Baby name

hnewell

Why is it when people ask about the babies name they feel the need to suggest other names? It's not like I'm asking for suggestions when I answer their question,  or giving options for them to pick from. I'm telling them the name we put a lot of thought into, and has meaning to us. 

Our daughter's middle name will be Oliver. I know it's a name traditionaly given to boys, but It's also her fathers middle name and great great grandpa's first name.  Is Oliver really so bad?  

Trish&Pete07

Personally I would use Olivia as the female version on Oliver as a middle name for a girl, or save Oliver for a boy if we were planning on having more. But that's just me. As long as you aren't naming your kid Hiltler, Jesus or Kitchen I don't really think it is anyone's business to comment on the name.

That being said if this baby is a boy my FIL has point blank told me that it didn't matter what we call him, he will be calling the baby Arie, after himself, regardless. Ya, lets see you try!! 

kimmarie1105

Yes. It is bad IMO. But if it you like it, and it means something then why are you on here asking strangers and trying to stir up drama? Who cares.

emeraudecephiro

It could be worse, it's not terrible. It's your choice ultimately. 

krissymac

Who really uses middle names anyway? Use Oliver if its meaningful to you. 

nyki06

I think you should choose a name that you and your significant other like and not take other's opinions too seriously. We choose a name and don't tell people until the baby is here because we don't want to deal with opinions. People are a lot less likely to criticize the name once the baby is here because there's no going back at that point. 

hnewell

This will be our last baby, so no saving the name for the next one. I think Olivia is a nice name but not for us.

Is your FIL being serious or does he think he's being funny? I would probably find that annoying if he really did it. 

hnewell

kimmarie1105:

Yes. It is bad IMO. But if it you like it, and it means something then why are you on here asking strangers and trying to stir up drama? Who cares.

 No, not here to stir up drama.  

old_time_girl

If this LO had been a girl, i would be fighting DH to name her Olive. Olivia is too common and nms.

MsAmeera25

I don't like Oliver but if you like it then go for it

burneyonboard

I love it!  My daughter's name is Charli and we got the same reaction at first.  Someone even told me they would pray about a new name for us.  Now when we tell ppl her name they love it!  I think it is a cute name for a girl honestly. Plus, it's not like it's her first name, people will only know her middle name if someone asks.

Colsdoll

They would pray for a new name? OMG the nerve. I might have replied - and I will pray for god to grant you some manners. 

mypalbabs

kimmarie1105:

Yes. It is bad IMO. But if it you like it, and it means something then why are you on here asking strangers and trying to stir up drama? Who cares.

lol - this is the least dramatic thread ever of all time.

OP - I love Oliver and think it will be a lovely MN for your daughter.

RussianMommy

i dont like this trend of giving boy names to girls and vice versa. IMO, Oliver is not a good girls name... but... you're going to do what you want

kimmarie1105

hnewell:

kimmarie1105:

Yes. It is bad IMO. But if it you like it, and it means something then why are you on here asking strangers and trying to stir up drama? Who cares.

 No, not here to stir up drama.  

 

Perhaps I misinterpreted the undertone to your post. It seemed to me that you were annoyed that people were giving you opinions on a boys name for your daughter, yet you still chose to ask and share.  

JSS1002

NandaB:

mypalbabs:

kimmarie1105:

Yes. It is bad IMO. But if it you like it, and it means something then why are you on here asking strangers and trying to stir up drama? Who cares.

lol - this is the least dramatic thread ever of all time.

OP - I love Oliver and think it will be a lovely MN for your daughter.

Hehehe. Yep. Its a bit random for a first post, but dramatic? Nah. OP its not my style, but its not my kid. If you were going to giver her Oliver as a first name I would feel a little sorry for her, but it could be worse. Her first name isn't going to be Vagina is it?

Bwahahahahahahahaha

NativeFloridian

Sometimes I get a big kick out of flying in the face of tradition.  I say do it.  I, personally, like Oliver as a middle name for a girl.  Who cares what anyone thinks?  Then again, if you're posting here you're indicating that you may not be 100% certain about it.  FWIW, most people are going to go, "Oliver?  But that's a boy name!" and suggest something else.  Don't worry about that sh!t.  If you're going to go with it, go with it unabashedly.

sherina825

If you're not 100% about Oliver for a girl, my friend gave her daughter the middle name of Ollie. While neither of them are my style, they're also not my children. You can name your kid whatever you want. 

crunchymnm

Honestly I don't think it's bad.

skidderdo

My middle name is Jahns, and my sister's middle name is Travis. Both family names. We both have always been very proud of our middle names (in fact, her daughter is now Sophie Travis, and my baby will take my middle name too). I like Oliver, unique!

allokar

I think the suggestion of Olive is much better for a girl...Oliver is very much a "boys name" but like others have said, it is a middle name and your choice. Just try to keep in mind what your daughter might think about it when she is 15...or 30. 

NativeFloridian

allokar:

I think the suggestion of Olive is much better for a girl...Oliver is very much a "boys name" but like others have said, it is a middle name and your choice. Just try to keep in mind what your daughter might think about it when she is 15...or 30. 

Just a thought on this note...

I've known women with names like Bobbi, Jo, Mickey (a nickname for Mikayla), Ollie, Jay, or Jay-Jay (as in "J," for Jackie) etc, and most of them had no issue with their "boyish" names or nicknames.  In fact, with the nicknames, most of them chose to be called by the more boyish name.  Every girl is different, but I don't think I've ever met a girl with a "boyish" name who had a real problem with it.

hnewell

Thanks ladies!! I really do appreciate the input.