So he emailed me again-
Didn't answer any of my questions, like what he planned on doing, if he wanted to be involved, if he had a job now or anything...
But he did say "If you think you're getting child support out of me you have a fight coming. I'm going to make them do paternity tests then laugh when you have to pay for it because I'm not the father, I am not able to reproduce" which is funny because he not only has some other girl pregnant right now too- a few months behind me- As well as he 'supposedly' had a baby with a girl when he was 19 and she ended up drowning the child because of PPD (this is the story he told me anyways) and If you read my last post- this guy is a habitual liar, so I can't take anything he says to heart....
Anyways- He also said he's not going to 'beg' me to be involved, because he knows I don't want him around... I've looked up his criminal history online & I now know that he has a ton of theft/robbery charges, as well as failure to appear in court, and a d.u.i. So with all of those charges, and the emails of him saying he's not going to try to be involved, the lies about not being able to reproduce, him saying he'd meet up with me, but then not showing- I will have a pretty easy time in court- not only getting sole custody, but getting child support awarded. (not that he's going to actually pay it but hey in my state they take liens on houses, pay checks, taxes and eventually arrest people for non payment)
So my next step is get a lawyer or family assistance, and get a dna test then get the ball rolling- I highly doubt he will ever show to court.
Re: Update on the BD email situation-
Agreed! I'd say, yup your right, your not my babys dad.
See that's what I was thinking for so long! Then everyone convinced me I needed to 'give him a chance' to be involved, & that I also need to file for child support- whether he wants to be involved or not... So that way IF he ever did get a job, or try to turn in taxes or anything- that the baby would get something from it... I would never depend on it or anything, just be a surprise when I got a payment & would be able to put it towards college savings or something nice for my son...
Anyways- we'll see how it all plays out! Thanks ladies
I appreciate having a place to vent, not really anyone I can talk to about this stuff in my life- Don't want to weigh anyone down with the crazy/sad situation
which one of these scenarios is better for your baby....
1) the drama and stress of dealing with the courts to possibly, maybe, at some point get child support out of him?
2) forgetting he exists and focusing on being the best mom you can be to your LO and providing a happy environment?