2nd Baby

Tabbie11

Hi there! I've never thrown a baby shower before so Im a little unsure about etiquette. My SIL is pregnant with her second, and I'd really like to plan or at least help plan... She was a huge help for my recent wedding so I'd really like to play a role, But I saw something on here that implied after a first child, you dont get a shower for any more babies, is that really true? Her 1st little one is 2 now... Thank you for your help! 

PrimRoseMama

Darbie914:

A baby shower is to welcome to Mothertobe into motherhood. nbsp;Once she's had 1 child, she is a mother. nbsp;Therefore, I don't see the point of second showers except to get more gifts.

Agree. IMHO that is gift grabby. However, it is becoming the norm in some circles and so if you want to honor her with a shower then go ahead and host one.

We are having a MTB Party for our second child. It will be small and we are hosting the meal. If I get things I will be gracious and thankful. If not, no big deal, we are able and willing to provide for our kid.

Helenahhandbasket

Ditto PP's. 

If her LO is 2 she should still have most, if not all of her baby things.  What could she possibly need?

Could you host a meet the baby party after the new LO arrives?  Most people will still bring a small gift-- an outfit or some diapers -- to something like that even though it's not necessary.

I think your heart is in the right place, but IMO showers for second + babies are a no no.

rhubarb123

Darbie914:

A baby shower is to welcome to Mother-to-be into motherhood.  Once she's had 1 child, she is a mother.  Therefore, I don't see the point of second showers except to get more gifts, which I find extremely tacky.  She should still have most, if not all, of her baby gear from the first child.  If you wish to celebrate the second baby, throw her a Meet the Baby party after the baby has been born.  

To me, it doesn't matter if you are having a child of the opposite gender or if there is a gap in age.  If you know you are planning to have more than one child, you should a) get gender neutral items that work for both boy and girl and b) hold onto all of your baby things until you are sure you're done having children.   

I agree with this unless it is common in your family to have showers for babies after #1.  If that is the case then just make it small and don't invite all the same people that were invited to the first shower.  I also agree with the idea of the "Meet the Baby Party".  This would probably be more acceptable in that people are not required to bring a gift (although many do...clothes, diapers and wipes - mostly).