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update to my gun post
SimpleJane
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So, DHHS lady called me on my way home from the Dr. She asked if she could come out and see our home and speak with DS and I. I said yes, but I was completely nervous about it because the kids were cranky and it was lunch and then nap time. It all worked out though and went well.
She first took DS in his room to speak with him. I told him that she was a lady that checks up on kids to make sure they are happy and safe at both of their homes, and to just be honest with her and tell her the truth about anything she asks. She talked to him for about 20 minutes, and he seemed happy and excited to tell her all about his life, not skeptical or nervousat all, which I was thankful for.
She tried to talk to DD for a minute, but DD is only two and was pretty much just like "hey, look at my toys!" So, I then put them down for a nap and she talked to me a lot and to my BF some. She took a detailed history,and I signed some releases for her to talk to my doctor and the kids doctor.
She told me that DS had confirmed what I had said about the gun being beside the bed, and his dad always having it there. I also showed her the pictures that I had shown the police. She said that her next step will be to interview XH and see what his attitude is. He will need to write out and agree to a safety plan regarding storage and use of guns around the kids. If he is cooperative and follows through then that will be it unless it becomes an issue again. If he isn't cooperative they will take further action to insure the kids safety.
I'm relieved that the interviews went well. I'm wondering what XH will say to her, and I'm also wondering what will come of the police report. The police said they had to forward it to the DA and child endangerment charges could be made.
The last few days the kids have been really sick and XH and I have been communicating normally about doctors appointments and medications, as well as asking for and giving updates about temps and such. He seems to be over his initial angry response but I'm sure that will change when this lady calls him and comes to check out his house.
I haven't talked to a lawyer yet because I can't afford it. I didn't even have one for our divorce. I don't know what I'm going to do if he serves me with papers for CS reduction. I'm not sure if it would get him anywhere, both of us are still making what our old order says we are. He says his lawyer told him his CS would be 270 less per month.
Anyway, I'm just happy for now that the kids are safe with me until Thursday, and that something is being done about this.
She first took DS in his room to speak with him. I told him that she was a lady that checks up on kids to make sure they are happy and safe at both of their homes, and to just be honest with her and tell her the truth about anything she asks. She talked to him for about 20 minutes, and he seemed happy and excited to tell her all about his life, not skeptical or nervousat all, which I was thankful for.
She tried to talk to DD for a minute, but DD is only two and was pretty much just like "hey, look at my toys!" So, I then put them down for a nap and she talked to me a lot and to my BF some. She took a detailed history,and I signed some releases for her to talk to my doctor and the kids doctor.
She told me that DS had confirmed what I had said about the gun being beside the bed, and his dad always having it there. I also showed her the pictures that I had shown the police. She said that her next step will be to interview XH and see what his attitude is. He will need to write out and agree to a safety plan regarding storage and use of guns around the kids. If he is cooperative and follows through then that will be it unless it becomes an issue again. If he isn't cooperative they will take further action to insure the kids safety.
I'm relieved that the interviews went well. I'm wondering what XH will say to her, and I'm also wondering what will come of the police report. The police said they had to forward it to the DA and child endangerment charges could be made.
The last few days the kids have been really sick and XH and I have been communicating normally about doctors appointments and medications, as well as asking for and giving updates about temps and such. He seems to be over his initial angry response but I'm sure that will change when this lady calls him and comes to check out his house.
I haven't talked to a lawyer yet because I can't afford it. I didn't even have one for our divorce. I don't know what I'm going to do if he serves me with papers for CS reduction. I'm not sure if it would get him anywhere, both of us are still making what our old order says we are. He says his lawyer told him his CS would be 270 less per month.
Anyway, I'm just happy for now that the kids are safe with me until Thursday, and that something is being done about this.
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Re: update to my gun post
I was absolutely stunned when I read your original post. I think you absolutely did the right thing. Arguing with him was not going to make your babies safe. I am glad the situation is being taken seriously, and hope it teaches him about proper gun safety and storage. Good luck.
Well done, I wish all mom were as pro active as you are.
For whats its worth, I would have done exactly the same thing.
Hope it all works out and this is the 'wake up' Eh needed.
Good news! Glad it went well and he cooperates. I thought of you and his jackassery and can't imagine why someone (after all that's happened in Newport) would think it's okay to have a gun where children can access.
H's brother keeps a gun by his bed too. He removed it and stored it safely when we were visiting with DD. He's single with not kids, but I still don't get it. Seriously? What kind of head trip are you on to want this?
Anyway, glad it went well. Best of luck to you on this.