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* BFP Warning* in Time To Switch Boards Post

sammer818sammer818 member
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Be aware. I was SO not ready for that today Tongue Tied Mondays are bad enough as is.


TTC since April 2010
BFP #1 – March 2011, missed m/c April 2011
BFP #2 – October 2011, m/c November 2011
Surprise BFP #3 – December 2011, diagnosed as cornual, terminated January 2012
BFP #4 – June 2012, m/c July 2012
Diagnosed with bicornuate ute and MTHR gene mutation
BFP #5 – October 2012, missed m/c November 2012
BFP #6 – January 2013, m/c March 2013
No longer TTC. Diagnosis: Hostile ute. Heartbroken and bitter. Pursuing surrogacy.
June 2013 - Carrier found! Could this really happen?!
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~All AL always welcome~

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  • LaTi07LaTi07 member
    I hate to admit it, but I got teary eyed from the post. It's NOT fair!

    My Old Blog | My Chart | TTCAL Shenanigans
    ♥BFP #1 "Spawn"- 02/23/11 | EDD: 11/01/11 | natural m/c 03/20/11 @7w5d♥
    ♥BFP #2 "Offspring"- 11/10/12 | EDD: 07/25/13 | incomplete m/c 12/14/12 @8w1d | D&C 12/21/12♥
    ♥BFP #3 "Progeny" - 02/16/15 | It's a BOY!! | EDD: 10/17/15 | BD: 10/23/15♥
    All AL Always Welcome

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  • possitivethoughtspossitivethoughts member
    I actually congratulated her .. LOL.. but then I decided to check and see how many times she really posted here.. ugh!  seriously??
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    6th pregnancy, 4th baby

    BFP 12/08/2015

    Beta #1 12/08/2015 (3097)

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  • sammer818sammer818 member

    imageLaTi07:
    I hate to admit it, but I got teary eyed from the post. It's NOT fair!

    *HUGS* LaTi. It really isn't fair. I just got insanely angry at the post. I'm not in a good place today and that really didn't help anything. I kind of wanted to punch my computer screen Surprise which is why I couldn't type a reply to her and posted this instead.


    TTC since April 2010
    BFP #1 – March 2011, missed m/c April 2011
    BFP #2 – October 2011, m/c November 2011
    Surprise BFP #3 – December 2011, diagnosed as cornual, terminated January 2012
    BFP #4 – June 2012, m/c July 2012
    Diagnosed with bicornuate ute and MTHR gene mutation
    BFP #5 – October 2012, missed m/c November 2012
    BFP #6 – January 2013, m/c March 2013
    No longer TTC. Diagnosis: Hostile ute. Heartbroken and bitter. Pursuing surrogacy.
    June 2013 - Carrier found! Could this really happen?!
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    ~All AL always welcome~

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  • nefertaratennefertaraten
    Again, I'm very sorry, and I will be taking it down immediately. I'm sorry.
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  • km_mdkm_md member
    Andddd DD? I don't get why people don't understand it. Just because it is online you lose all social decency?


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  • LaTi07LaTi07 member
    Personally, I loved the excuse of she wanted to see success stories when she was trying so she thought she'd share some joy. Uhh...yeah all that did was remind me that my body still isn't working right, but thanks for being like everyone else who gets what they flucking want! Yeah, I feel much better....Confused

    My Old Blog | My Chart | TTCAL Shenanigans
    ♥BFP #1 "Spawn"- 02/23/11 | EDD: 11/01/11 | natural m/c 03/20/11 @7w5d♥
    ♥BFP #2 "Offspring"- 11/10/12 | EDD: 07/25/13 | incomplete m/c 12/14/12 @8w1d | D&C 12/21/12♥
    ♥BFP #3 "Progeny" - 02/16/15 | It's a BOY!! | EDD: 10/17/15 | BD: 10/23/15♥
    All AL Always Welcome

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  • nefertaratennefertaraten
    No, actually it was because I wanted desperately to see those successes posted on that board and after not seeing any for a few weeks, I left. Again, I'm so very sorry that I made a breach of etiquette and I took it down as soon as I saw how upsetting it was. I'm very, very sorry. I do wish you all the best of luck, and I sincerely hope you all have success stories soon.
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  • linzeeh80linzeeh80 member
    imagesammer818:

    imageLaTi07:
    I hate to admit it, but I got teary eyed from the post. It's NOT fair!

    *HUGS* LaTi. It really isn't fair. I just got insanely angry at the post. I'm not in a good place today and that really didn't help anything. I kind of wanted to punch my computer screen Surprise which is why I couldn't type a reply to her and posted this instead.

    Yes This was exactly me Sammer. Except I was responding and it wasn't pretty... But of coarse she DD'd. Fluck her. Grrrr  


    TTC since August 2011
    BFP#1 3/16/12 EDD 11/21/12 Delivered 6/1/12 at 15 weeks 2 days
    "If there ever comes a day when we can't be together... Keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever." ~ Winnie the Pooh

    BFP#2 4/14/13 EDD 12/24/13 Please be our rainbow after the storm!
    Beta#1 @ 15dpo 274, P4 16.9 Beta#2 @ 18dpo 940!! Doubling time of 40 hours!! u/s @ 6w2d showed a beautiful HB of 120! u/s @ 10w1d HB 174!! Grow, LO Grow!! Found out 7/22 we are TEAM BLUE!!
    Zaiden Harper was born 12/22/13 at 1:46 am. 9lbs 8oz and 22in
    ~*~AL Always Welcome~*~
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  • km_mdkm_md member

    imageLaTi07:
    Personally, I loved the excuse of she wanted to see success stories when she was trying so she thought she'd share some joy. Uhh...yeah all that did was remind me that my body still isn't working right, but thanks for being like everyone else who gets what they flucking want! Yeah, I feel much better....Confused

    She said she left after not seeing any success stories? do you not wonder why you don't see any success stories here? Perhaps there is a reason and maybe you shouldn't post yours here?  (((LaTi)))



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  • ashx3reneeashx3renee member

    imagenefertaraten:
    No, actually it was because I wanted desperately to see those successes posted on that board and after not seeing any for a few weeks, I left. Again, I'm so very sorry that I made a breach of etiquette and I took it down as soon as I saw how upsetting it was. I'm very, very sorry. I do wish you all the best of luck, and I sincerely hope you all have success stories soon.

     Etiquette also requires that you post a separate apology and DON'T delete the initial post.  I didn't actually read the post before it was deleted but usually from what I've seen, all you would've had to do was added a BFP Warning in the title of your post and it would've been ok.  

    9.08.12 BFP! | 11.01.12 MMC Discovered at 12 weeks| 11.06.12 D&C 
    11.25.13 BFP#2| 4.07.14 TEAM PINK!!!|EDD 8.8.14 Please be our Rainbow Charlotte Grace <3
    7.01.15 BFP#3| 10.06.15 TEAM BLUE!| EDD 3.02.16
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  • QuigleyCat1QuigleyCat1 member

    Thank you Sammer!  I actually went back to look at her post history and I saw this one and couldn't believe the bolded!:

    Thanks guys, I did mark the day I miscarried in case that was the case. Still bleeding 9 days later, but getting very slight now. I was desperately hoping that I wouldn't have to wait for 2-3 months to have a normal cycle again. We'll still have to see, but you guys are giving me hope. Good luck to you! (And sorry, still learning all of the abbreviations, what is a D&C?)

     Ummmm, that just stands for D&C. It's not a Bump acronym.  It's an acronym for dilation and curettage.  It's a procedure that many of us have had to endure at least once or more. Indifferent

    Lilypie - (dLe1)

     

          ***BFP 1-22-13, baby boy dx with Trisomy 13 at 15 weeks.

           We let him go to Heaven on 4-27-13 at 17 weeks 1 day***

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  • QuigleyCat1QuigleyCat1 member

    imageLaTi07:
    I hate to admit it, but I got teary eyed from the post. It's NOT fair!

    (((hugs))) Sad

    Lilypie - (dLe1)

     

          ***BFP 1-22-13, baby boy dx with Trisomy 13 at 15 weeks.

           We let him go to Heaven on 4-27-13 at 17 weeks 1 day***

     Lilypie - (AW2u)
     

     Lilypie - (L84X)Lilypie - (D4Hj)

     

     

     

     

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  • EKGibsEKGibs member
    imageRosiePeare:

    imagenefertaraten:
    No, actually it was because I wanted desperately to see those successes posted on that board and after not seeing any for a few weeks, I left. Again, I'm so very sorry that I made a breach of etiquette and I took it down as soon as I saw how upsetting it was. I'm very, very sorry. I do wish you all the best of luck, and I sincerely hope you all have success stories soon.

    Pregnant After a Loss (PgAL) is full of wonderful success stories. Personally, since I just lost my second baby (that took me 11 months and over $10,000 to conceive), I don't lurk there at the moment. In fact, I only stay here. Because it's safe. Because I don't have to hear about BFPs. Because women here get why that would be so painful.

    ETA: I get that you're sorry. I appreciate that you took the post down. I just hope you'll be more careful to learn the etiquette and conventions in any other board you choose to join. 

    (((((((BIG HUGS)))))))

    TTC since 4/28/07
    Diagnosed w/ endometriosis 12/2010 Laproscopic surgery & 6 months of Lupron
    BFP 12/17/2011,EDD 8/23/12,ectopic discovered 12/29/11 at 6 weeks recieved methotrexate
    Dec '12 HSG & ultrasound showed abnormalities & more endo. Laproscopic surgery in January '13 showed significant damage & scar tissue from Endo. IVF is our best shot to concieve our rainbow.

    June '13 Decided to go the adoption route!

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  • LaTi07LaTi07 member
    imageRosiePeare:

    Pregnant After a Loss (PgAL) is full of wonderful success stories. Personally, since I just lost my second baby (that took me 11 months and over $10,000 to conceive), I don't lurk there at the moment. In fact, I only stay here. Because it's safe. Because I don't have to hear about BFPs. Because women here get why that would be so painful.

    ETA: I get that you're sorry. I appreciate that you took the post down. I just hope you'll be more careful to learn the etiquette and conventions in any other board you choose to join. 

    (Hugs) Rosie.

    I wouldn't waste your breath. You are trying to explain etiquette and common sense to someone who left because they weren't getting what they wanted. It was never about support to this person...it was all about them.


    My Old Blog | My Chart | TTCAL Shenanigans
    ♥BFP #1 "Spawn"- 02/23/11 | EDD: 11/01/11 | natural m/c 03/20/11 @7w5d♥
    ♥BFP #2 "Offspring"- 11/10/12 | EDD: 07/25/13 | incomplete m/c 12/14/12 @8w1d | D&C 12/21/12♥
    ♥BFP #3 "Progeny" - 02/16/15 | It's a BOY!! | EDD: 10/17/15 | BD: 10/23/15♥
    All AL Always Welcome

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  • mightymousymightymousy member
    Oh fluck no!!!!! A bfp after only 4 posts on the board all of which were her own threads?!!! &$@!?;)(/!
    BFP#1 9/28/2012 - EDD 6/3/2013 - MMC discovered 11/21/2012 @ 12w2d - D&C 11/24/2012
    BFP#2 4/4/2013 - Born at 37w3d on 11/26/13 via emergency c-section
    Loving our beautiful rainbow baby boy Archer!
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    ~*All AL Welcome*~
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  • BeccabbyBeccabby member
    I missed this post, but holy hell whats going on today? Too many insensitive people just posting! I can understand wanting to share your news but for goodness sake, post it in the right place. Not just where your cursor clicks!
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    Married my very own GI Joe May 2002
     
    BFP May 2002  NMC June 2002
    BFP September 2002 ID twins born April 2003 @ 35 weeks
    BFP September 2007 DD born May 2008
    BFP August 2012 MC October 2012
    BFP January 2012 DD October 2013
     
    I MISS MY TICKER :(

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  • mayoneggmayonegg member
    oh boy. (((hugs))) to all who had to endure
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