a PPD warning

hooslisa

subject:  a PPD warning

so all this talk about the 4 months wakeful stuff reminds me...

right after i had DD a friend, who has a 1 year old, was asking me about how i felt.  i told her i have never felt better emotionally in my life.  this was true.  she told me that she needed to go on meds for PPD at 4 months.  at the time, this seemed strange to me that it would take that long to rear its head.

it makes total sense now.

i, fortunately, am not suffering from PPD yet, but i just thought i would throw it out there as a warning if you are.  it's normal.

i can see how it happens.  we thought we had our new mom sh!t together.  then, suddenly our babies decided to wig the eff out while we are back at work and trying to deal with our other roles as well.  I am more tired now than i have ever been since having her.

i will also say, i think i take for granted how much better it makes me feel to have TB at times like these especially.  without it, i would probably think i had "spoiled her" or otherwise screwed her up and this is why she was acting this way all of a sudden.  there is great comfort and power in knowing you're not alone.  i thank you all for that.

smile50208

I agree completely!  I was doing fine and then at 4 months, WHAM, it hit me. PPD has reared its ugly head.  Between my husband out of work, my parents bickering, my issues with my brother, being busy at work, it all came crashing down on me.  My husband noticed before I said anything to him. I'm looking into getting help and talking to someone.

Amjones52

smile50208:

I agree completely!  I was doing fine and then at 4 months, WHAM, it hit me. PPD has reared its ugly head.  Between my husband out of work, my parents bickering, my issues with my brother, being busy at work, it all came crashing down on me.  My husband noticed before I said anything to him. I'm looking into getting help and talking to someone.

 

good for you! 

megmb24

I definitely see how that can happen around this time. The bump makes me feel more sane every day. Although it makes my family think I am crazy for referring to my internet group so often!

Mzbr

This is so true! I had no issues with PPD after DD birth! But when the 4 month wakeful hit things really changed! I was sleep deprived and sad that I was constantly fighting with DD to get her to sleep! Felt time every moment spent with her was a battle! To make matters worse I had stopped nursing around 3 1/2 months so hormonally I was a wreck! My husband finally said to me that he was worried about me and that I had to go talk with someone! He was so right! And him enforcing I go sounds harsh but was 100 the right thing to do! I met with a therapist a few times and will check in with them as needed! Just wanted to share that it did happen to me later! Thanks for posting this!

hooslisa

Mzbr:

This is so true! I had no issues with PPD after DD birth! But when the 4 month wakeful hit things really changed! I was sleep deprived and sad that I was constantly fighting with DD to get her to sleep! Felt time every moment spent with her was a battle! To make matters worse I had stopped nursing around 3 1/2 months so hormonally I was a wreck! My husband finally said to me that he was worried about me and that I had to go talk with someone! He was so right! And him enforcing I go sounds harsh but was 100 the right thing to do! I met with a therapist a few times and will check in with them as needed! Just wanted to share that it did happen to me later! Thanks for posting this!

it doesn't sound harsh.  it sounds like he's an awesome husband. 

i'm really glad that both PPers are getting some help. 

SpruceGrouse

Thank you for the reminder. I am struggling lately with things, I can see how it could happen. I went into a bit of a depression after that school shooting but I think I was about to go into one anyway and that just gave the push. I have come out of my depression this last week and it has been now getting very tiring with DS but I am still doing well.

I have been seen about mild depression before, it is a common post stroke side effect apparently. The midwives and public health nurse that come here for DS's check ups ask me about this. Everything seems to be ok overall but DH and I are aware to keep an eye. 

I hope those of you dealing with PPD have the support you need to get through it. 

Bemyselfandi

This is exactly what I was telling DH last week. I am highly upset that no one tells you to look out for PPD later than one month PP. I mean, I thought I was in the clear being over a month PP...they make it seem like it would rear it's ugly head immediately after childbirth. Then they don't tell you about the PPA...holy crap PPA. I mean, I am so crazy...I see it. That's bad, right? Anyways. I'm glad you posted this. I wish we all were informed more about this stuff.  Especially that we should look out for it 4 months in... Glad you're feeling fantastic! That's how I felt after I had Dax. I never expected to feel any different with another baby!

CLeigh03

What a great post. I really felt I was doing wonderful until the 4 month wakeful hit us hard. The school shooting didn't help...I was just so incredibly SAD and sleep deprived. I decided to wait until B passed the wakeful to see how I felt once I was sleeping again. Thankfully, I am more of myself but it was an incredibly hard month.

nicnac817

I  can relate to the sudden change in mood.. for me it was 3 month.  Baby girl wanted me all the time.  She was super fussy.  I was cooking, cleaning, taking care of the baby and DF... it was exhausting and made me feel sad. I just had to tell myself I was stressed and everything was ok.  Just as I was deciding it was time to talk to someone I started to feel better.  DD calmed down alot and started letting DF take care of her... DF started taking on more responsibilites at home and I started to feel human again.  It was such a relief.  So suffering from PPD around this time is totally understandable. 

I can say with certainty the TB helped ease my mind about alot of the feelings I was having.  It's nice to know that I am not alone in this crazy baby journey.. So I to thank the mamas of TB for helping me keep my sanity.

rp-chicago-mom

I rarely checked howell's breathing when he first came home and now I look at him like 30 times in the middle of the night. His sleep strike is getting a little better but I can't benefit from it if I look at him all night.

Then part of me feels great. I really am enjoying being a mom more than I thought I would. I think the pressure of being another's favorite person on earth is wearing on me though.

I guess I was H's favorite person but he was fine with going to work every day without me. Howell would prefer if I never left his sight. Separation anxiety has hit so hard he doesn't even want to be alone with H. I think the pressure of that is too much for me. I think, really kid, I'm not that great. Or I feel like I don't deserve such high regard.

KAB414

i can see how it happens.  we thought we had our new mom sh!t together.  then, suddenly our babies decided to wig the eff out while we are back at work and trying to deal with our other roles as well.  I am more tired now than i have ever been since having her.

 

I agree 100%. I was the same way. Feeling great until just a few weeks ago and now I feel like a total mess. Crying and feeling bitter and sad. I think part of it is the going back to work thing. I always wanted to stay home with my kids and it kills me to go to work everyday.

Mzbr

hooslisa:

Mzbr:

This is so true! I had no issues with PPD after DD birth! But when the 4 month wakeful hit things really changed! I was sleep deprived and sad that I was constantly fighting with DD to get her to sleep! Felt time every moment spent with her was a battle! To make matters worse I had stopped nursing around 3 1/2 months so hormonally I was a wreck! My husband finally said to me that he was worried about me and that I had to go talk with someone! He was so right! And him enforcing I go sounds harsh but was 100 the right thing to do! I met with a therapist a few times and will check in with them as needed! Just wanted to share that it did happen to me later! Thanks for posting this!

it doesn't sound harsh.  it sounds like he's an awesome husband. 

i'm really glad that both PPers are getting some help. 

He is a very awesome husband! 

Mzbr

Saltylove:

Thanks for posting this. PPD crept in at around 3 months for me. It felt like I had this mommy thing figured out, then DD started sleeping like crap, we started FF for her MSPI and I was still pumping. Suddenly it felt like I was drowning in motherhood. Things are better now, but I can totally relate to a later onset of PPD. It helps to remind myself that things will keep changing constantly, and this is a sign of DD growing, so it is a good thing. I was struggling with a lot of self doubt when DD's sleep regressed and we put her on formula. Her sleep regression is still pretty rough, but now that many of you are past it, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

We have very similar experiences! Sleep regression, MSPI, still pumping, FF! It sure was a ton to take on! I hope the regression gets better for you really soon!  

cedenton

Mine hit right at 3 months and now at 4, I feel like i might b coming out of it. Though, that depends on how bad his 4 month wakeful gets, i suppose.