Looking for advice.

Bindybee

Since my boyfriend and I decided to ttc in October (now January) I've been using this website and I guess finally ready to tell you ladies about us.
We're both 22, highschool sweethearts and have lived together for 3years nows. We have opposite schedules and try to have sex as frequently as possible, but can't every other day and my periods are irregular from month to month. I've tried an ovulation kit but no surge detected (buying another one for this month.)

 I know we only have a 20% chance every month and as a young couple the chances are good, but every month when my period comes we are both so sad. I'm so afraid I won't get pregnant... Also afraid to mention this but its a huge factor in why so please no judgement. We did conceive when we were 18 but due to our own reasons, had an abortion. The doctor states if I wasn't told something went "wrong" then there are no lasting complications to prevent future pregnancy. But all I can think is what if I lost my only chance to have a baby and am being punished now for what I did?

Last month my period started on  the 8th and lasted till the 18th (it was slower but still bleeding...) We had sex last night but there was some blood after so I put in a tampon and told him. My boyfriend is just as upset as I am when I tell him.. It makes me feel guilty for not being able to make him a daddy. Anyways, this morning when I went to change my tampon, there was only a tiny of blood (that was just over three hours ago) and so far no more bleeding. Not even slight discoloration like a cycle is starting... I want to tell him but don't want to say anything if it starts right after (ttc karma...)

Help a young wanna be mama out?

 

Dr.Loretta

What specific advice are you looking for?

Bindybee

Perhaps not the best title... Not really sure where I should be posting and really looking for someone to talk too. We aren't telling anyone we are trying, so I can't talk to my mama about this.

How I feel, if anyone is in the same boat...

Sto71

Have you gone to see your gyno lately? Is the dr saying everything is ok? Maybe you could look into more kind of testing plus if you don't get an surge maybe they can help figure out why?! Also don't put yourself down on what you did when you were 18, you're not being punished for it. Maybe its just taking longer than you hoped! But wish you luck

LHD1518

Don't beat yourself up about it. It takes time and patience. I had a similar experience when I was 19, I had to have an abortion because my family wouldn't support me or allow it and the father was leaving me to face everything alone. Then when I met my husband it took us a while to get pregnant, i started blaming myself for what i had done, and all of a sudden i went to the dr for a check up and BFP! Not even knowing, I was having period like bleeding also but i was pregnant. So keep your head up, let go of the past, and stay positive. Your time will come when you least expect it. Good Luck.

ohlily

Be patient it took me almost 2 years to concieve. I tracked ovulation days every month and every month I didnt get pregnant I was extremely depressed and would cry all the time, finally it got to the point I had to stop tracking it became to much for me. As soon as I stopped my stress went down my husband and I were much happier and I got pregnant within the next month.