I need advice from the Males.

colemangal85

Hey Guys, 

 I find my husband is frequently getting frustrated with our son. He doesn't like that he scrims when he holds him or feeds him. He doesn't like that our song tends to make a mess when he is feeding him his bottle. And some other little things here and there. I try to explain to him how I do things but I think he feels that I am telling him that the way he is doings things is wrong. Which I'm not. I'm just trying to help since he seems to be getting frustrated.

 So what would you want me to do if I was your wife? Should I just butt out and let him figure it out? Or am I just approaching it the wrong way?  

LuckyDad

A lack of sleep can definitely lead to frustration, and having a baby who seems not to appreciate his daddy by screaming is emotionally trying on a father. This will get significantly better with time.

Babies make a mess when they eat. It's why they have bibs and part of why people need so freaking many baby blankets. Your Husband needs to just suck it up and wear a towel on him if he needs to.

 The best time to offer suggestions on what works for you is not when he's holding a screaming baby and is feeling frustrated. It's when your husband is calm. There also needs to be a certain degree of just letting him try to figure stuff out for himself. There will be things he does his own way that are different than your method. Really though, you guys are about 2-3 months away from most of these issues fixing themselves as the baby gets a bit bigger.

DavidStamps

LuckyDad:

The best time to offer suggestions on what works for you is not when he's holding a screaming baby and is feeling frustrated. It's when your husband is calm. There also needs to be a certain degree of just letting him try to figure stuff out for himself. There will be things he does his own way that are different than your method. Really though, you guys are about 2-3 months away from most of these issues fixing themselves as the baby gets a bit bigger.

This. Wait until you both are calm and try to talk it out, but know that there are some things that we just need to figure out or go through on our own.  

inappropriatecraigger

If I was your wife I'd tell you to stop typing scrim.

liltrimshrugger

::Shrug:: tell him to stfu and deal with it. 

Coltsdad

LuckyDad:

 The best time to offer suggestions on what works for you is not when he's holding a screaming baby and is feeling frustrated. It's when your husband is calm. There also needs to be a certain degree of just letting him try to figure stuff out for himself. There will be things he does his own way that are different than your method. Really though, you guys are about 2-3 months away from most of these issues fixing themselves as the baby gets a bit bigger.

I also agree with this.  Kids, babies/toddlers especially, are messy by sheer nature when eating.   This may be one of those things where he may just need to figure it out on his own though.  He will eventually either do one of three things:

1) Figure it out on his own

2) Ask you for help/assistance

3) Give up and not want to do it.

Obviously the goal is not to get to #3, but if you see it headed that way, maybe when he's not eating, give advice or ask if wants/needs help.