Have a little issues. My sister who is 22 and got married 10 days after getting engaged last January is having a big wedding out of town the end of September. I was suppose to be in the wedding but now she is not having a wedding party just her and her husband. My thing is I am due the beginning of Sept EDD 8th. I do not think I will be able to fly to her wedding w delivery so close.
My thing is how do I tell my sister this? We have had are ups and downs since her wedding. She is 22 I am 38 she rushed to get married just bought a brand new house spur of the moment and now a big wedding on the beach.
We are in good graces but not sure how to break it to her. Any thoughts?
Re: what to do
There is no way I would travel with a newborn and would just say that to her. Honestly, she would have to be crazy to not understand.
Personally, I wouldn't be dying to go to a wedding for a married couple anyway because you can only marry the same person 1 time without a divorce in between.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
It's possible you'll have the baby early or late, and you won't know if either of you can do a plane trip until you get to that point. I'd hope your sister would understand and not take it personally.
I would def not plan a trip like this so close to my due date. You could deliver early and have complications with that, or late and have a really new baby. If you have a C-section you might not be physically able to travel, even with my totally natural normal delivery, It was at least a month before I was physically/mentally "normal"
Tell your sister asap that you can't make it. Maybe she'll change the date. If not, You'll have to skip it, and that doesn't sound like a tragedy to me.
How to tell her
"Hey sis! I am super excited about your wedding plans and was really looking forward to celebrating with you in Sept. but I have great news of my own.... I'm pregnant! Yeah! Due date is so close to the date of your party that It's very unlikely we'll be able to make it. Sucks that it worked out like that, but Sept will be an exciting month for both of us! Wanted to let you know ASAP, let me know if there's anything long distance I can do to help. Love ya Auntie"
So she's getting remarried to the same man? Hmmm. I would normally want to be there for my sister but sometimes you just can't...and this is one of those times. Like others have said...it's possibel you could deliver late or end up with a c-secion. Traveling with a newborn is actually quite easy (we did the MI to FL when our little one was 3 weeks and it was fine) but who knows if there will be complications, (heaven forbid), etc.
My sister was unable to be at my wedding (and two of her kids were in it!). She had plans to travel to Scotland months and months in advance and we planned our wedding in 3 months and didn't have a lot of choices as far as dates. I would have loved to have had her there but it just wasn't possible.
I agree with PP, just tell her that unfortunately you won't be able to make but you wish here all the best.
Also, this might just be one of my pet peeves, but a 'wedding' after you've already been married is a vow renewal. I find it tacky that she calls it a wedding and maybe slightly gift grabby as well, sorry.
She got married 10 days after she got engaged and she's planning a wedding? Huh?
Sounds like she's trying to get presents from people after eloping...
She's already married, what's to plan?
my thoughts exactly. this situation is terribly confusing. but if you can't make it to the (2nd?) wedding because of pregnancy, she will just have to understand. so many things can happen then- you could deliver early, be on bed rest, etc...
All of this! Don't plan to travel but wait a few weeks to tell her when you're ready to officially announce your pregnancy. With it being a destination wedding at the beach, I'm not sure what exactly she'd need help with but you could always offer to help her with things to show you care.
All of this! Don't plan to travel but wait a few weeks to tell her when you're ready to officially announce your pregnancy. With it being a destination wedding at the beach, I'm not sure what exactly she'd need help with but you could always offer to help her with things to show you care.
I was supposed to be a bridesmaid at my sister's wedding at the end of July, but my EDD is August 7th.
I flat out told her over Skype that I wouldn't be able to make it to the wedding. She was extremely disappointed for about 10 seconds until I told her the reason why.
Now, her husband-to-be is planning the telecommute for us guests who won't be able to make it...they are setting up a laptop with Google place or Skype on it for us out-of-towners to attend. My sister is thrilled and totally understanding.
Just let her know, and maybe the excitement of impending auntdom will outweigh any disappointment.