Help Needed

tim+erin

Hi. Let me start by saying I am so sorry for each of your losses. I can't begin to imagine your pain. I am hoping that some of you may be able to help me. It will be a year in January since our neighbors 4 month old passed. A few of us want to do something in her memory. We were thinking of planting a tree or possibly putting a bench at our neighborhood playground dedicated to her. Our other thought was to donate money in her memory to the lactation department at the local hospital mom is a lactation consultant. Do any of you have advice or suggestions? Is it maybe too soon to do anything? Thanks in advance for any suggesstions or advice.

starburst0928

I think it's great that you want to recognize your neighbors baby!  I don't think it is too soon and it's a wonderful gesture, but doing something on the child's birthday might be more meaningful. 

The ideas you came up with were all wonderful. The bench is a very nice idea and I would vote for that. I'm not very creative, so I can't come up with any others... Just the fact that you guys are making an effort to remember their baby will undoubtably mean a lot.

jrebele

I think that is a wonderful thought and that the parents would be deeply touched.  I love when people acknowledge our loss - a few family members have made donations to St. Jude's in Sophia's name.  I like the bench idea the best and if it can't be installed by the time the anniversary comes maybe you can all light a candle in your front window on the day of to show that you are thinking of them.

calibride2005

All the ideas you suggested are very thoughtful. I like the planted tree idea best.

lrichmond86

I think one year is the perfect time to do something in her memory! I like all of your ideas, especially the tree. We will be planting a memorial garden in the spring in honor of our son. Something that will continue to grow year after year is really special to us loss moms. Kudos on being such a caring friend!