Going solo?

Manda-Kay

I've been living with my parents for 2 months now while DH is away. I love all the help they give me like holding DS while I finishing getting ready for work, making dinner, doing our laundry, ect. But I'm about to go crazy!!! I love my parents but I really want to be in my own house doing my own thing. I do get out of my parents' house and go to my MIL's house once a week but it's not enough. To top it off, my dog and my parents' dog have gotten into a couple fights. What should I do? A part of me wants to move back home and see my parents once a week. Another part wants me to suck it up and stay so I can have extra help. Any advice or suggestions?

Amjones52

I guess my gut feeling would be to stay. DH went out of town for a while and no one in my family offered to even stop over and see if I needed any help, and it was tough. If I got along with my parents well enough to live with them, I'd probably stay with them for  the help and adult company. Bt you know best what will work for you and your lo.. Good luck deciding!

rp-chicago-mom

I'd want to kill myself living with my parents but my parents wouldn't be useful either. On the flip side, it was so tough hitting all of Howell's bases when H went on a business trip that I might be tempted to stay with them.

You work though and one of the things that drove me crazy was the lack of adult interaction. Maybe you can use some of that time to do me time activities too. If I had useful parents I might be inclined to leave him with them from time to time.

mmdailey

How much longer is your husband going to be gone? I think you should probably base your decision on that. I'm a single mom all the time and I visit my parents' house from time to time. It's nice when they lend a hand, but I couldn't ever live with them again.

jessalynn521

If you haven't even spent a week living in your house since your husband deployed I would give it a trial and just let your parents know you appreciate it, you just miss your home and would like to see if you could handle getting into a routine again at home.

See if you can do it, and if it is too hard you can always go back.

Hope you find something that works well for you! 

ks3pink

We were withy parents all summer. It sucked. I rather do it all on my own. That said my mom doesn't do babies so there was no help.

bigbootyjudi

I would move back home. I need my space, especially with DS. If you stay, only for the help, you're just going to miserable because you'll know you want to leave, so every little thing will be even more annoying than usual, KWIM? If you need help, I'm sure your parents wouldn't mind watching him for a few hours so that you can get things done.

nopegoat

My DF works OOT and is gone ranging from a few days to a month at a time so its just me, the boys, our two dogs, and the cat. Its tough some days but once you get into a routine its really not that bad. 

I would probably try doing it solo for a week or so and see how you like it. How far away are your parents? 

byrne15

I'd stay with my parents...

I feel like a single mom since I get up for work at 5:30am and come home at 12:30.  DH leaves for work at 1PM and comes home between 10:30 and midnight.

I am alone with both kids from 1PM til DH gets home (at which time I am hopefully sleeping).  I'd give anything to have extra help, even if it meant living with my parents.

Manda-Kay

jessalynn521:

If you haven't even spent a week living in your house since your husband deployed I would give it a trial and just let your parents know you appreciate it, you just miss your home and would like to see if you could handle getting into a routine again at home.See if you can do it, and if it is too hard you can always go back.Hope you find something that works well for you!nbsp;

I think I'm going to do a trial period. My MIL is 10 minutes away and my parents are 25 if I need anything. My plan is to spend one day each weekend with my parents and one day with my MIL. I do work so that will keep me busy. I don't know when DH will be home. I'm guessing October.

NerdyMama2

I'd stay. It's nice to have help with a baby. When DH was deployed, I had a rough time taking care of the kids. I was very lonely. I'd definitely stay with my parents.