Have any of you had the issue where the child support was upped to the point where you could not lived off of what is left? DH makes 3800/ month and BM does not work. The state of Iowa feels that DH should be paying BM $1500/ month. While I work as well, we live in an expensive area. Daycare (which we were lucky to find) is $650/ month, DS is on a special formula because of his milk protein alergy which runs us about $300/ month, plus diapers, house payment, vehicle payment, food, gas, insurance, cell phone for SS who is 6 (the only way we can talk to him and that is when BM turns the phone on). We are barely scraping by. I could re locate my job to a different area, but DH would not be making the money he is making if even find a job since he works in the oil field. Child support was just raised from 650 to 1500, and we cannot afford it. Plus the judge told us that SS and BM are DH's primary responsibility, and DS is my responsibility. We just do not know what we will do. BM Bartends for cash, but we have to prove that she does this. We live 12 hours away from her and do not know anyone in her town. Plus to top it off, during our visit, when child support did not go they way she wanted (she wanted 2,000/month) she decided that she wanted ss back early and her and her mom sent DH harrasing text messages that DH needed to do what is best for SS and that our son is nothing. I'm at a loss here on what to do, and how we will provide for our family.
Re: Child support upped
Did you have a lawyer?
Ouch. That's like 40% of his income! It seems a bit excessive. I also don't think that the existence of your DS should be totally disregarded. I agree that baby #2 should not negate his responsiblity for baby #1. However, I think a father should have the right - not to mention the responsibility - to support all of his children. In fact, in Indiana there is a line in the cs calculator for subsequent children. I don't think it effects the bottom line too much, but it is there.
I agree with PP's - if you didn't have a lawyer you need to get one. ASAP. I know they are expensive, but this verdict is also very expensive, and will go on being so for a long time unless you get this fixed.
Maybe his take home is 3800? They don't go by that. They go by the pretaxed number. I can't imagine he's paying 40 precent of his gross income in CS.
DH used to pay 33% of his gross income to BM.
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I hope you guys can get things worked out but unfortunately this is what your DH signed up for when he decided to create two families. Almost everyone of us on this board has to deal with child support payments. The point of child support is that the child lives financially as if the parents were still together.