We have 2u2 girls, just shy of 19 months apart. It's awesome and wonderful and I wouldn't trade it for anything, but for various reasons we've decided not to do 2u2 again. I would like a 3rd child, DH is on the fence. We're kind of debating the age gap between DD2 and hypothetical #3. Since our first two are so close in age, we're afraid putting too large of a gap between #2 and #3 will leave #3 a loner or change the dynamic of our family too much, but we also don't want to have #3 sooner than we're ready just to have the smaller age gap. If DH suddenly agreed to conceive #3 right now, they would be almost exactly 2 years apart. If we wait until the timeline I have in mind, they would be around 2.5 years, possibly up to 3y, apart.
So my question is, if you had 2u2 then a larger gap between #2 and #3 (especially if it was 2.5-3 years) how has it been for #3, and for the family as a whole? Do you find #3 getting left out a lot, has it had a major impact on family activities, etc?
Re: Moms of 3+: If you had 2u2 then a larger gap between 2 and 3...
My first two are 16 months apart and #3 is 2y4mos behind #2. I like how it turned out. Like you, I didn't want 2u2 again. When #3 came, he was "the baby" and #1 and #2 were "the big kids" for about 2 years before they started to all seem kinda equal again, know what I mean? Now they all play together and we have to remind ourselves sometimes that #3 isn't the same age as the oldest two (they will forever seem the same age, I think because our oldest is a boy...they just seem so equal in so many ways)
Now we had 3 years (due to a m/c) between #3 and #4 and that seems like a big gap to me. He's def the only baby around here! But not for long...
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
Our younger ones are dd1, age 27 months, dd2, age 8 months and new baby is due in August. I really like that these kids will be closer and no more than one grade difference
I'm the second of 5 #1 and I are 11 months apart, and #3 is 2.5 years younger than I am, than 2.5 and 1.5 years between the others. I think that's where my worry about the 3rd being left out stems from - #3 of my siblings still had two younger than her so our family dynamic was always different (though there was only 8 years between #1 and #5!), but we will 100% be done after 3, if we choose to have another.
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011