OK, I'm ready to lose my s hit over here. My mother says my 21 mo is all elbows and knees, as in she's always elbowing and kneeing us. This is not done maliciously, as far as I can tell. She wants to cuddle but will throw her head back, squiggle and wiggle, use her hands, feet, head, whatever, to put all her weight on us to reposition herself. This was annoying when I was pregnant but now with the baby (1 month) here, it's getting absurd.
Tonight she went to kiss him while I was feeding him and despite my best efforts, she head-butted him Not hard enough to cause injury and not with the intention of hitting him, but WTF, dude? How do I get her to chill out and what do I say when she's being a spaz?
She is warned when she is climbing, pushing, being rough and she gets time outs, but she's not getting the whole 'chill out' or 'stop being a spaz' thing because, you know, she's 2.
My other kids cuddle like it's their job. I out of my depth here. Suggestions? My poor baby is going to have to wear a full suit if armour for protection, isn't he?
Re: Help keep me sane - Discipline ?
Aw, now I feel like an a-hole, . She's a sweet kid, smart as they come, and definitely spirited. FTR, we don't necessarily punish her for being affectionate or not being Ms. Proper when dealing w/ the baby. We say a lot of 'That's sweet, honey, but you need to not touch his face.' as she's nearly mauling him and 'Honey, please don't climb on mummy, she's feeding the baby.' when she's scaling me like I'm a freaking mountain. There's also a lot of 'gentle, gentle' and modelling and a lot of removing her from the situation/distraction.
It's only when she goes from spirited to dangerous that we are struggling. I guess I'm having trouble articulating to her that some of the wiggly, spazy behavior is fine but there is a line and she is crossing it on the regular.
Blah, I'm newborn tired, toddler frustrated, and brain-dead with preschooler non-stop chatter. I fear I'm not explaining the issue as clearly as I want, lol.
As far as the wiggling. My DD1 has ants in her pants and that's the main reason she isn't allowed to sit with me when I'm feeding DD1. I need a extra hand to control her and when feeling DD2 I have no extra hands. Hang in there!!
I read this the other day but didn't respond, and this just came to mind:
Have you gotten her into any movement-based classes? Tumbling, yoga, dance? You might find that she's less spazy once she learns better control and use of her body. It comes harder for some people than others.
Thank you everyone for the responses. Yesterday was a bad day. I was a little more patient after hearing others have similar issues.
DH and I have talked about putting her in gymnastics/tumbling. The only thing keeping me from doing it sooner was the parent participation requirement on most classes for kids under 3 and that they are during the day, when DH works. Obvs I'm a little bogged down with the babe, so going to parent-child classes isn't so easy. However, tonight DH told me he'd take her to a gymnastics class this session. Yay! He's always been convinced she's going to be an Olympic gymnast. Seriously, I have unbelievable stories about this kid and her climbing. That is also why plunking her in a PnP isn't an option. I wish it was! She climbs in and out of those things for sport.
Remember me. I'll be back bragging about my gold medal winning gymnast in 2028!