Surrogate

KAB414

Just curious if anyone has been a surrogate or would consider it? I've thought about it and I probably would if I knew the couple and wAs either good friends with them or related. And of course knew they would take good care of the child. What are your thoughts?

bigbootyjudi

I wouldn't be a candidate, with the previous miscarriages and the awful pregnancy progesterone suppositories caused me, but if circumstances were different, I would consider it. I wouldn't pick a couple I knew though because I feel like, regardless of what people say, if you carry a baby inside of you for nine months, there is no way you can be emotionally detached from it. So, to have a baby and then undetach myself from it, but still see it with it's parents all of the time wouldn't be an ideal situation, to me.

NerdyMama2

I think it's a great thing and admire people who do it.

AggieDaner

There are 3 people I would do it for because they are, for all intents and purposes, my sisters. I would not do it for a stranger, though.

mamahawk12

I would consider it if the circumstances were right. While I don't necessarily enjoy being pregnant, I think it's an amazingly selfless thing to do for a couple in need. My postpartum nurse in the hospital has been a surrogate and is currently in her third surrogacy for a single dad with twin boys and she really inspired me.

ETA: let me clarify, I would consider being a gestational carrier, not a surrogate.

merricksmom

I would do it for one of my best friends or my sister only. Pregnancy is way too hard on my body.

Tula214

The reason I'm not sure if I want another of my own is because I don't want to go through pregnancy, labor, or delivery again. I think others who do it are brave, strong, angels. I don't think I could carry a baby for 9ish months, then hand it over.

ShelbehhRawrr

I want to do so for my brother and his wife. who are unable to have anymore by themselves.

 

But they are very anal and i feel like I wouldn't be able to breathe without them having a heart attack.

But It's still something I'm considering after I turn 18. 

CLeigh03

C_mo:

I would absolutely LOVE to! I love pregnancy, and I would really live to do that for someone, but my husband is very much weirded out at the thought of me having another couple's baby. Also, since Wyatt had SD I don't think I'm a candidate.

This exactly minus the SD. I would do
it in a heart beat...I have wonderful pregnancies and I can't imagine being able to give someone that gift. Unfortunately DH doesn't agree.

Cbarajas08

I would be a gestational carrier for a cousin who has had trouble TTC or my sister. I would even consider being a surrogate for my sister. The only thing that would deter me is that I would have to deliver via csection. I am not sure how many csections a women can safely have. I would want to make sure that I was done having my own too. A mom at the school I work at was a gestational carrier for a friend. Any women who does that is amazing!

mmdailey

I've already made this offer to my best friend who's having trouble conceiving.  If she finds that she's unable to do so, I will be her surrogate.  It would have to be her egg. She's been trying so long, I couldn't imagine saying no.  Plus, my pregnancy was pretty darn easy, so I think I'd be a good candidate.

ks3pink

Tula214:

The reason I'm not sure if I want another of my own is because I don't want to go through pregnancy, labor, or delivery again. I think others who do it are brave, strong, angels. I don't think I could carry a baby for 9ish months, then hand it over.

This exactly. I hate pregnancy and only dealt with it for the prize at the end.

hooslisa

gestational carrier-yes.  surrogate- no. 

DemoDoll

I had an awesome pregnancy and would consider it. A very close friend of mine has been trying for 1.5 years and doing IUI and hasn't had success. I plan to tell her I will be her surrogate if they find out she can't carry a baby or able to get pregnant.

ETA: I didn't know there was a difference. I wouldn't be able to surrogate for anyone, I would be a gestational carrier. There's no way I could let someone have my child, even with their husband's sperm.

gidge

Well, my eggs are crap (we had to use DE) so I'm not a candidate to be a surrogate.

In a different world I would be a gestational carrier because I loved being pregnant (even at the end when it started to hurt).  However, with our IF issues, I don't think I could do it.  Since we won't be pursuing pregnancy for our next child (too much financial risk) I don't think I could carry a child for someone else.

 

Also, I have to put it out there, if you are a surrogate it isn't your child that you're giving someone else.  It is their child 100% just using your egg. 

JayandEmm

I would do it in a heartbeat. Pregnancy was easy and I had absolutely no problems during labor. If someone asked me, I wouldn't hesitate. I would love to give someone this kind of gift.

Manda-Kay

I almost posted this question a while back after watching Rules of Engagement. I would love to be a surrogate. I had an easy pregnancy and labor. I'm not a candidate because I have to take "happy" pills even when pregnant.

erin234

I've always wanted to be a surrogate and hope to have the chance someday once I'm done having kids. I'd only want to do it for someone I knew though.