I like them but meeting them just confused me more

greenteabee

geez! I am a freaking ticking time bomb here and I want something that just says to me either way what to do. I really liked them but it just really confused me. there wasnt anything there that just spoke "These are their parents" but I could see the boys with them. It's all a mess right now. The boys have their eviction date of 1/28 and I can't believe it's almost here. It's insane.

twinkjk

I know you are feeling the pressure to choose, but don't rush a decision.  You will know what's right at just the right time.  You felt good about this couple--that's great, but give it time and you will know for sure one way or the other.   

DaisyZH

(( Hugs )) Take your time.  I think you had mentioned before possibly waiting to decide after having the boys home for a bit?  Don't put pressure on yourself, try and relax and trust yourself and your feelings.  I'm sorry, sending prayers for clarity and peace for you.

LIQueen

I just took one of my online adoption trainings and birth moms and adoption coordinators spoke about the first meeting and how they "just knew."  Maybe these are just not the parents.  Can you meet with another couple and see then if it makes you feel like the 1st couple is right?

srmmm09

I feel like there can also be pressure to "just know" immediately. I mean, I didn't KNOW my husband was going to be my husband the first time I met him (the fact that he wouldn't talk to me didn't help, lol); that doesn't mean we don't have a great relationship.

You still have time. There isn't an actual deadline; you'll make the decision to parent or place before they go off to college! 

sarahtoledo

srmmm09:

I feel like there can also be pressure to "just know" immediately. I mean, I didn't KNOW my husband was going to be my husband the first time I met him (the fact that he wouldn't talk to me didn't help, lol); that doesn't mean we don't have a great relationship.

You still have time. There isn't an actual deadline; you'll make the decision to parent or place before they go off to college! 

 

I agree.  I pretty much never "just know".  It's not who I am.  Ask my poor H, who turned out to be a great decision, with whom I just celebrated ten years of marriage.  

You cannot feel rushed in this decision. 

amm78

This is a tough decision for you to make, and I think taking your time is important.  Yes, 1/28 is soon, but there's still time for you to weigh your options and make your decision.

potatohead

Praying you will have peace in your decision.  Hugs.

hey_its_jenn

DaisyZH:

(( Hugs )) Take your time.  I think you had mentioned before possibly waiting to decide after having the boys home for a bit?  Don't put pressure on yourself, try and relax and trust yourself and your feelings.  I'm sorry, sending prayers for clarity and peace for you.

Could not have said it any better.  Ditto this.  

davidandheather

Oh greenteabea, I feel so much anguish for you. I can imagine wanting an obvious sign before making that decision. I agree with PP that those magical obvious signs are more difficult to see than we want them to be. I agree with PP. I waited so long to get married looking for a magical sign. I hope you can use fact as much as possible and much prayer in making your choice. God already knows who their adoptive parents will be and is preparing them and you at this very moment. Much love. 

HouseofLovelock

Oh my gosh! I can't believe you are about to have the babies, I remember when you first got on the boards! Congrats.

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