But peeing without a screaming child crawling to me while I'm on the toilet would be nice!! Ha.

My child refuses to crawl and has instead learned to climb, she's getting pretty good at it too. It's hard to sit and eat or pee with her next to me trying to climb me like a tree. Everytime I go to put her down she's like a cat clinging to me.

jlsweets

schemrich:

I'm glad to see other mamas are dealing with this too! I love being needed. But peeing without a screaming child crawling to me while I'm on the toilet would be nice!! Ha.

haha so true