3rd baby shower?!

luvme2kids

Ok so this is my third and last pregnancy. I have a 6 year old and almost 3 year old. Here's my question... I have a friend that wants to throw me a baby shower. I would love to have one bc I had one 6 years ago with my 1st so most of the stuff I have is old and/or hand me downs. I was also a young teenager so I didnt get much and there wasn't a lot of people. I felt like I didnt get the real babyshower experience. However I don't feel it's right to have one since its my third and it's another girl. I don't want to sound greedy or be greedy. What would u do!? Would you let her throw one? If not how would you tell her no? She's also one of those people who say they'll do something but don't so at the same time I'm not expecting one from her.

skoogirl

If she offered to have one and you want one. I would suggest not inviting the people who were there at your first shower(s) though.

lexyraejay

If someone is offering to throw it for you AND your guests are accustomed to attending STM+ showers, then make a REALLY small/intimate guest list and see what happens.

blueandgray

If someone is offering, I'd accept & keep it small.  Enjoy being celebrated by/with your closest friends & family!  Maybe make a very small registry list of the things that HAVE to be replaced.  I bought all our big-ticket items myself last time (crib, carseat, stroller), and left smaller baby items like the tub, washclothes, bottles, crib sheets, etc on the registry.  Then you don't seem gift-grabby, and you really can enjoy the shower for what its truly meant to be - a chance to enjoy the good company of a small group of well-wishing women who are excited for you & your new baby.

nessahm

I would totally let her throw you a shower! However, I do think creating a registry for a second/third/fourth baby is kind of tacky. To me, it does say that you are expecting gifts. But, that is just me. Everyone is different.

I threw my SIL a surprise sprinkle for her third baby. She had no idea and didn't expect a thing. This was also her first boy so everyone brought her really cute baby boy outfits. It was a very laid back event and she had such a great time.

jerkosnow

blueandgray:

If someone is offering, I'd accept & keep it small.  Enjoy being celebrated by/with your closest friends & family!  Maybe make a very small registry list of the things that HAVE to be replaced.  I bought all our big-ticket items myself last time (crib, carseat, stroller), and left smaller baby items like the tub, washclothes, bottles, crib sheets, etc on the registry.  Then you don't seem gift-grabby, and you really can enjoy the shower for what its truly meant to be - a chance to enjoy the good company of a small group of well-wishing women who are excited for you & your new baby.

 

This. 

 

And we have basically the exact same situation. A 6 year old I had as a 19 year old, a daughter that just turned 3 on the 31st, and our 3rd and final on the way. If someone was throwing me a shower I would accept graciously and keep it small. We don't need anything at all except boy clothes if it turns out to be a boy so no shower for us.

luvme2kids

Thanks everyone. Well see if she even throws it but now I know what to do if she does. I don't think I'll be doing a registry though. I really don't wanna sound greedy lol I just need a updated wardrobe and some newer small things. When I had my 1st I had a drop side crib but was lucky that Kmart replaced it for me when I was pregnant with my second. : thanks again!